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Feeling devastated after seeing this news about Afghanistan

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LovingLilacDuck · 19/05/2026 08:13

I stumbled across this on BBC — https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

I can’t stop crying. I feel so incredibly devastated that we live in such an unequal world. I cannot believe in 2026 people have to starve and children die — and girls be sold??? because of hunger. Goodness sake. That’s not right, it’s so inhumane. Seeing the tears on those tiny girls’ eyes and how fearful they are just breaks my heart so much, oh Gosh.

I just really feel sorry for these people who have to live under Taliban and suffer immensely. It’s so heartbreaking. And I know these people are not the only ones unfortunately…I just feel like we all have so much, more than we all need to and I wish we could just help the poor more as a whole world. But that doesn’t bring any profits does it???!

I wish I could do something to help, whatever that may be. Does anyone have a clue about what to do? I’d appreciate any insight. Thank you.

A man wearing a pink turban cuddles his small daughter close in front of a cracked mud wall

Afghanistan humanitarian crisis: Ghor's starving families

In Afghanistan today, a staggering three in four people cannot meet their basic needs.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

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Twinandatwoyearold · 19/05/2026 22:43

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Donated money may end up in the hands of the regime who ALLOW child marriage and the oppression of women. Marrying kids of any age is allowed in this culture/religion.

What appalls me is why don’t the wealthy men in Afghanistan (or neighbouring countries) help their their fellow citizens (like wealthy men did in Britain in the 1700-1800s). They clearly have money to buy a child for sex - it’s fucking barbaric and these vile pedos should be researched and articles written on thrm - there must be many Afghan men raping kids if selling children is common.

I want to know more about the perps.
Why is being a pedo okay in Afghanistan? What part of Sharia law allows it? (No doubt someone will say it doesn’t - it clearly does if that is what the majority of Afghan men say - unless we are patronising enough to say they are too stupid to interpret their own religion). Why are boys dressed as women to dance for Afghan men etc? How many men partake in this? What do religious leaders in Afghanistan say about child rape?

I found this bit of research

https://eprints.lancs.ac.uk/id/eprint/173188/1/BB.Revised.pdf

It suggests sexually abusing boys is ‘almost mainstream in parts of the country’. Our government must know this yet they brought afghans into the country. It took me about 2 mins to find this research.

Any government official in Britain who took part in allowing Afghans to come here should be held accountable (stripped of pensions, imprisoned) for any children raped here by these men.

Part of the Conclusion of the article linked above.

The predatory sexual politics of bacha bazi introduces the reader to some difficult and
painful conclusions. Wartime sexual violence against boys in Afghanistan is not a corollary
of war, but intrinsically linked to the larger cultural and conflict dynamics. In the current
post-war setting, bacha bazi is carried out with impunity by the rich, the connected and the
powerful. Different factors and actors have connived to keep this practice under cover.
Inadequate legal framework, valorizations of toxic masculinity, societal double standards,
twisted gender norms and poverty of victims have all contributed to the perpetuation of this
abominable practice.
In spite of nearly two decade-long external involvements, archaic social traditions and
deep-seated gender norms have kept much of rural Afghanistan in a medieval state of
purgatory (Mondloch, 2013a; Misra, 2021). The larger society would appear to have turned a
32blind eye to bacha bazi while treating it as residues of an ancient practice. There exists
almost societal complicity in the continuation of this predatory sexual violence. It tolerates
this violence by considering it as part of the overall cultural milieu. Such prevalent cultural
perception has made bacha bazi almost mainstream in some parts of the country.
It cannot be stressed enough that the widespread subculture of pedophilia in
Afghanistan constitutes one of the most egregious ongoing violations of human rights in the
world (Mondloch, 2013). While there exists some legal provisions against bacha bazi, it is at
best feeble and mostly ineffective. The violator walks unabashed and free, because of the
prevalence of an unwritten culture of impunity that protects him.

Dollymylove · 19/05/2026 22:43

Toomuchtimeagain · 19/05/2026 22:30

It's often not adult men though. A lot of male Afghans who try to come here are 14 - 18. If you could get your son out of the country and away from the Taliban wouldn't you do the same? You know you can't send your daughter because somewhere along the line she going to be sexually assaulted and probably trafficked into exploitation so you'd at least try to get your son out. I know I would. I'd be hoping that at least one of my children could escape to something better.

No instead of their daughters being raped and assaulted they are sending these "young teenage " males to the UK illegally and our daughters are being raped and assaulted 😡

LBFseBrom · 19/05/2026 22:43

Throughout history, Afghanistan has been invaded by all sorts, has had to protect its borders. In my lifetime I remember it being invaded by the Russians.

The Taliban came from the Afghans themselves but got out of hand. It's up to them to change the regime and they can, they are heroic warriors, they've had to be. It's not going to happen overnight but it will happen.

In the meantime ordinary people suffer, including children. Isn't that always the way in war?

ThePieceHall · 19/05/2026 22:45

Toomuchtimeagain · 19/05/2026 22:30

It's often not adult men though. A lot of male Afghans who try to come here are 14 - 18. If you could get your son out of the country and away from the Taliban wouldn't you do the same? You know you can't send your daughter because somewhere along the line she going to be sexually assaulted and probably trafficked into exploitation so you'd at least try to get your son out. I know I would. I'd be hoping that at least one of my children could escape to something better.

The misogyny runs deep.

LBFseBrom · 19/05/2026 22:46

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Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:47

Tableforjoan · 19/05/2026 22:32

And the reason they can’t send the daughters is all those very sons / brothers / uncles and traffickers who are a risk.

The same men we are supposed to welcome.

Really? Only Afgan men are a threat to Afgan women and girls? You talk as though the trafficking and abuse of females is unknown outside its borders.

Twinandatwoyearold · 19/05/2026 22:47

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Really? Are you being sarcastic about rape. Or is this genuine?

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:48

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:47

Really? Only Afgan men are a threat to Afgan women and girls? You talk as though the trafficking and abuse of females is unknown outside its borders.

Predominantly Afghan men.

Dollymylove · 19/05/2026 22:48

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I dont mean MY daughters i mean the reports of young Britsh girls who have been assaulted by these brutes who have entered the country illegally

ThePieceHall · 19/05/2026 22:49

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That is actually an offensive comment. Disgraceful. To make light of the act of rape. Shameful.

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:49

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Don’t be so pathetically churlish. How dare you use this topic to score cheap points

PurpleAxe · 19/05/2026 22:49

LovingLilacDuck · 19/05/2026 08:13

I stumbled across this on BBC — https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

I can’t stop crying. I feel so incredibly devastated that we live in such an unequal world. I cannot believe in 2026 people have to starve and children die — and girls be sold??? because of hunger. Goodness sake. That’s not right, it’s so inhumane. Seeing the tears on those tiny girls’ eyes and how fearful they are just breaks my heart so much, oh Gosh.

I just really feel sorry for these people who have to live under Taliban and suffer immensely. It’s so heartbreaking. And I know these people are not the only ones unfortunately…I just feel like we all have so much, more than we all need to and I wish we could just help the poor more as a whole world. But that doesn’t bring any profits does it???!

I wish I could do something to help, whatever that may be. Does anyone have a clue about what to do? I’d appreciate any insight. Thank you.

The girls are not sold "because of hunger", they are sold because of men.

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:50

Dollymylove · 19/05/2026 22:48

I dont mean MY daughters i mean the reports of young Britsh girls who have been assaulted by these brutes who have entered the country illegally

That poster knows exactly what you meant but thought sardonic jokes about rape would be a good way of getting their nasty little point across

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:51

ThePieceHall · 19/05/2026 22:49

That is actually an offensive comment. Disgraceful. To make light of the act of rape. Shameful.

Because think of the menz and the injustices THEY go through, with people on internet forums calling out their misogyny, boo hoo

Chimen · 19/05/2026 22:51

MrThorpeHazell · 19/05/2026 10:15

This is why, in my mind, there is not a penny's worth of difference between Biden and Trump. Biden pulling the troops out was an incredibly stupid decision.

The international situation is going to shit and each is as much to blame as the other.

The government before Taliban had every resource given to them to be successful. But they were more interested in enriching themselves than actually governing the country.
By then it was not our war.

Tableforjoan · 19/05/2026 22:52

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:47

Really? Only Afgan men are a threat to Afgan women and girls? You talk as though the trafficking and abuse of females is unknown outside its borders.

No all the men fleaing what ever country they are fleeing leaving their women and children to fend for themselves are the threat towards the women and children which is why they cannot be sent instead 👍🏻

Borrowerdale · 19/05/2026 22:53

The BBC trying to generate sympathy for men selling their five yeast old daughters to paedophiles to be raped as sex slaves every day for the rest of their, probably short, lives. Disgusting!

FrankieMcGrath · 19/05/2026 22:53

elgreco · 19/05/2026 08:17

I have no fucking sympathy for afghani men. The sit and watch and tolerate their female family members being fucked over generation after generation. They let it happen. Id starve before selling my child.

This! Fuckers the lot of them.

Twinandatwoyearold · 19/05/2026 22:54

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:50

That poster knows exactly what you meant but thought sardonic jokes about rape would be a good way of getting their nasty little point across

Comments like that show why so many people in Britain covered up Pakistani rape gangs. Grim.

@Borrowerdale i agree and I am pleased that so many people now see through BBC propaganda.

If only they (the bbc) were so vocal about the thousands of girls raped in the U.K.

Wearenotborg · 19/05/2026 22:56

Screamingabdabz · 19/05/2026 22:16

What I never understand is why the modern Islamic world isn’t also up in arms about the treatment of their Muslim sisters and brothers at the hands of this rag tag bunch of scum. Surely they’re aware of Muslim children starving and being raped at the whims of the Taliban? Surely they’re aware of the misrepresentation of Islam? They could be instrumental in putting pressure and shame on this ungodly regime. But they don’t. Why?

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Exactly. Where are the protests, the marches, the chants? Why are Arab billionaires not rescuing these women and children? Why are people in the uk who happily March for Palestine not doing the same for Afghanistan?

Octavia64 · 19/05/2026 22:56

@Twinandatwoyearold

to answer some of your questions:

homosexuality is not permissible in Islam. Therefore the religious leaders in Afghanistan are against bacha bazi.

however a religion being against something does not stop it happening. Christianity is often seen these days as a “peaceful” religion yet in medieval times bishops rode into battle with knights and the concession was that they didn’t have a bladed weapon as they were not supppsed to draw blood. So instead they carried maces and other such blunt hitting instruments.

child marriage is permitted in Islam with the canonical example being the marriage of the Prophet Mohammed to Aisha who was somewhere between six and nine at the time.

slavery is also permitted in Islam with the proviso that no Muslim may be enslaved. The Taliban have explicitly permitted slavery in the new laws introduced in Jan 2026.

A Muslim man is permitted to have sex with any of his female slaves. This is known as the doctrine of “what my right hand possesses”. He may not prostitiue them out to others, but he can sell them to anyone he chooses.

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:56

Wearenotborg · 19/05/2026 22:56

Exactly. Where are the protests, the marches, the chants? Why are Arab billionaires not rescuing these women and children? Why are people in the uk who happily March for Palestine not doing the same for Afghanistan?

No Jews, no news.

Borrowerdale · 19/05/2026 22:57

Chimen · 19/05/2026 22:51

The government before Taliban had every resource given to them to be successful. But they were more interested in enriching themselves than actually governing the country.
By then it was not our war.

It was Democratic presidential Carter who funded the rise of the Taliban - then the Mujahideen - as part of a proxy war with Russia.

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:57

Tableforjoan · 19/05/2026 22:52

No all the men fleaing what ever country they are fleeing leaving their women and children to fend for themselves are the threat towards the women and children which is why they cannot be sent instead 👍🏻

Explain to me how they could be safely sent then? I mean, we could set up reception points in our embassies in Pakistan, and India where they could apply for asylum without having to travel thousands of miles in the hands of smugglers but we dont, do we?

I suspect most on this thread would be a damn sight less welcoming to Afghan women if they could actually get here.

Borrowerdale · 19/05/2026 23:00

He may not prostitiue them out

But he can sell them into temporary hour long marriages.