To be pissed off by husbands reaction

[Allthedays1]

Was making dinner earlier. We have an open plan kitchen lounge with sink in the middle. I accidentally set the baking paper on fire on the gas flame all along the side of it. . Start saying "fire fire" husband doesn't move or anything. I chuck it in the sink and manage to put it out. He still says nothing. Then is all " oh is there a fire? I didn't see it". Still doesn't get up till I ask him to open the windows so the smoke alarms don't go off. Still says " he didn't see it. Our daughter pipes up " I saw it". The room now stinks.

Then son comes down for dinner and I mention just had a fire and he asks how big it was and my husband says " oh like a candle"
Which isn't true, when I say why have you said that he's " I'm joking" you're so dramatic".

I find it really undermining he always says " I'm joking" he will say every couple of months to our son that " he wish he never had kids" but oh he's joking...

I'm also not sure why some women pride themselves on being so incapable in minor situations that they need a man to rescue them and take over.

Honestly, we've got enough men who consider women to be inferior and incapable and in need of 'protection'. We don't need women who seek to prove them right over a minor kitchen mishap.

I’m not sure I would call that a fire either. I’d just have smothered it and put it in the sink, then opened a window. This happens not infrequently in our house with paper, oven gloves, tea towels etc. I think he might be a bit over your dramatics. I have friends like this who can’t do anything calmly and quietly and I find it very wearing over longer periods.

I can’t comment on the thing about kids, but I do absolutely joke with mine that my favourite holiday was “all the ones I had before kids”, that a friend without kids is “a very sensible woman” and that I am going to move to a remote cabin to escape them all once the youngest turns 16. I am genuinely joking, and they know it though.

The fire sounds like a bit of a non event but this is horrible unless your son also thinks it’s funny:
He will say every couple of months to our son that " he wish he never had kids" but oh he's joking...

This is a bit of a strange post. The fire barely counts as a fire. I agree with the candle comparison the husband made earlier. I agree with others that the OP is being overly dramatic.

However, I sense undercurrents where OP is struggling with some task, in this case cooking dinner, while her DH is just sat with his thumbs up his arse, observing and being quietly, almost maliciously amused while deliberately withholding assistance.

I would like to hear more about the dynamics of your relationship OP? Because this anecdote has a tip of the iceberg what sank the Titanic about it.

You sound like a massive drama queen to me, and my default reaction to people flapping and being dramatic over nothing is simply to stay completely impassive and let them deal with it rather than getting involved, so I think I'm with your husband here.

Groan, also known as pleas tell me your marriage is shit.