AIBU to ask why some men leave urine on the floor?

[Jane143]

There’s been several Pee theme posts recently. I had no idea men peeing on the floor is a common problem. My husband does this too. Can anyone explain why this happens? I thought it was just him. I don’t remember my Dad or my ex doing this. Is it laziness or is there a genuine reason? Just trying to work it out before I actually accuse him of it as I know he will deny it!😩

Lots of men sit down to wee it solves the issue. It’s about having respect for others using the bathroom

Because they see cleaning as a woman’s job and beneath them. Do you call him out on it OP? If not why not?

Because they are selfish and lazy and someone else will clear up after them, as its beneath them to clean

I’ve never mentioned it, I just clear it up as I feel embarrassed for him as I thought it was just him. Now I know it’s a common issue I intend to ask him but looking for facts about why it happens

It’s because they are utter pigs.

Because they’re disgusting slobs?

It happens because they don't take care NOT to piss outside the toilet bowl and don't clean it up because they don't notice and/or think cleaning it up is your job.

This is the answer my late DH gave when I asked him why some men did this (he NEVER did)

Next time you see it tell him to go and clean up after himself.

If he refuses you have a big decision to make.

Fits nicely with the ‘men don’t see the mess’ that people spout. Absolute rubbish and OP please stop making excuses for his disgusting behaviour, it does not reflect on you, it’s on him. Tell him, everytime.

My husband and son never miss the toilet. Not sure about my son but I know my husband stands up. I think it is just not enough care, consideration, and/or concentration.

I didn't even know men did this until I read MN. None of the men I have lived with have done this - father, brother, husbands. None of the men who have visited my home and none of the men in homes who have I visited.

When I read it in various posts on MN It has generally been part of a general pattern of contempt and lack of respect for the OP. It has often appeared to be done deliberately. Certainly not cleaning the urine up has been deliberate.

I'm very surprised OP that you have cleaned up after your H without even mentioning it to him. Really you need to tell him if he is going to pee on the floor he should have the decency to clear up after himself. His response to you telling him this will be very enlightening as to his view of you and your role in his life.

Yes exactly. I’ve just never mentioned it, didn’t want to embarrass him as I don’t think he knows! Or am I being naive?

Not sure . He’s ok in other ways. I genuinely wonder if it’s how he was brought up and doesn’t care?

Whether he’s just not noticing or doesn’t care doesn’t really matter. It’s disgusting and unacceptable, no one should have to mop up another adults piss. Point it out to him every time he
does it. If it’s accidental he’ll stop it pretty quickly. If he just doesn’t care, I’d be having serious problems with that.

But don't you see that with you not mentioning it, if we give him the benefit of the doubt, that means he is pissing all over the floor at work, in restaurant toilets and in other people's houses.

My sons were taught to sit to pee and only stand if they were at a urinal. They also were taught to put the toilet lid down, flush and then check the toilet to make sure it was as clean as they found it.

I personally think your husband sees it as your job to clean and you have proved him right.

I’ve seen recent threads about men doing this and have been perplexed, I have never come across it and I have lived with several men and been married twice!

Are these men distracted, miss the toilet and just pee on the floor or is there an issue with their stream flying off at all angles?

Well, if I pissed on the floor, couldn’t be bothered to bend over and clean it up but it magically got cleaned every time and never called out, I’d probably continue doing it too.

I have 3 males in this house, and from the time my sons were toilet trained they were told to wipe up any mess, and sit down at home - stand up when using public toilets. I have never had urine on the floor and they all know that nonsense wouldn’t fly in this house.

I’d rapidly raise your expectations of the grown arse man that is your husband, OP.

Sometimes when they sit on the toilet if the penis isn’t pushed down. Pee escapes between the seat and the bowl.
Sometimes when standing the urine flow/force fluctuates (often at the end) and doesn’t go where it was previously going.
enlarged prostates can effect urination, so can bigger bellies and not seeing the penis.
Honestly just watch a few times.

It happens because the last few drips of wee lack the power of the initial flow and so will drip down into the rim of the toilet or the floor instead of being forced forwards into the bowl.

You know about it because they either haven't realised or don't care.

But if I know that and I'm not a man but I have a basic understanding of pressure and physics and can imagine how it happens, it's because they use the excuse that it happens to all men and don't think it's their job to clean it up.

Those women saying their husbands never drip, its far more likely that they just clean up after themselves when they do! And, if they can do it, all men can.

DH and I nearly divorced over this a few months ago. He uses the downstairs bathroom at night, and was obviously dripping as he walked out the bathroom (no pants on under his dressing gown). So each and every time, he was given anti bac wipes and told to deal with it. He has learned. Albeit slowly.

Thankfully we have separate bathrooms upstairs.

He either has a medical issue that he needs to see the GP about or he is a lazy pig.

I would put his favourite T-shirt on the floor by the loo. If he removes it before peeing then I would use it to mop up the pee and leave it on the floor for him to find.

Embarrass him. 'You've peed on the bathroom floor. Can you clean it up please?'

Maybe the shame factor will sort it out if he's otherwise and OK bloke?

So dh did this yesterday, as he occasionally does, especially after a drink or two. I mentioned it and that I'd cleaned it (wasn't going to leave it for anyone else to step in) but that he would need to do it himself going forwards, which to be fair he's usually good at.
He initially swore it wasn't him so it clearly wasn't on purpose, but I knew it was as he was the last one in there. But then he quickly accepted it and accepted that he must check and clean it if necessary from now on. Not a problem. That's the way it should be. Accidents happen.
You could help by keeping some cleaning spray handy or ask him to sort that too.

Or you could get a few of those piss mats that go around the toilet that soak it up and everyone knows not to ever step on 😁

It’s like dogs marking their tree. I think this behaviour goes along with a certain personality

Sitting down to pee is the sure and certain sign that old age has caught up with you (if you are a bloke anyway).

What an ignoramus you are.
Peeing sitting down offers specific benefits for men of all ages. Look it up.