AIBU to be angry he left our 5 year old in the car for 15 minutes on her own?

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Husband left 5 year old girl in the car for 15 minutes while he went to a blood test.

The car was parked in the car park. It was out of sight. He walked into the building and waited in the waiting room, had the blood test and then he went back out.

I was at work and didn’t even know he had a blood test today. Daughter is at home with him because she has chicken pox. This is why he didn’t take her in with him. I’m so angry. He should have cancelled or asked for an isolation unit so he could take her with him. AIBU?

My partner recently left my 4 year old in the car after he arrived home, he said she was playing..i was upstairs in bedroom, he had come into the house i assumed my daughter had come in and gone into living room..he stood and chatted to me upstairs for about 5 minutes. Next thing he goes back out and walks in with DD in tears and that was only a couple of minutes but he should not have left her at all. I was so angry. so ya 15 mins is really bad!

Absolutely not ok.
Is he usually so blasé about his child's safety?
I'd be gutted if my husband did this, as I'd no longer trust him.

Your husband can't be trusted with your child.

Ooh, that's bad OP. Really not acceptable to leave a child alone like that. It's actually a shame that social services were not alerted as he needs a good talking to about keeping his daughter safe. I would be livid.

This!!

Your daughter is 5 years old. No one knew your daughter was in the car, other than your husband. He could have easily have been delayed, and taken much longer. If there had been a problem, your daughter wouldn't have the understanding of what to do or know how to contact Daddy.

Your husband didn't think, or have the foresight to see that he was potentially putting your daughter into danger by leaving her on her own. His only thought was attending the blood test appointment, and he knew he couldn't take your daughter in the surgery with him. What he should have done was accept he couldn't attend, and rearrange the appointment.

To move forward your husband needs to understand what he did wrong and why. If a member of the public had spotted your daughter, the police would have been called.

Blood tests where I am are no more than 10 minutes. That said you never know what might happen, and I wouldn't have left a 5 year old in the car.

I wouldn't like that either OP. We have all been under pressure with this sort of thing and yet we just dont do it! I sometimes leave the kids in the car with their stories when im helping my father on his farm. But the car is parked on his farm within sight. In a town, no bloody way.

And I got really caught out once. I left the kids in the car while I popped into the petrol station shop for like 2 minutes. Stupidly left the child lock off. My daughter (4) got out and ran into the shop and was running around looking for me. I only realised when I got back into the car and only my son (6) was there. I turned around and my son's school principal was walking out with my daughter after finding her. I was beyond mortified!

I think 15 mins is entirely possible. I had blood test today - was called in immediately and the sample taking took only a couple of minutes. Was in and out of the surgery in less than 10 minutes. However, a 5 year old should not have been left by themselves and out of site for even a few minutes

Oh wow, I was in a carpark with DD6 waiting for a friend and her child the other day and had no signal to tell them where we were so I had to get out the car, walk 50meters through 2 sets of doors, send a text and run back to the car and I felt really uncomfortable and regretted not insisting she came too!

It was poor judgement. Fifteen minutes is too long for a small child alone in a car and out of view. What was the temperature, btw? It could've turned into a medical emergency.

This is one of those things that used to be totally unremarkable and now is a definite “no”.

This wouldn't worry me at our local surgery- quiet small place, no traffic and extremely safe.

He left a sick child alone, not knowing how long he could be, in a car which could become very hot (depending on your weather) and didnt see how it could be a bad idea?

That's just dreadful, imagine if it had been a hot day, what an awful thing to do to a poor child.

🎶…it was acceptable in the eiiiighties…🎵

I think most of my nurse appointments have been delayed /late starting. Par for the course but I always plan on waiting a good 15 mins or so before I even go in.

OP, as you know, it's completely unacceptable.

That speaks volumes OP. He’s not sorry it happened but sorry you rightly pulled him up. Serious lapse in judgement and absolutely no insight as your reaction rather than his action is what he’s focusing on. Others have left young children on their own (McCann’s for one) and it’s been a life changing decision. How are his actions any better? Trust broken.