To have lost my shit over a fan heater?

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I woke up around 3:00 needing a wee and DP wasn't in bed. I went downstairs and he's asleep in his chair with a fucking fan heater blasting on him. We have had many words about this bloody heater and his inappropriate use of it and I gave threatened to get rid of it several times. The reasons I am furious are:

It is hot - was 27 yesterday
It's a waste of electricity and we can't afford it right now
He also had an actual fan blasting on him too (WTAF)
He has made me so cross I can't get back to sleep, which is making me even angrier.

Yes I'm very hormonal at the moment but who the fuck uses a heater in the middle of a heatwave??

I completely understand your concerns. Could he use a heat pad instead of a fan heater? They are FAR cheaper to run, and much safer (especially if he's using a fan heater to sleep, there is a fire risk). My work place recently condemned a load of fan heaters and banned them from use in the office due to fire risk (and ridiculous running costs).

Amazon have loads of heat pads that cost about 1-2p per hour to use. I use mine all the time when i get back from work after cycling home in the cold weather. I given them to all my elderly relatives too as they are very safe and cheap to use.

This is my thought, exactly. I would try to help him with his heating preference instead of getting upset about it and begrudging it. I just don't understand it and wondering if I'm missing something or if sleep deprivation is making OP angry. As I said, I completely relate to that. DH face gets on my nerves after no sleep but I wouldn't begrudge him his creature comforts under normal circumstances!

It costs about 30p an hour to run a fan heater so you're furious over about £1.50

No, never.

It depends on the KW of the heater. 2KW heaters cost more to run.

Right ok, but it also depends what time he got out of bed and put the heater on.

I mean, I'm not that pedantic over a few pence but clearly you are.

So it's cost between 30p and 55p an hour to run his fan heater.

Assuming he got out of bed at 10pm and it was therefore running for 5 hours the OP is getting in an irrational fume over a sum of money between about £1.50 and £2.75, which either way is ridiculous.

This, he’d have to be a strange fish indeed just to be doing this to annoy you! I have Raynauds and could see myself doing this after working in a freezer with heat directed on extremities and cool on face!

It's advised to not use fan heaters whilst asleep. They are a fire risk.

This would be my main concern and i'd ask him to use a safer alternative like a heat pad, which are safe to use whilst asleep and cost a fraction of what it takes to run a fan heater.

Which is the same as the cost of a packet of fish fingers.

We don't know what OPs budget is like, she could be running up debts bc they are living beyond their means. There are many people out there right now who are stuggling to cover the cost of basics. Maybe she shouldn't have got so upset, but the fact that costs are such a sore point and she's not getting any support from dp who's putting his head in the sand, suggests to me the money situation is a problem.

Ignoring the cost for a moment, is your living room not not hotter than the surface of the sun? That is what would piss me off.

If its one of those little fan heaters its massively expensive to run and not very safe to leave unattended (which includes if you're asleep).
A fan heater in this heatwave though, does he have a medical problem?

I had to laugh at this OP because I thought I was the only one who absolutely hates THE FAN except my husband doesn't have a heater fan its just the normal one but he has it pointing on us in the middle of winter. My anger gets really bad around my period over the fan aswell I can't stand it. He did stop it for a bit when I had a chest infection and I really played on the fan making it worse, I thought id seen the back of it but hes made sure its creeped back in. So I totally understand the anger that you can't sleep your definitely not being unreasonable in my eyes x

I wouldve binned it sorry

Why would you not even consider taking him to the Doctor. If he does not go then seek advice from the Doctor yourself in private.

Your hormonal fine, what is not to say your husband isn't either or, has some kind of hormonal issue also.

Beyond joking, it has been proved some couples are so attuned to one another that each can experience what the other is going through. There have been studies of girls in boarding schools also.

Despite his job it sounds abnormal. Rather than moan try and find the cause.

I would have been a bit cross that he was heating up the house but that’s all . I have 2 fans in most of our rooms . Last night in 3 occupied bedrooms there were 5 fans .

Out of interest, would you prioritise your fans over other expenses if you had money worries? I mean, if you were actually worried about paying your electricity bill, would you prefer to cut down on travel costs, or food bills, for example?

You don't actually have to answer this question. I just get the impression that most of the people on this thread don't get that the OP is worried about trying to keep her bills down bc they can't afford it.

It’s 28 C or thereabouts, OP and partner need to lower bills and husband is sitting with an expensive to run fan heater and another fan.
Objectively it would appear to be odd behaviour.

I would be very worried about the fire risk tbh. If he can't operate something properly that has the potential to kill you/burn the house down then it should be thrown out. But I would buy him a heated throw to use instead as they cost pennies to run and heat the body rather than the room.

I'm not surprised you are angry OP.

Falling asleep on the sofa with the actual fire or a fan heater on was one of the many things my soon to be ex husband used to do. No longer have to worry about my bills and fires starting.

Sensory enjoyment? I love a hot car heater and cold air coming in the window. So maybe it was that? Still unreasonable falling asleep with hearing on or having it kn at all in a heatwave. At least the hot air in my car comes free

If a family had two cars, one which returned 40mpg, and the other 1mpg, no one would think it was weird to moan about the less fuel-efficient one. The only weird thing would be having bought it in the first place.

A heated throw is a better solution to direct heat. My DD works in a fridge and uses one, along with heat pads etc. You get literally chilled to the bone. I'm wondering if he has got used to the noise from the fridge and that's what he is recreating. There are apps that will do the same. It's the heater that's the issue, posters on hear can't imagine £20 a week, spent unnecessarily, being a problem.