I think it’s because they feel poor if they have to downsize to a medium latte. They literally have zero idea. They think that they are safe from the suggestions they make.
I'm lucky, I’m mortgage free with large amounts of savings. But I’m using the word lucky here and know that but for a few twists of fate I could be sleeping on the streets. It makes me more empathetic to others.
We buried my husbands brother last year when he died in his council flat from a massive drug overdose. He was just unlucky enough to fall in with a bad crowd when he was a teenager, his life destroyed, left with schizophrenia, just a few weeks of poor decisions in his teens and a life destroyed, he was lucky enough that his family helped. My husband was lucky he had a good group of friends. Both brothers lovely people, one happened to inherit some addictive genes and meet the wrong people.
I’ve always been highly intelligent but with adhd and autism. I’m lucky they interact in such a way I’ve been able to hold down a career although at massive cost to my mental health. I’m lucky to have an open mind to research lots of ways to cope with it. I’m lucky to have have had private healthcare and the money to explore lots of alternative therapies. All allowing me to function. I’ve probably had to work 100times harder than most to stand still. The fact I’ve been able to do this is a privilege and down to sheer dumb luck of things aligning. If any of those things supporting that luck had slipped, I could have been on the streets.
Im fed up of people just not getting it. Thinking that their perfect little lives are so because of hard work. A cleaner works hard, a policeman works hard, a worker in a care home works hard. Whether you are comfortable enough to be able to pay into a pension is just luck. Luck your skill set aligns with the weird hierarchy we have for jobs, luck that your brain formed in a certain way, luck you met the nice kids at school, luck you didn’t inherit some dodgy genes. Luck no one drove into the side of your car.
So when idiots tell you “you can’t afford to be self employed” when that is the only way you can operate in a work environment or to go into an HMO with three kids, or to sell Your kids 3rd hand clothes on vinted. It’s because their place of privilege means they have no idea.
Let them eat fucking cake ( from Gail’s Bakery)