AIBU to think meeting a nursery dad at the park is fine?

[Whatthefork1]

AIBU or is my partner over reacting about me going to the park with a dad from nursery?

My children came out of nursery today and the dad in question was picking his two children up at the same time. We chat at drop offs and I have become friends with his wife- her and myself have taken the kids out for the day a few times now. He never comes and neither does my partner, it’s just us and the kids.

I had planned to take my kids to the park and my daughter overheard her friend saying they were going to the park too. So I asked the dad which park they were going to so that we could go to the same one for the kids to play together.

it wasn’t a preplanned thing and it was solely for the purpose of the kids to play together.

Am I bring unreasonable to think this is perfectly acceptable and shouldn’t be seen as something untoward? Or Because he is a man and not a woman, it’s not right?

Not unreasonable at all!

Literally zero issue.

I would be incredibly cross if my partner didn't trust me enough to go to the park with another man (and the children!) Of course it's perfectly acceptable.

Unless you started snogging by the swings I think this is fine. Hopefully you managed to restrain yourself.

Not unreasonable. But I've seen several threads asking about husbands meeting up with mums with the kids and that generally gets very frowned on. Who knows why lol.

Can't see any issue - as someone said, if trust isn't there, that itself IS an issue.
Unless you're having a snog by the swings, a rummage by the roundabout etc 😀

A shag on the see-saw?

How ridiculous! I think it says a lot about him as a man if he thinks a man and woman can't manage an innocent, platonic relationship even at a park with kids in tow!

Both of you could take your partners and swing on the swings .

Why wouldn't it be okay? Is your partner so controlling that you are afraid of platonic communication with another man?

A ride on the slide? 😂

My husband does the school run the majority of the time and walks back with a group of Mum's. I wouldn't have an issue if they went to the park - planned or not 😊

Who are the, admittedly small number,coffee people who agree with your husband 🤔?

You are a bit unreasonable for misusing a reflexive pronoun in "her and myself have taken" rather than "she and I have taken" but I don't see any issues with the substantive matter.

Is your partner usually controlling?

I can’t see any issue with your plan. I see a lot of issues with your partner though.

It’s so unreasonable for him to even comment on it. My husband does most of the school/social organising and I’m always delighted if the kids get to hang out with one of their friends. What exactly does he think is going to happen, it’s kind of baffling!

Why on earth would he have an issue with this?!?!

Does he not trust you?

A ride on the slide?

What would have happened if you had just bumped into him in the park OP? Would you have had to bundle your child home quickly before you were overtaken by lust?

Argh, jinx!

Is this a roundabout way of your husband saying he doesn’t trust you?

The way he is climbing framing this is all wrong.

Absolutely fine. You’re parents meeting up, not illicit lovers. A coffee at a cafe would be fine too.

Snigger. Honestly. I mean really.

Think fat thumb just clicked YABU. You’re not!!

Absolutely not unreasonable. My husband did a lot of the early childcare and we were always grateful for the mothers with a more friendly and mature outlook who included our children and him.