What is wrong with me? Is anybody else like this?

[17caterpillars1mouse]

Ok my AIBU is am i unreasonable to react like this? What is wrong with me?

Is anybody else like this?

In day to day life I wouldnt say i'm anymore emotional than the average person, but in certain situations I get this ridiculous over emotion that floods me and results in me starting to cry and have to bite my lip to try and stop myself making a scene. It feels incontrollable at times and I dont remember always being like this.

The situations -

weddings and funerals starting - maybe not as unusual but it happens even if i barely know the person / people

Any kind of show - theatre, cinema, gig, kids nativity, especially if there is singing and music but there doesnt have to be

Every year when the year 6s leave at my kids school, even if i dont know any of them. Also school sports day even when my kids aren't participating in the race.

I cant sing along to the radio in the car without getting choked up and starting to cry. It doesnt matter what the song is / is about

Watching a parade at the weekend, had to hold back the tears - no idea why

When ambulances drive past, not every time, but around 70% of the time.

I don't know what comes over me and why, just a complete flooding of emotion. Why am i like this? It can be very embarrassing

Why do you ask this?

Oh songs....

"Forever Autumn" because late DP loved War of the Worlds 😭

And "Slipping Through my Fingers" by Abba, partly because of my Mum, and partly when my son was a teenager.

I also hate funerals that have hymn singing - trying to get through "Morning has Broken" for my Nana's funeral through sobs felt like torture.

I think this is totally normal! Emotion on witnessing something moving, whether it's happy or sad, is normal.

At least that's what I tell myself! 🤣

I’m not like that at all, but a friend is. Always welling up.

Yes, but not the Sistine chapel

Me as well, brass bands are just a weep fest. No logic.

Not ambulances, but everything else on your list overwhelms me with emotion. Also, watching medals being won, or football teams winning the cup, or anything which inspires empathy in me. You’re not alone x

Yep, I’m permanently on the edge of tears I swear. I also cry when alot of people clap, people at markets when no one’s at their stalls, also if theres like parades of things, such as a truck rally driving through the streets and they are beeping everyone as they go, tears 😆 I’ve also gotten worse in my 30’s since having kids, can barely look at their tiny feet sometimes without setting me off. I’m a very happy person though, so god knows

Ive also remembered the charity santa that goes aroubd the streets at xmas on a float really sets me off. I always take my kids out but then have to run inside so im not sobbing on the doorstep

I’m so glad I read this as I’m similar and thought I was a bit crazy 😅 it’s not exactly all the same, but the singing thing definitely resonated with me! So many songs now I can’t sing out loud (which I like to do!) as I get choked up. It’s so strange! The random things that set me off these days can be unexpected. I’ve also always been quite chilled and not particularly emotional. It’s all since I had my LO I would say. I am in perimenopause but also on HRT and wouldn’t say it has reduced since I started. I think it is more related to my LO.

Another one here to say that I am pretty much the same as you, OP.

Theatre, films, concerts, singing, and in general any display of genuine kindness.

I recommend the book The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron. The term HSP describes a personality trait.

I am the opposite. I used to feel things deeply and get quite emotional over the same thing as you @17caterpillars1mouse but for the past year since being perimenopausal I generally feel a bit numb 🫤 I dont get emotional at things I definitely would've before. I dont like it. I hope my emotional side comes back!

lol I cry like a baby in church, when certain hymns are being played and I sing along to them (love singing) and I get all choked up and cry big time! It’s so embarrassing 😳

I’m so glad you said this about the thread from yesterday. It was just devastating! I’m the same though, as someone put it up thread ‘humans doing human stuff’ has me basically weeping. Even though I’m very calm and collected in everyday life. The worst for me though is anything to do with Remembrance Sunday. I think it’s the stoicism of the soldiers. Sob.

Hahaha, this!
Proper lump in my throat when PP describes the tricky kids helping each other finish the race 😭

Im with you OP, things that make me cry...
Choirs
Children singing
A parade
Children in a parade
The ballet
Wholesome acts of sportsmanship
😭😭😭

Puff The Magic Dragon is so sad if you read the lyrics. I read a beautiful picture book version of it and at the end it shows another little girl come to play with Puff so a slightly happier ending.

I get the hyper emotional stuff too! The end of Love Actually especially. Something about the thought of the end montage of people at the airport sets me off.

Oh I'd forgotten I used to cry until I couldn't breathe at the last verse of Puff the magic dragon, also Old Shep and and old Irish song my Mum sang called Two Little Orphans.

Im a bit like this. I could watch a complete stranger walk down the aisle, and I well up. Other situations you mentioned resonate with me a lot too. I take it as me just being a huge empath, I don’t particularly like it though. Everything affects me so very deeply and I find it quite exhausting.

Yes! I’m so glad it’s not just me! I’ve always been like this since young and definitely worse since having children.
Seeing people cry, end of (any) film in cinema, lots of moments watching Olympics, annual refresher resuscitation training at work (especially the baby mannequins). So many things I could add🤷🏼‍♀️ My biggest desire is to be able to control it

I went to see ABBA Voyage for my 50th with my daughters,I’ve always loved ABBA and when the music started and the crowd all singing I was in bits,just a dream come true I suppose 😀

I would not be able to make it through this. Though the sad thing is i would avoid going as i know i would beva blubbering mess the whole time

Och, you’re fine. You just get a wee bit overwhelmed at certain things.

It’s funny but when I was little, I used to go to Christmas parties where we’d have to sing Jingle Bells for Santa to come out. Just the sight of the big man made me want to cry. Not in a bad way! It was just like a rush of emotion ♥️

Oh, and I’m the same now 😁

Honestly I wouldn’t worry,it’s dark and loads of other people were doing the same!

It’s a reference to this thread