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AIBU to think writing confidential HR notes on a train is inappropriate?

315 replies

Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:19

I am on a train in the UK.

Someone on the seat in front of me is writing up meeting notes from work. All clearly visible through the gaps between seats. I am slightly long sighted mind you.

I have seen that:

  • She works in HR for company X
  • The meeting was for an employee named Y (I can see his name and job title), following him raising a grievance about a GDPR breach of his data within work.
  • Subsequent notes of the meeting about this grievance.

She's still typing her notes now.

AIBU for thinking that people should be very mindful of what work they complete in public places? And that this is inappropriate, and if Y found out that these notes were being written in full public view, they would have a further grievance on their hands?

Or am I a nosey parker?

(Or both?)

OP posts:
DugnuttEyeBoogies · Yesterday 13:12

BanditTheCat · 28/05/2026 22:46

I haven’t read all the comments but as someone who had a fairly long career in HR, it isn’t breaking any law, and honestly that person was probably just trying - like a lot of people in the corporate world - to use an opportunity where there’s a bit of dead time and they’re not being interrupted to get on top of their work. HR people do work on trains as well as other people do. Just because it’s HR and we deal with work confidential to the company, doesn’t mean just because someone’s taking a peek at that work that we’ve breached any type of ethics. And people saying “Ring the company!” are the same type of people who comment on threads about not being able to put offers in on houses that are already sold by offering the solution of “Just knock on the door and demand a viewing.”

How long ago was your career in HR????? The 1800’s??

MiaKulper · Yesterday 13:33

@BanditTheCat , it isn’t breaking any law but it is.

Glasgowgal200 · Yesterday 17:58

I once overhead someone talking on the phone on a bus a few years ago about an employee wanting time off because their child was off sick from school and no-one else was available to look after them and the other person was saying it wasn't their problem and they had to still come in anyway

mangoamango · Yesterday 18:02

Last year, I took a train for work. As the train was about to leave, 2 Very Important Business Men crashed into the carriage, speaking very loudly and paying very little attention to their surroundings. They found their seats a couple of rows from me and proceeded to spend the entire 2 hour journey finalising their presentation, discussing their pricing strategy, what their known weak points were and how they were going to divert attention from them. All very loudly and in great, great detail.

If they had paid just a little more attention to their surroundings, they would have seen me, recognised me as their former colleague who had left the company 2 months ago and worked out that I was highly likely to be travelling to pitch for the same project as them (they had even quoted my departure as one of the things that they wanted to avoid talking about).

If they had been a little bit more considerate of their fellow travellers on the 6.30 am train, I might have taken pity on them and said something.

The look on their faces when they saw me as we were getting off the train suggested that they will never make that mistake again.

Forevergardening · Yesterday 18:09

In my line of work we do an annual gdpr refresher course and this type of scenario is part of the training. Its very wrong and breaches gdpr

Muffinme · Yesterday 18:09

I was going into work on the train about 10 years ago. Packed to the brim with commuters. An aged 30ish man was talking loudly to a mate on his phone. “Yes I’m at Name of Company now” he says - friend says something - “Yes I’m enjoying it, but all the women I work with are ugly” he replies sounding really quite annoyed. Well know insurance brokers in the City.

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 18:18

Ritaskitchen · 28/05/2026 17:22

She needs a privacy screen for her computer. Maybe just don’t look anymore. Or let her know? She maynot realise.

Maybe she should realise and manage her own security and not expect the world to turn a blind eye! Because they won’t!

Gwenhwyfar · Yesterday 18:26

Elphabababa · 28/05/2026 17:36

That's fine 🤣 I can accept that I'm nosey.

But I'm not the one with an obligation for this man's confidentiality.

Exactly so it's none of your business.

ChocolateCinderToffee · Yesterday 18:37

I used to work in the public sector and we were specifically trained to be careful about things like this. It amazes me that so many people don't realise they can be overseen or overheard in cafes or on public transport.

Waspy43 · Yesterday 18:38

SandwichSuperstar · 28/05/2026 17:34

I think the consensus was 'get your nose out of the gap between the back of the seats'.

But that's relying on memory.

Exactly this ! Stop being nosey and look out the window or read a book , it has nothing to do with you

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 18:45

Waspy43 · Yesterday 18:38

Exactly this ! Stop being nosey and look out the window or read a book , it has nothing to do with you

Stop working on a train in a non private area! Work at work not making up time whilst travelling.

Dancingintherain09 · Yesterday 18:45

AndyBurnhamForPM · 28/05/2026 17:21

I would contact the company and complain.

Same, writing up a GDPR issue while creating another 🤦🏼‍♀️

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 18:46

Gwenhwyfar · Yesterday 18:26

Exactly so it's none of your business.

It’s not a place to work whilst on a train! Why was the person doing it?

floatinginacoolpool · Yesterday 18:46

Dancingintherain09 · Yesterday 18:45

Same, writing up a GDPR issue while creating another 🤦🏼‍♀️

It could be a line in an Alanis Morissette song Grin

Waspy43 · Yesterday 18:47

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 18:45

Stop working on a train in a non private area! Work at work not making up time whilst travelling.

This is funny made me laugh ! 😆

Backinajiffy · Yesterday 18:47

Complaining to the company is just snide and cowardly.
Tell her ( politely) to her face.

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 18:48

Dancingintherain09 · Yesterday 18:45

Same, writing up a GDPR issue while creating another 🤦🏼‍♀️

I’d try to find the person on LinkedIn and tell them, or the person writing up the report and post about them and their indiscretions!

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 18:49

Waspy43 · Yesterday 18:47

This is funny made me laugh ! 😆

Would make me laugh more, when I reported them! How funny on LinkedIn saying you can vouch for their indiscretions! Brilliant!

Ole34 · Yesterday 18:50

See it all the time. Nothing ever gets done though. I was on a train not too long ago and was sat diagonally to a man who from what I could gather was a surgeon for the NHS. He had on his screen a zoomed in email replying to it. It had the patient details (his name and DOB) and what operation he was getting and where. I was honestly flabbergasted.

Wildefish · Yesterday 18:57

AndyBurnhamForPM · 28/05/2026 17:21

I would contact the company and complain.

Really…

Topsy44 · Yesterday 19:03

ElectricSnail · 28/05/2026 20:06

Can’t begin to imagine wanting to cause a stranger a whole world of potential pain/disciplinary action by reporting them.

This.

Viviennemary · Yesterday 19:05

Stop peering through gaps in seats. Honestly some folk!

Raciney · Yesterday 19:06

I saw someone on the train writing an email to tell someone else that they’d be making large scale redundancies. I could see the company, it was a big one. I was standing and he was seated. People (usually men) have no self awareness.

JuliettaCaeser · Yesterday 19:07

Exactly Electicsnail! Why create a load of stress and misery for the woman. Can’t imagine having this busy body tell tale mindset. It’s like Americans suing people all the time. How does it harm you?

Witchonenowbob · Yesterday 19:07

Topsy44 · Yesterday 19:03

This.

Can you imagine having your “indiscretions” at work, being openly available on a train?

I mean why was the person working on a train? Why would their employer expect this?