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Have you ever met a child psychopath?

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TheJuryIsOut · 17/05/2026 16:23

There's some debate about whether psychopaths are born like that or made as a consequence of their environment/upbringing. If they are born that way (which I believe they are) have you ever met one? What were the signs?

I say this because there is a child in my wider family who I think may be a psychopath, there has been signs from when he was very very young and as he moves through his teenage years things have only got worse. I can't get on board with it being an environment thing as no one else in the family behaves the way he does, it's quite terrifying to think that no matter what you do your child could still go on to do horrific things and not feel a jot of guilt.

What do you think? Are they born or made?

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Tuxedomaddness · 17/05/2026 16:51

@Stompythedinosaur do you even know the details of the horrific Jamie Bulger case?

PinkyFlamingo · 17/05/2026 16:52

This is a fascinating book for anyone who is interested, the author was studying psychopathy and brain images and discovered he himself had the pattern!
It's not printing the image but it's by James Fallon and it's called The Psychopath Inside

Have you ever met a child psychopath?
Stompythedinosaur · 17/05/2026 16:55

PinkyFlamingo · 17/05/2026 16:46

Disagree. Noone has met a child with a diagnosis you mean of psychopathy, doesn't mean they don't exist and they are many who will fulfill the criteria when they are older for a diagnosis. Unless they commit a criminal offence they won't come to the attention of the criminal justice system.

The cause is the ago old nature nurture debate for every personality disorder. I do feel it's definitely nature but nurture can exactly exacerbate it

But this isn't a matter of opinion - psychopathy had a route of diagnosis which specifies it is not a legitimate diagnosis for a child. A child cannot meet criteria for a diagnosis of psychopathy.

PinkyFlamingo · 17/05/2026 16:56

Stompythedinosaur · 17/05/2026 16:35

It's a fact, so I'll tell it to anyone!

Do you think children aren't capable of doing harm without being a psychopath?

Whenever I hear people talking about children being psychopaths, I tend to assume they are talking about a traumatised child but feel more comfortable placing the locus of blame in the child than understanding how children get to the point of hurting others.

You would not have the affront to say that to the Mother of a child who was murdered by two psychopaths.

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Stompythedinosaur · 17/05/2026 16:57

Tuxedomaddness · 17/05/2026 16:51

@Stompythedinosaur do you even know the details of the horrific Jamie Bulger case?

After twenty years working in youth justice and with exploited children - yes, I'm certain I understand the case.

No, I do not believe the child perpetrators were simply "born evil". No child I have worked with in twenty years has been. Their behaviour has always been understandable (though awful) in the context of the experiences they had themselves been subjected to.

It's easier for adults to just write an offender off as "bad". But that doesn't make it true.

Anotherdayofrain · 17/05/2026 16:57

PinkyFlamingo · 17/05/2026 16:56

You would not have the affront to say that to the Mother of a child who was murdered by two psychopaths.

people can do terrible things without being psychopaths.

PinkyFlamingo · 17/05/2026 16:58

Stompythedinosaur · 17/05/2026 16:55

But this isn't a matter of opinion - psychopathy had a route of diagnosis which specifies it is not a legitimate diagnosis for a child. A child cannot meet criteria for a diagnosis of psychopathy.

I know, I'm not disagreeing with that. Where have I said it is a diagnosis for a child? Doesn't mean they aren't though. For the diagnosis of any personality disorder in adults the features have to have been present since childhood

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 17/05/2026 16:59

TheJuryIsOut · 17/05/2026 16:27

So do you think there's a switch that flicks on their 18th birthday and they're suddenly a psychopath?

That’s not what the poster said. It goes without saying that every psychopath didn’t turn psychopathic at midnight on their 18th, but will have displayed some traits in the lead up to that. Similarly, you don’t turn into a psychopath aged 49 after a life of not being one.

You asked has anyone known a child psychopath. Yes and no.

No, only because a child can’t be clinically diagnosed as one. Their personality is still forming and they aren’t mature so you can’t confidently assess a person going through a temporary development stage. Clinicians may well observe some telling traits e.g lack of empathy, or even hurting animals or people etc, but they won’t put a label on it.

Yes, because when an adult gets a diagnosis, then people can look back and say the signs were there as a child. Not a complete picture that warranted a diagnosis, but some traits which didn’t go away and were in fact added to.

PinkyFlamingo · 17/05/2026 16:59

Anotherdayofrain · 17/05/2026 16:57

people can do terrible things without being psychopaths.

Indeed they do. Doesn't mean the two perpetrators aren't though either

Tuxedomaddness · 17/05/2026 17:00

Stompythedinosaur · 17/05/2026 16:57

After twenty years working in youth justice and with exploited children - yes, I'm certain I understand the case.

No, I do not believe the child perpetrators were simply "born evil". No child I have worked with in twenty years has been. Their behaviour has always been understandable (though awful) in the context of the experiences they had themselves been subjected to.

It's easier for adults to just write an offender off as "bad". But that doesn't make it true.

You think his killers behaviour was 'understandable'

The most insensitive, disgusting comment i have read on here. Just fucking wow.

Tekknonan · 17/05/2026 17:00

Psychopathy is a personality disorder. It isn't fully understood, but can arise from neglect and abuse in the very early months and years when the brain fails to make the 'normal' connections because of the neglect/abuse. Very young children cannot process this as they don't have the ability to do this - no language, no world picture. People with this personality disorder lack empathy, are impulsive, don't learn from experience, they can be manipulative and deceitful, and can be prone to violent of criminal behaviour. However, they are unlikely to become Hannibal Lecter. They are also prone to suicide.

It's a very intractable condition and is really not fully understood. If a child shows the traits of psychopathy, intervention is possible to mitigate these tendences.

Beeloux · 17/05/2026 17:00

Yes when I lived in Russia as a kid. 8 year old boy on the neighbourhood put a slag of wood in a dogs collar to try and choke it, set fire to another kids tree house and then snuck into someone’s garage (which were used as pantry’s and put white spirit in their drinks!)

His sister was lovely and the family very pleasant.

Funnily enough I saw him as a suggested friend on Facebook recently and he’s a pilot!! Beggars belief.

MyRubyPanda · 17/05/2026 17:01

I read an interview with James Fallon, apparently his relatives include 7 (7?!) murderers. So it definitely looks like it's largely genetic that can potentially be tamed with good parenting. Would not want my daughter marrying into his family though, just saying....

www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/the-neuroscientist-who-discovered-he-was-a-psychopath-180947814/

StandingDeskDisco · 17/05/2026 17:01

Makemeinvisible · 17/05/2026 16:45

I believe that whereas a percentage of a child's behaviour is down to inherent personality most of it is due to how the child is treated and their education and upbringing.
A lot of the children I come across behave in an appalling way - absolutely no consideration for other people, selfish, totally dismissive of adults and generally unpleasant and no sense of decency or right or wrong. And I am convinced that is not because they are in inherently bad. They have just been given no moral guidance. They take the norms of behaviour from what they see on social media and no adult seems capable of challenging them.

So if a young child takes pleasure in killing animals, that is not down to their inborn personality (innate lack of empathy) but rather due to lack of 'moral guidance'?
I don't think so.

A lot of traumatised and damaged children can behave in truly dreadful ways, but being a psychopath is something else entirely.

Of course as others have said, a natural born psychopath who had a 'good' upbringing will usually do very well in life, as they make rational decisions about the best way to get what they want without going to prison.

TheFormidableMrsC · 17/05/2026 17:01

Some years back I worked with a child who I am certain will be on the news one day. Absolutely dead behind the eyes and parents who refused to accept that something was wrong. He was cruel and malicious. I have no idea where he is now but I hope there has been some sort of intervention.

PenelopePinkerton · 17/05/2026 17:02

Stompythedinosaur · 17/05/2026 16:57

After twenty years working in youth justice and with exploited children - yes, I'm certain I understand the case.

No, I do not believe the child perpetrators were simply "born evil". No child I have worked with in twenty years has been. Their behaviour has always been understandable (though awful) in the context of the experiences they had themselves been subjected to.

It's easier for adults to just write an offender off as "bad". But that doesn't make it true.

I worked in forensic child psychiatry for many years and your view is overly simplistic. The majority of young people I worked with did have significant trauma histories but there were a handful that did not and no environmental factors could be identified that shaped their behaviours.

Beeloux · 17/05/2026 17:02

My grandma once told me of a kid (reception age) when she was a primary school teacher who mutilated a baby chicken (the ones where they incubate the eggs) and claimed it was because he didn’t like the colour yellow.

TheGreatDownandOut · 17/05/2026 17:02

Tuxedomaddness · 17/05/2026 17:00

You think his killers behaviour was 'understandable'

The most insensitive, disgusting comment i have read on here. Just fucking wow.

She didn’t say that

sonjadog · 17/05/2026 17:02

I think I knew one many years ago in a class I taught. Of the thousands of young people I have worked with over the years, he is the only one that I would consider in that way. He was cruel and underhand about his nastiness, and he had absolutely no conscious. You couldn't appeal to his better nature or empathy. There was just nothing there at all. He would wind all the other pupils up in the class and then sit and laugh as they went off. He didn't make it to adulthood - died of a drug overdose as a teen. He would have made a horrible adult.

Samysungy · 17/05/2026 17:03

Nope I do not think it exists. I think it is a way to excuse, minimise and explains away violent behaviour which someone chooses to do.

A person can be mean, nasty, violent, manipulative etc but framing them as mentally ill and not in control of their behaviour is excusing it away. Everyone makes a choice on how to behave.

The assessment criteria for psychopathy is hit by over 50% of the population and as there is no test to prove it exists at all do we believe that 50% of the population are psychopaths? Nah.

LordofFraud · 17/05/2026 17:04

I have worked in the criminal justice system closely with adult offenders who have committed the most serious of crimes. Most often these people have had multiple disdvantages in their lives which have contributed to their offending behaviour (although this absolutely does NOT absolve them of responsibility) - things like parental abuse or neglect, extreme poverty, learning disabilities, traumatic loss, victims of war, dislocation from communities, addiction, grooming etc.

But now and again I've met people who outwardly appear to have had every advantage in life, deny experiencing adverse childhood experiences, and still show extreme callousness and lack of empathy. It does me wonder how early these behaviours emerge.

gotmyknickersinatwist · 17/05/2026 17:04

Have a read about this guy James H. Fallon
I believe there's a strong genetic component to true psychopathy then environment will influence how it manifets through behaviour

James H. Fallon - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_H._Fallon

PinkyFlamingo · 17/05/2026 17:04

I do not believe the child perpetrators were simply "born evil". No child I have worked with in twenty years has been. Their behaviour has always been understandable (though awful) in the context of the experiences they had themselves been subjected to

And no wonder so many children grow up to be rapists and killers etc with attitudes like this. "There theye you've had a crappy childhood so it's perfectly understandable you tortured a toddler to death". That's disgusting.
Lots of children live through abusive childhoods and don't murder people.

stargirl1701 · 17/05/2026 17:04

I met a child who enjoying killing animals. He seemed to be on that path.

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