AIBU to preorder GTA VI for DS (17) when the trailer has left me with concerns?

[ThisRubyEagle]

Hello, first time posting so sorry if this is in the wrong place. I’m a mum of two (DS17 and DD13) and I’d describe myself as a moderate feminist - I believe strongly in raising my son to respect women, call out sexism when he sees it, and understand consent. I’m not the sort who wants to ban everything, but I do have my concerns about some media.
Yesterday DS was really excited and asked me to watch the new GTA VI trailer with him. I sat through the whole thing. It’s actually better than I expected in some ways - I liked that there’s a female character who seems central and quite tough. But overall it left me feeling uneasy. The whole tone is very hyper, violent and chaotic, with what looks like endless crime, guns, and this “Florida” satire that seems to mock everyone and everything. I know the GTA series has a long history of really problematic attitudes towards women (strip clubs, prostitutes, the way female characters have been treated in past games) and even if the trailer doesn’t shove it in your face, I can’t help worrying this one will be the same underneath.
He’s now asking if I’ll preorder it for him as all his friends are getting it on release and he’ll be 18 not long after. Part of me thinks I should just do it - he’s a good lad really, does well at sixth form, and I don’t want to be the overprotective mum who makes him miss out. But the other part is wondering if I’d be letting myself down as someone with feminist principles. OH says I’m overthinking it and “it’s only a bloody game.”
AIBU to be this conflicted about preordering? Or should I put my foot down on principle? TIA

But my son is not permitted to make AI porn, and plays online but only with friends that he knows from school. Not all kids are entirely without boundaries you know. If my son has seen awful things in school, he at least knows his mother objects to it. I'm never going to go "oh fuck it, you've probably seen sexual violence already, crack on lad". I won't ever legitimise that, because it's awful.

Honestly, there's nothing ridiculous about going with the actual age guidelines they've had stamped on the box. I've allowed loads of other games to be played early, and I'm okay with that, but I wouldn't ever try to make parents sound hysterical for following the official guidance which is put there to help us with this stuff.

I don't know which one it was, but I was walking down a street and that was the first bit of gameplay available to me.

I'm not sure what you're talking about in your first paragraph.

My point was not that children shouldn't have sensible boundaries because of the awful things they're unavoidably exposed to at school by their peers, but simply that if you think exposure to GTA6 is somehow going to be the thing to corrupt a 15-year-old, you're very naive.

I'm also not trying to make anyone sound hysterical, so not sure what that's about either? I'm just giving my honest assessment as a mother and life-long gamer, of when I think a sensible, intelligent, and well-balanced teenager should be fine playing the game - 15+ for some, but definitely at 17.