AIBU to worry my three-year-old mixes up she and her?

[TheLilacmum]

my girl is just over 3 years old and have a bit of a hard time with using her and she as pronouns correctly.. she refers to everyone as she but she can make complex sentences like “ mommy do you remember when I got stuck on the little slide at the park ? .. she is fine with the other pronouns but I can’t seem to be able to help her regardless of how many times I correct her ..
how normal is that in neurotypical kids

How you going to cope if she needs to use them/they

She’s still a baby, bless her.

I’m a health visitor and see this all the time. It’s a perfectly normal part of language and social-communication development.

I have an autistic child who never did this FWIW. (Not that they are remotely consistent in terms of their development or skills)

Very normal for the age. Just keep chatting to her using the correct pronouns and she’ll pick it up.

Its age appropriate. But don't correct her just repeat back sentence with correct words.

Extremely normal

My 7 yo does this sometimes! He accidentally calls his sister a he or he’ll say him when he means his. I haven’t even thought twice about it before.

The only one with issues is you

My 4 year old calls me daddy sometimes 🤣 🤣 and definitely says he and she and he is 5 in a few weeks, is this post a serious question or someone looking for attention? I can’t work it out, surely no one worries about this sort of thing???

I’m a SALT. This is fairly common, pronoun rules are complicated. Many children have issues with pronouns. Just gently model back correctly.

You really won’t be happy until you find something “wrong” with this kid will you?

My daughter used to say things like “Elsa’s got she’s dress on” when she was 3. She soon grew out of it.

Yep

She's fine, it's just an immaturity and to be expected at 3. You can just model back. If your DD says 'her is smiling' you can just say 'oh yes, she is smiling' but don't ask her to say it then correct way. Just let her hear your correct way of saying it.

Don't worry. I thought at three that DD1 was never going to be able to pronounce words correctly. She said "cram" and "crawns" instead of "pram" and "prawns".

It was odd as she could say other Pr words ok like press or price, and then I would point at the toy pram and say "So what is this called, then?" and she would say "Cram!" It made us laugh.

I can tell you now at 21 that she can pronounce these words correctly! It stopped when she was about four probably.

DD2 still gets much and many mixed up from time to time, mind and she's 17.

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She’s 3.
my boy is 4.5 and everyone, male, female, dog, cat, is a ‘he’ and ‘him’

It’s really nothing to worry about OP. At all. DS did similar and more (gooder instead of better killed me for years).

He’s nearly 8 and tests well ahead of his peer group at school, including in reading/writing. So it’s indicative of nothing.

You sound like you are trying hard for your little girl. As a mum of a high achieving but anxious little guy, please try hard not to press her on this stuff. She’s still so little and they change so quickly - I would bet good money neither of you will be giving this a seconds thought in a couple of years time

Come on

I really wouldn’t worry. My nephew is 4 and only just putting sentences together. All kids are different.

Good God
This is completely normal. They don’t come out knowing all of this, while you may do it all without thinking, it’s tricky when you are a little brain first trying to understand and put it all together.
This will not be the only thing, they will get heaps of stuff wrong for a few years yet, completely normal.

Depends on the area you live.
I once overheard the following in Ely.
“Why is her waving at we when us don’t know she. “

It's normal, my 3 year old is similar. Overnight one day they just get it right and continue to do so.

Seriously?