AIBU to ask people not to poop in new under stairs cloakroom?

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We are just having a new cloakroom installed downstairs. AIBU to put a sign up saying ‘no poo loo’ or ‘if you plan to do a poo do it in the upstairs loo’?

My DH thinks it’s not reasonable. I just down like the idea of people doing a poop in there and then the macerator having to … anyway AIBU?

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“Cloakroom” is estate agent and building regs speak for downstairs loo.

I don't think the OP is BU. They aren't telling people not to poop, just to use the toilet least likely to block. Surely it would be more embaressing to block someone's toilet rather then just nip upstairs?
I know I'd rather do that (I regularly block my toilet coz I apparently have the bowels of a cart horse!)😂

I'd have never thought that there were still people who needed to be told that it was not OK to flush tampons, but apparently so.

Mine doesn't stink like theirs due to how little I eat maybe. There isn't the quantity either. In any case it's my house, I paid for it, and them's the rules.

We don't eat the same things as it happens. I am much healthier. I don't eat anywhere like as much as they do either. Anyone gets told, no number 2s in the downstairs toilet!

Fascinating thread to see the differences of opinions.

I feel that deliberately pooing in close proximity to others, especially when you're a guest at someone's house, is really rude. If there are other toilets available of course you would go to one a bit further away! Who wants to be enjoying a nice dinner party or games night and then smelling someone's shit??

Probably lt cause downstairs toilets don’t have an extractor fan & some don’t have a wi dow to let the smell out! My DIL use to 💩 in mine all the time & I clearly asked him not to for the above reasons but he was a pig of a man who liked to piss on the floor too he was that way inclined!

It is indeed very clear that some people see pooing as an inherently aggressive, shameful, antisocial act - and they establish all kinds of rules, moral codes and restrictions around what you can do and when; whilst others just see it as a mundane fact of life for all of us - and if you're sitting on a purpose-designed toilet behind a locked door, you're free to get on with whatever standard private toilet-based requirements as needed.

The way some people react with horror at the very idea of somebody pooing in a toilet when there's the remotest possibility of anybody else realising what they're doing, you'd think that some dirty bugger was just randomly grunting and curling one out on the living room carpet.

I think it's just about basic respect for others. Being aware of how your own actions can cause discomfort to others. It's similar to being aware not to douse yourself with strong perfume before a flight, not speaking loudly into your phone on speaker on a bus, not playing loud music on a train, etc. just basic manners. It being a bodily function doesn't really change that imo, we accept that sneezing and coughing are bodily functions you can't help and still expect people not to do it into somebody's face, we expect to cough into a tissue or elbow.

If there is no other option then sure, go for it. But with all things equal if you can avoid your poo aroma being inhaled by others, why wouldn't you? Each to their own but it's just simple manners and consideration for others I feel.

This is such a weird thread. I cannot believe there are people who think it's ok to dictate where others can/can't poo.

Or maybe open the window /, use the extractor fan, and/or a bit of air freshener.

Seriously???
I wouldn't want people upstairs and this is weird.
I have IBS and have emergency no warning poos, I would feel so uncomfortable in your house.
You wouldn't be my type of friend though.

None of those antisocial acts are in any way similar to shitting in a toilet 😆
Using a toilet for its intended purpose is a perfectly normal thing to do.
if you choose to install a loo in a tiny windowless cupboard, you’ve created the associated problems yourself.

I get that, and I agree for the most part; but if a purpose-designed toilet in a private room/cubicle isn't the appropriate place to have a poo, where is?

It isn't going to kill anybody to walk past a just-used toilet and notice that there's a bit of a pong. Babies poo into their nappies, which obviously stinks until they can be changed, and parents take them out in public all the time. It's fine; we can survive it.

would you like to hear the story of how a visitor did such a hard poo in my downstairs toilet that it wouldn’t flush at all? Never mind…

yabu to put up instructions of any kind

Totally agree. We have a downstairs loo just off/in our kitchen and EVERYONE knows the no pooh rule. (I sometimes have one when nobody is here but me 🤐)

So everybody know the rule, but you're the only one who breaks it? Or maybe other people do too, when they're at home alone (or at least when you are out)... so there's effectively no actual rule at all?!

Building regs say downstairs loos must have either a window or a fan

Exactly this. In fact most builder/plumbers when installing a loo, whether a macerator or not, in a space with no window will link the mandatory fan to the light switch and the fan will continue for a while after the light is switched back off.

Not all downstairs toilets are this inconvenient. Some of them are perfectly ok to use without making the whole house stink.

Probably lt cause downstairs toilets don’t have an extractor fan & some don’t have a wi dow to let the smell out!

I really hope that was a typo, and it isn't a common thing for women who have lost their husbands to have to spend their days living in somebody's toilet, frantically wafting out pongs, to be able to make ends meet

Some people have such an aversion to ventilation that they not only refuse to turn a fan on, they actually disconnect it, remove the fuse, or turn off the maintenance isolator.

BTW a typical modern extractor fan will run for about 100 hours on 22pence worth of electricity, and should be inaudible when the door is shut.

Well this thread has given me a lot of belly laughs which is great, thank you! And on a more serious note, I’ve learned that this is one of those issues where people have very different experiences and since it’s not a topic that’s usually discussed in detail (!) we don’t realise that everyone is not like us! It seems that some people poo according to a schedule, and assume that everyone does the same or if they don’t it’s something a bit antisocial that is deliberate and could be avoided. Others poo whenever, when they feel their bowels are going to open then they go to the nearest toilet; and the idea of not doing this or of this being a ‘wrong’ thing to do is quite bizarre. I’m in the latter group; I’ve definitely learned something new about other people (although not sure if I really wanted to know that others are judging me for opening my bowels…!)

since it’s not a topic that’s usually discussed in detail (!)

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