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I'll get the salmon

286 replies

wand3rer · Yesterday 15:55

Any tiny little habits that make you feel a bit more “put together”?

For example, in a restaurant I’ll just say “I’ll get the salmon” instead of reading out the whole dish name exactly as it’s written on the menu (“salmon with roasted potatoes and vegetables”).

It’s such a ridiculously small thing but it makes me feel smoother 😎😂

What else?

OP posts:
ClaredeBear · Yesterday 16:50

You mean because there’s usually going to be one salmon dish on the menu, you just say “I’ll have the salmon, please” and the server knows what you mean without you having to read it out as it’s written on the menu. I understand what you mean.

I agree with @WhyWouldSomeoneDoThat- it’s lipstick for me.

UnderMirkwood · Yesterday 16:50

I feel put together if I am wearing smart shoes with a nice handbag and red lipstick.

nomas · Yesterday 16:51

wand3rer · Yesterday 16:03

Yes, the ‘please’ is a given. In both cases. That’s why I didn’t include it in my original post

That doesn’t make any sense.

It sounds like you think saying ‘I’ll get the salmon’ makes you sound assertive. It doesn’t.

Terriblytwee · Yesterday 16:51

My husband could be ordering a cheese sandwich and he’d still hold up the menu and point to it whilst reading out cheese sandwich from the menu. I judge hard.

SweetnsourNZ · Yesterday 16:52

Ponoka7 · Yesterday 16:13

Nope, get is American. I'd like, I'll have, is British, English.

Both sound fine to me. More likely to used get for takeaways though as in "shall we get Maccas:? I'm British living in New Zealand.

Tabarnak · Yesterday 16:53

’Can I get…’ ugh, ugh, wince in any ordering situation

MrsMitford3 · Yesterday 16:53

TTCbabynumber22025 · Yesterday 15:58

Are you American?

I thought exactly the same.

It comes across as very rude/wrong to my ears.

"I'll have the salmon please" or "i'd like the salmon please"

DancingNotDrowning · Yesterday 16:53

“The salmon, please” usually works just fine

likelysuspect · Yesterday 16:55

liveforsummer · Yesterday 16:39

It’s quite common for menus to offer a choice of sides so you’d say ‘can I have the salmon please with new potatoes and veg (as opposed to chips and salad for example) and asparagus (could be an optional extra with a small price up).

Thats not what OP is talking about though, the equivalent would be to describe the new potatoes as 'buttered boiled new potatoes with parsley' or whatever long winded unnecessary description chef has decided to give it, or the 'thick cut chunky thrice fried chip'
You would just say, I'll have the salmon and new potatoes please.

AlexaStopAlexaNo · Yesterday 16:55

May I please have…

NConthe · Yesterday 16:55

PyongyangKipperbang · Yesterday 16:48

People do! Worked in hospitality for years.

They order "the hand battered fish and chips please" or "the in house made steak pie please"

I have no idea why as there is only one type of fish and chips or steak pie on the menu, I could understand it if there was (say) a salmon en croute and a salmon risotto, but otherwise I dont get it!

Maybe because they want the fish and chips and and don’t want to risk another version turning up. You’re the waitress so you know the menu, I don’t want to read the whole thing to check there’s not a sneaky fish ciabatta somewhere on there.

If they order as it is named on the menu then they know they are getting the right thing.

hellogoodbyeandseeyou · Yesterday 16:55

wand3rer · Yesterday 15:55

Any tiny little habits that make you feel a bit more “put together”?

For example, in a restaurant I’ll just say “I’ll get the salmon” instead of reading out the whole dish name exactly as it’s written on the menu (“salmon with roasted potatoes and vegetables”).

It’s such a ridiculously small thing but it makes me feel smoother 😎😂

What else?

English is not my first language, but I’d never say that sentence..it sounds rude to me! 😅

Wauwinet · Yesterday 16:56

CurlewKate · Yesterday 16:40

”I’ll get..” is good US manners….

I live in the US and have only ever heard Americans say “I’ll have the… please” in restaurants. I’ve noticed that my younger male friends will say “Can I get” specifically when ordering in a drive through.

I’ve not spent time in the south though so if it’s used maybe it’s regional.

AeriatedAnna · Yesterday 16:57

Aaaaw OP, if the first few posters had agreed with you it would’ve been OK. Unfortunately, as soon as one gives an opinion on MN they all follow suite. So whatever you had said it would’ve been wrong.

MargaretThursday · Yesterday 16:57

"I'll get the salmon" is what I'd say if me and dh were shopping and dividing the shopping list. So he'd go one way and I'd go t'other to get the salmon.

In restaurants I think the only time I've heard someone read out the whole item is if they have a query about it (eg can I swap mash for fries), otherwise you'd shorten it to the easiest understood way (eg if there was only salmon you'd say "please may I have the salmon", but if there were more salmon options you might say "... the salmon with fries," or "... the salmon in a wine sauce."

MyDeftDuck · Yesterday 16:58

TTCbabynumber22025 · Yesterday 15:58

Are you American?

I wanted to ask the same actually. Basically, if I were to say ‘I’ll get the salmon’ it would refer to me going shopping and volunteering to go to the fish mongers and buy the salmon rather than my OH buying it.

Fruhstuck · Yesterday 16:58

NeverDropYourMooncup · Yesterday 15:57

Saying 'I'd like the salmon, please'.

Exactly! Sorry OP, but "I’ll get…" sounds rude and entitled to me. (Possibly it doesn’t come across like that if you are American?)

Edited to say: I see now that a number of others have made the same point!

traitorstraitors · Yesterday 16:59

I see where you are coming from, but it’s something I’ve ever thought of I usually eat out in Italian or Middle Eastern restaurants, or curry houses. So there’s loads of similarly based dishes with slight tweaks.

You’re probably getting the “together” vibe as that’s how they tend to order in movies.

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · Yesterday 16:59

Unless you are the waiter in this scenario you aren't getting the salmon. Saying "I'll get the salmon" sounds the very opposite of put together to me as it's not correct grammar

Daffodilsinthespring · Yesterday 16:59

You won’t get the salmon, you would like the salmon. The waiter will get you the salmon

Yellowpapersun · Yesterday 17:01

I assumed your post was going to be about someone offering to go to the fishmonger or supermarket.
I'd say 'I'll have the salmon please".

BeardySchnauzer · Yesterday 17:01

Well I just asked my teen and she said she would say ‘please can I get’ and countered that the waiter says ‘what can I get you?’ - I thought the answer should then be ‘please can you get..’ and she told me I was embarrassing and went back to whatever she was doing

Lifeomars · Yesterday 17:01

It's grammatically incorrect. To "get the salmon," you would have to enter the kitchen, put the salmon on a plate, and take it to your table. I would say "Please may I have the salmon" polite, concise and to the point

hellogoodbyeandseeyou · Yesterday 17:02

I thought this would be a fashion thread. Confusing.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · Yesterday 17:02

Taking the time to properly coordinate an outfit when there is no particular event or occasion.
Which probably makes me sound like an absolute mess. 😅

But when I have time and energy to truly consider all outfit options, coordinate bag, shoes, hairstyle etc. when I’m not going to a particular event? Simply for running errands, going shopping, meeting an old friend?
It’s such a lovely and “put together” feeling.