AIBU to think meeting a nursery dad at the park is fine?

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AIBU or is my partner over reacting about me going to the park with a dad from nursery?

My children came out of nursery today and the dad in question was picking his two children up at the same time. We chat at drop offs and I have become friends with his wife- her and myself have taken the kids out for the day a few times now. He never comes and neither does my partner, it’s just us and the kids.

I had planned to take my kids to the park and my daughter overheard her friend saying they were going to the park too. So I asked the dad which park they were going to so that we could go to the same one for the kids to play together.

it wasn’t a preplanned thing and it was solely for the purpose of the kids to play together.

Am I bring unreasonable to think this is perfectly acceptable and shouldn’t be seen as something untoward? Or Because he is a man and not a woman, it’s not right?

He sounds very insecure, or maybe he’s judging by his own standards and what he’d do if he went to the park with a mum.

A seeing-to on the see-saw surely?!

I’ve no idea. He has zero reason to not trust me and I’ve never felt as though he doesn’t and he has also never indicated anything trust issue is there. So I have no idea.

That’s really lovely and if the boot was on the other foot then I too would also be happy if mums included him, I don’t see any issue with it.

Hahaa! Honestly it’s a really odd reaction to it. He hasn’t mentioned it again this morning so I’m going to assume he isn’t as bothered as he tried to make out last night. It’s just kind of hurtful that he would even comment about it because I’ve never felt as though he has a trust issue and there is zero reason for him to be that way.

Agree about the grammar but I don’t think this is being controlling, he’s just uneasy.

YANBU for arranging this
YABR for telling him
He is NBU for feeling the way he does.

Talk it through and find out if he’s suggesting that your children can never play with these other children if you and the dad are the only parents there. If you and this other dad in point of fact, need chaperones for him to feel ok.

Things happen, he’s not wrong about that,

Find out, genuinely, how to reassure him.

Your husband has BIG issues. You do not.

This.
theres no issue, it’s absolutely fine and normal, just that threads where it’s the man get a bit…Weird…

Thank god for this sort of interaction when dh was a sahd 15 years ago. He was fairly unusual as a man eith a small baby out and about and he did find organising actual play dates etc a but tricky, but the soft play/park interaction, especially the spontaneous stuff, was a huge lifeline and a great way for ds to get more social time.

Spot on

non issue.

when my eldest was nursery aged there was a dad and we frequently walk with the kids home sometimes to the park as kids were good friends and we lived very close. I move even though about mentioning it exh if I’m honest.