AIBU to be angry he left our 5 year old in the car for 15 minutes on her own?

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Husband left 5 year old girl in the car for 15 minutes while he went to a blood test.

The car was parked in the car park. It was out of sight. He walked into the building and waited in the waiting room, had the blood test and then he went back out.

I was at work and didn’t even know he had a blood test today. Daughter is at home with him because she has chicken pox. This is why he didn’t take her in with him. I’m so angry. He should have cancelled or asked for an isolation unit so he could take her with him. AIBU?

If anyone had noticed her then he would be dealing with police and social services involvement as it is classed as neglect.

Absolutely not ok, I’d be livid too. So many scenarios that aren’t worth thinking about.
Hope your DD is ok, mine are older and think they would be uncomfortable in the car by themselves for more than a minute while I run into a shop where I can see them through the window.

What on earth was he thinking? I cannot believe people think YABU!

Yeah. That wasn’t good.

I cant believe that he made such an error of judgement. How on earth do I move forward from this? I feel like I can’t trust him to keep our children safe.

I’d be angry too, my dad used to do this to me all the time in the 90s more acceptable then maybe but I used to be really worried , he was ages sometimes 😂

I'd be furious too op. What a stupid thing to do.
Is he normally responsible, is this just a one off blip?

I wouldn’t do this with my 7 and 5 year old. If I can’t see them they come with me.

I wouldn’t be leaving him alone with my children until they were at least 10.

I'm quite relaxed about this sort of thing, I'm happy to leave them in the car while I pay for petrol for example, or to pop in to the corner shop where I can see the car the whole time. But this is taking it way too far, you can't leave a child of that age for that amount of time in a car alone, ridiculous!

I would be angry too OP, that’s way too long for her age. Especially if she was feeling under the weather with the chicken pox. She wouldn’t have a clue what to do if something went wrong and would have no way of getting to him or him even realising there was a problem!

How did he react when you spoke to him? Does he realise how silly that was or did he double down on his belief that it was absolutely fine?

He didn’t realise how serious this was at all. He casually mentioned it on the phone to me earlier with no awareness of how bad it was.

When I got cross about it, he said that he wishes he hadn’t told me.

what if he had fainted or something in the surgery after having his bloods done?!!! No one would have known she was out there!

Not at the age of five, that's awful. But also don't take an infectious child into a medical setting where others might be vulnerable - even for something as seemingly small as a blood test. He should have made other care arrangements.

Not when he’s going for a blood test as could have been in there hours. Leaving for a few minutes I’m not averse to but needs to be controlled and depends where. The village where I live - yes. City centre Manchester - no.

He's a fucking idiot, show him this thread. What a combo, selfish and thick as shit, wow.

I’d be worried that he could have fainted , if he’d banged his head on way down , they could have called him an ambulance and no one would know she was in that car
Quite terrifying
There are also some very bad people out there who could have smashed a window and taken her
She could have vomited
Felt poorly , scared
God the more I think about it , the angrier I get
Show him this thread , do better dad .

Ahhh... I think you've summed up nicely why I'm in the 8%.

It wouldn't be a problem at all at the docs where I live, but yeah, anywhere else might be problematic.

I'm not sure which is the worst part.

The fact he did it?
The fact he didn't and still doesn't see it as a problem?
Or the fact he is saying he would next time make the choice to lie by omission?

He sounds absolutely bloody useless!

I agree. His response would worry me as I would struggle to trust his judgement to keep our daughter safe. It also doesn’t really bode well if instead of doing any reflecting he just wished he hadn’t told you! You’ll always worry about what he is not telling you now.
Sorry OP, he is being so rubbish.

Not for a second so I believe it was only 15 minutes, even when taken immediately getting checked in, taken into nurses office, getting needles etc ready, I've never been less than half an hour of you include walking in and out from car park

For a blood test? I had some today and went to give my name to reception, went to the toilet, walked down a long corridor to another waiting area, sat for a couple of minutes, had my blood taken and was back at the car all within 15 minutes.

But the little girl still shouldn't have been left in the car of course.

Practice nurse schedules you for 15 minutes in her room here and the walk to and from and checking in typically adds a further 5-10 minutes. And that's if there's no wait or delay

I think I was in her room for about 3-4 minutes max and that's always been my experience of blood tests at various different GP surgeries. Not sure why it would take longer?

Same here to be honest. I can see it would be a problem in some places but in others it just isn’t.