Does food have this effect on everyone? Or only people with issues

[Moretan]

Made shwarma with all the trimmings today for dinner. Including homemade flatbread. Really put the effort in. Asked dh to buy avocado on the way home as I am currently on keto and will only have the chicken with salad and guacamole.

dh came home empty handed. Said the corner shop were out. He walked past a coop and express on his way home from the st. Not to mention being at London Victoria when I sent the text. It really put me in a bad mood as that meant I only had chicken with rocket for my supper. The guac dressing really makes the dish for me.

I plated up for the kids but just didn’t want any in the end. I was so pissed.

Ended up taking myself to McDonald’s. Ate in the car. The meal literally turned my mood around. Like an off switch to the anger. I was thinking literally nothing else can do this for me. Not even a glass of wine.

can food turn everyone’s mood around or only people with food issues/addictions. I wouldn’t necessarily say im addicted but I certainly lean on it when down in the dumps.

It affects my mood in the opposite direction. I crave junk food sometimes but never enjoy it as much as I expect to and often regret eating it.

Food can totally change people's mood. When we as a family have had a tricky/sad/tiring/fraught day, a good dinner can totally turn it around.

I'm obsessed with cooking and this is one of the main reasons why. What we eat is so much more than fuel.

Oh come on, he can’t make the shop have avocados if they’ve sold out!
The avocado wasn’t the main part of the meal,
she had chicken and salad.
OP could have had something else instead-peppers, tomato, cucumber?
Storming out and eating McDonald’s was a massive overreaction

Me too, but what did you eat at McDonald's? If can't have been any less carby. I can't eat there. (Their 'salads! aren't great)

ud have had 'no avocado' rage too.

Gosh, is that not really uncomfortable for those with you. Very odd.

Hdd ed could gave nought it at ind if the 'otooer' dhoos he walked past instead if leaving it to get at the bloody corner shoo

when you can't eat carbs the avocado is a pretty big part the meal, and all he had to get. When she had made a lovely meal for then.

I you can go out for mcD's, you could have gone out for avocados. Eat what you want but that sounds like a massive overreaction. Deliveroo was another reasonable option, minimum spend for most supermarkets on there is £15 - you could have ordered something that would keep like tinned goods, drinks or alcohol.

He went to one shop, the one most likely to not have it, and walked past several others that were likely to have it. If he'd tried one of the more suitable shops and they didn't have any then sure, it's just stock issues. But he was being lazy and uncaring because it didn't affect him.

I feel like this sometimes in that without a particular thing the meal doesn’t feel right in some way (not even talking keto!)
But I wonder if maybe the change in mood is down to your DH being a bit rubbish about his efforts to get the avocado, surely having some vague awareness that it’s important to your meal. I’d be disappointed he didn’t bother to try find some instead of doing minimal effort as it likely impacts him less (and would’ve moved heaven and earth to get something he wanted and expect you to do the same). Maybe that’s not the case. Certainly being hungry makes me see the negative more than the positive!

I think its been shown that eating does kind of turn down the volume on difficult emotions.

I'm the opposite - eating makes me anxious and sad afterwards - before I eat I feel sharp and I think I want the food, but afterwards I wish I hadn't because I feel horrible. Doesn't matter what type of food - healthy or not, although feeling overly full does make it worse.

I can't say I've experienced this, the only effect food has on me is to make me not hungry if I was hungry, it doesn't affect my mood at all otherwise. Maybe there is a slight mood boost from sugar/chocolate if I'm really grumpy? I can't say I have noticed it but I do tend to crave chocolate when I'm premenstrual.

I do enjoy delicious food but I wouldn't say it makes me significantly happier. If I'm angry, upset etc I just lose my appetite. I don't want to eat at all.

I don't think there is anything though that is like an off switch for anger for me. Maybe music/time spent with friends? That's probably the only thing I can think of. I definitely don't get it from food as you describe, or wine either.

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He could have bought it at a proper shop he walked past instead of leaving it to get at the bloody corner shop
when you can't eat carbs the avocado is a pretty big part the meal, and all he had to get. When she had made a lovely meal for then.

@Moretan 2 protein burgers, no bun makes sense (I'm veggie so can't even do that). The veggie burgers are carby. But if I was you I'd have just had the chicken & something else from your food shop.

If this was reversed it would be called a red flag and dont let him talk to you like that and he could have gone himself, he is being controlling

You’re not eating enough and you’re restricting your diet so when you get stressed/hormonal, you binge. You’re hungry. Some people cope better with that than others, I personally turn into Joan Collins on the Snickers ad so have to eat regularly.

Being controlling because he couldn’t be arsed traipsing round shops for an avocado? Come off it. OP just needs to eat something more substantial than salad, see how much better she felt after her maccas!

I completely acknowledge its odd, and its totally my issue, but it's the reaction I have and I just can't help it. I've tried before to carry on, but even if the food is served anyway (I've had places refund my dish and still bring a fresh one out), its like a switch is flipped and I just can't eat it. My family are used to it now, and just let me get on with it and will enjoy their meal or eat if something has been remade.

I accept that I am weird about this, but its how I am and always have been. I probably shouldn't even eat out, or cook new things, but when it goes right I love it. It's just when it goes wrong it happens.

And it probably helps that I don't make a big deal out if it, or get stroppy or rude. A simple and polite refusal to continue is enough for me. Its when I eat something later like toast, I get stroppy with myself for being like it, but I don't know how to overcome it.

He offered to get it from deliveroo, you are being dramatic

Food going wrong does make me annoyed sometimes, but never in a million years would I have decided I wouldn’t eat the delicious shawarma chicken and salad I’d just made, and choose to go and get McDonald’s instead. I just can’t at all see how that is an improvement in any way.

If I was going to go out I’d go and get the avocado and make them wait for tea till I got back with it. I’d be a bit cross DH hadn’t got one but my DH is generally great at things like that so I’d just go and get it myself if I wanted it that much.

But you went to mc Donald’s…

I’d have been disappointed and annoyed as I can also be very particular about food once I’ve got my mind set on soemthing. But rather than drive to McD, I would have used the time to go the supermarket to get the avocado. Cheaper, healthier, nicer (especially as you’ve gone to a great effort to make the rest of the meal) and probably quicker as well. If it was walking distance from your home, it would only be minutes in the car. Feels to me as though by not eating any of the meal you’ve prepared, you’ve cut your nose off to spite your face.
How did your children react? It’s quite odd behaviour for a parent to cook a nice meal for everyone and then not eat it and go for McD alone instead.

I'm sorry but I think keto is made up bollocks so I think you should just have eaten the food you cooked and avoided the drama

I get being disappointed, but I feel a bit sorry for your husband. If

it's been stupidly hot today, and he's been travelling.

If I couldn't pick up one item from the shop and my husband dished up the kids tea and left I'd be really hurt.

If OP took the trouble to go to Macca's why not just get the avo at the shop yourself, go home and eat your healthy meal?
The post seems less about junk food used as comfort as opposed to saying F -it to the diet in a weird way to get back at DH. The are issues.

I can’t understand why you just didn’t pick up a avacado instead of going to McDonald’s? Did you literally just eat the inside of a burger (bun) and no chips?