Sharing room on a work trip

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I’m going on a work trip that involves an overnight stay. On the original request form, I said I did not want to share a room and would happily pay the difference to have my own room. A recent email said that attendees would be sharing twin rooms in the hotel. I do not know anyone else attending. AIBU to not want to share a room with a stranger? I don’t even share a room when I go away with good friends!

Of course but to never have ever been in one once as she mentioned holidays/trips.
We don’t often stay in them for a whole holiday but we’ve had many a stay in one for a road trip, airport, visiting family etc

No way. No how.

There was a similar thread a while ago.

Either single rooms or I would not be going. I also wouldn't be paying extra to achieve this.

Me neither
email them back and say it’s not acceptable and that you won’t be going unless they can guarantee you your own room and you want an email confirmation from the hotel for said room booking with your name on it stating SINGLE OCCUPANCY

No, I was forced into this situation when I was younger, with a total stranger sharing a hotel room at a conference ( female)

I was in bed when she waltzed in with a load of people.

The men that I knew, who I had travelled with, had gone off to a nightclub, so I was left alone all night.

I was not happy, with a group of strangers walking into the room, she was not a nice person .

I would refuse to accept this situation now

In fact this happened twice to me, the second time, my room mate and I were spending a few days together, and she was much nicer, but still, grown women who had never met before, and very little privacy.

An absolute hard no from me. I wouldn’t be going.

no It absolutely is not how these things work. I’ve bed shared a room in my entire (long ) working life and have never been asked to. Absolute hard 💯 no

I wouldn’t engage with any of this. I’d book a Travelodge and pay for it myself.

They could rates as many eyebrows as they want, my answer these days would be no fucking way. Own room or I'm not going!

When I was younger I happily shared with colleagues. But wouldn't anymore. I wouldn't like to inflict my post menopause over heating, naked sleeping, snoring on anyine 🤣🤣

Do they at least expect colleagues to be same gender? What happens if uneven numbers? Trans?

Years ago I worked for a company (500+ people) who once every couple of years organised company conferences, and they wanted us to share (team spirit, team cohesion....) A lot of the younger colleagues were up for it, however it was not obligatory, just voluntary, they managed to get enough people sharing by advertising/propaganda/peer pressure.
I do understand it is easier (and cheaper) to book 250 twin rooms, compared to 500 singles. Wonder whether management was leading by example?

I don't think it's the absolute outrage that some comments seem to think it is. It's just somewhere to sleep really. If everyone moans about it then the company might alter it to single rooms though.

I travel for work, often in groups. I have never shared a room/been asked to share a room (or a bathroom). No way would I do that.

WTAF. NoooOoooOoooO.

How stingy.
Very inappropriate and I wouldn't be going.
So much for dignity at work.

I have chosen to stay in dorms when travelling alone - I've even stayed in mixed forms a couple of times. But I've only ever had my own room when on work trips. I work in a male-dominated industry, and I have usually been literally the only woman on work trips, and they wouldn't make me share with a man. Probably they wouldn't...

(I've shared rooms/beds a couple of non-work trips with colleagues in the past, mind you, but that was our choice and our expense.)

This happened to me once at a startup pre covid for a weeks conference in the US. I went along with it because I was new. Because I was the only female in the UK team I had to share with a woman I had never met before (or since) from a different country. She had recently had a baby and spent every evening crying on the phone. It was incredibly awkward and incredibly unpopular. Most of the men booked single rooms and made up the cost through bogus expenses. Two men had a massive fallout over one of thems excessive snoring keeping the other awake. They had to swap rooms with a manager and eventually the poor snorer booked a single room at a nearby hotel. When they asked for feedback on the week (couple of hundred people from all over the world) every single person complained about the sharing situation and they issued a company wide email saying we have heard you and we wont do this again.

What I remember in particular is that it was a very full on week with sessions starting at 8.00 and running until 17.00 (it was actually a tech summit rather than a conference so a strong training/new information component) and I really felt the need to go back to my room during the breaks to have a mental break/downtime before the next session and every time I did, this strange woman was already there yammering away or crying on the phone. It really ruined my experience and hampered my learning. I'm amazed a big multinational that will have a deal with the hotel chain is trying to enforce this. Everybody hates it.

Demanding a single room smacks of being a teenager, rather than a professional adult.

You sound like someone who has never done a job which doesn't involve sitting at a desk.

I had to, once at a work offset. They brought us all to what is a fairly expensive hotel on the South Coast (Chewton Glen) for 2 nights and I had to share with my boss. Didn’t love it but I was junior at the time so didn’t feel like I could question it.
I’d question it now though. By that I mean a hard no.

Went on a school trip. Had to share a bunk room with 8 teachers, mixed sex. Absolutely horrendous.

99% disagree with you!

NOT demanding a single room from a huge company smacks of being a pushover grunt with no self respect.

Sharing rooms was totally banned at my work 20 years ago. I would book my own and take the hit financially if my attendance was mandatory

(Shame my work banned it as I took great delight in putting 2 nasty bullying bosses who hated each other in the same room when I was booking it for them 🤣)

I go away for work usually every month, many of these are over nighters, I’ve been doing this for about 25yrs, I’ve never once shared a room. It’s a hard no from me.

I think being a dorm would actually be better than sharing a twin room.

Except you don't necessarily have any say about who your colleagues are, and I am not sure some of mine should be let out in public, let alone share a room.

I swear I read this exact thread almost word for word a few months ago on here