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AIBU to think writing confidential HR notes on a train is inappropriate?

315 replies

Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:19

I am on a train in the UK.

Someone on the seat in front of me is writing up meeting notes from work. All clearly visible through the gaps between seats. I am slightly long sighted mind you.

I have seen that:

  • She works in HR for company X
  • The meeting was for an employee named Y (I can see his name and job title), following him raising a grievance about a GDPR breach of his data within work.
  • Subsequent notes of the meeting about this grievance.

She's still typing her notes now.

AIBU for thinking that people should be very mindful of what work they complete in public places? And that this is inappropriate, and if Y found out that these notes were being written in full public view, they would have a further grievance on their hands?

Or am I a nosey parker?

(Or both?)

OP posts:
Inmyuggs · Today 04:19

Look out the window instead of being so nosy!

MsDitsy · Today 06:40

Backedoffhackedoff · 28/05/2026 17:28

i wouldn’t think twice about this. I do think its really odd you’ve been reading it between the chairs- you must really be looking.

what section of GDPR do you think it’s breaching?

I think it's really odd that you think it's odd. Things catch your attention on train journeys. I can't read on a train, looking out of the window is OK for a while. I once saw a man watching porn on his laptop through the gap in the seats. If he had been watching something gross or child related you can bet your bottom dollar that I would have been on the phone to BTP.

If I knew the name of the person and the company, I'd contact the person and tell them I'd be a witness if they needed me to. What if it had been something much more personal?

Shoola · Today 07:11

There are many inappropriate things that people do on trains that are actually annoying: full volume scrolling, vaping, feet on seats, smelly food, speaker phones. You sat behind someone who is a bit crap at their job.

JuliettaCaeser · Today 07:42

I once sat in a 4 seat table seat with 3 strangers who were women on a jolly day trip to London when one thought that was a good time to challenge one of the others about her DDs being mean to her own dd 🙈. God it was cringe and I wasn’t even involved!

Ofchris · Today 07:45

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 18:46

It’s not a place to work whilst on a train! Why was the person doing it?

I travel regularly for work, I always request a table seat and work on my journey. It gives me the chance to prepare for my day, catch up on emails when I have been out all day etc. I can’t justify staring out the window when I have so much work to get done. They have table seats so that people can work on trains.

Witchonenowbob · Today 08:38

Ofchris · Today 07:45

I travel regularly for work, I always request a table seat and work on my journey. It gives me the chance to prepare for my day, catch up on emails when I have been out all day etc. I can’t justify staring out the window when I have so much work to get done. They have table seats so that people can work on trains.

Excellent idea to be working extra hours and your work load be to high to prepare for your day at work!

Which is why employers expect it from everyone!

Im not sure the tables are there for “working” at particularly, they’ve been there forever, long before the working on the train culture.

Gwenhwyfar · Today 09:43

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 19:57

I care because I’m on this thread and shocked at the lack of empathy that people have about people that are wronged.

I care if I hear about a child abused and would have empathy and report, about a woman physically abused and report and anyone emotionally abused and report. This is about a person being “outed” because someone is so lazy they don’t take care of confidentiality, don’t work in a secure area.

Your reference to being “Stasi” is abhorrent.

Your comparisons are abhorrent. Someone not complying with her workplace rules is hardly the same as abusing someone.
Reporting someone to their employer for this kind of thing is also disgusting.

Witchonenowbob · Today 09:49

Gwenhwyfar · Today 09:43

Your comparisons are abhorrent. Someone not complying with her workplace rules is hardly the same as abusing someone.
Reporting someone to their employer for this kind of thing is also disgusting.

They were relevant to the poster I was replying to who referred to me as “Stasi” the post has justifiably been removed.

And someone’s privacy should be safeguarded.

Gwenhwyfar · Today 09:57

Witchonenowbob · Today 09:49

They were relevant to the poster I was replying to who referred to me as “Stasi” the post has justifiably been removed.

And someone’s privacy should be safeguarded.

I think it's my post that was deleted. I did refer to Stasi, but not aimed at one particular person, aimed at anyone who would report people to their employer's for procedural mistakes nothing to do with them.

Witchonenowbob · Today 10:00

Gwenhwyfar · Today 09:57

I think it's my post that was deleted. I did refer to Stasi, but not aimed at one particular person, aimed at anyone who would report people to their employer's for procedural mistakes nothing to do with them.

Sorry I didn’t realise it was your post, I won’t be answering again! Glad the post was deleted though!

AquaLeader · Today 10:25

I didn't say this was breaching GDPR. Just general confidentially and conduct rules

🙄

Quercus5 · Today 10:27

YANBU. Completely inappropriate for her to be writing confidential notes in a public space. Yes, it would be entirely reasonable for you to contact the company.

I have often travelled on trains for work, and you have to select what work you do.

Cloudtime · Today 10:28

At some point this stops being “the information was visible” and starts being “I spent a good chunk of my train journey reading a stranger’s screen.”

Should she be more careful with confidential information? Possibly. But you’re hardly making the case that people can't read it when you’ve managed to compile a detailed briefing note on a complete stranger’s employment dispute from the seat behind.

The fact that it’s visible wouldn’t really be a problem if people like you didn’t exist .

blubberyboo · Today 10:30

Cloudtime · Today 10:28

At some point this stops being “the information was visible” and starts being “I spent a good chunk of my train journey reading a stranger’s screen.”

Should she be more careful with confidential information? Possibly. But you’re hardly making the case that people can't read it when you’ve managed to compile a detailed briefing note on a complete stranger’s employment dispute from the seat behind.

The fact that it’s visible wouldn’t really be a problem if people like you didn’t exist .

The reason GDPR laws and now the Data (Use and Access)Act, exist is because persons become at risk for all sorts of reasons when companies are careless with their data.

EBearhug · Today 10:47

Cloudtime · Today 10:28

At some point this stops being “the information was visible” and starts being “I spent a good chunk of my train journey reading a stranger’s screen.”

Should she be more careful with confidential information? Possibly. But you’re hardly making the case that people can't read it when you’ve managed to compile a detailed briefing note on a complete stranger’s employment dispute from the seat behind.

The fact that it’s visible wouldn’t really be a problem if people like you didn’t exist .

But people like this - and people who will act in worse ways than merely starting a thread on MN - do exist, and that is why GDPR laws exist and why anyone working in a public space, be it a train or anywhere else, should be very selective about what they work on in those spaces.

Even in the office, I think work on things like disciplinaries/grievances/health records/ promotions/payrises/redundancies, etc, those docs should be worked on in private areas, not the main open plan areas that most offices tend to be in these days.

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