To be furious that DP has bought a second hand pillow from ebay?

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I just can't bear the idea of a second hand pillow from god-knows-who. It's one of those very expensensive memory foam ones and has, allegedly, only been used a couple of times.

I know people you don't know have slept on hotel pillows, but...

he doesn't think it's my business - he says he will sleep on it - but I don't want it in my bed!

I said he would have to pay the £££££s it will cost if we have to have professional treatment for bed bugs and I just get 'yeah yeah'.

PLease someone give me some comfort - like 'foam pillows don't harbour invisible squirly things from other people's bodies' or something.

I am furious. AIBU?

LOL Knickers that exactly what I'd do!!!

Give it a good hoover and scrub then bung it in the freezer for 24 hours.

feck that sling it buy a new one

I think I read something about sticking stuff in the freezer to kill bugs. Is that right?

Or am I talking bollocks again?

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I've read it too (hence my suggestion).

whoops, sorry. I didn't refresh before posting so I didn't see your post. I feel rather rude now!

I bet you're jumping up and down yelling I JUST FECKING SAID THAT!!!!!!!

If my husband chucked out something I had bought on ebay i would chuck him out too

I wouldn't have bought it as it does sound a bit grim - second hand sweat and dribble - yuk!
If he insists on keeping it at least wash it well and buy a pillow protector!

If it's machine washable and tumble dry safe you can wash it and tumble dry it and it will eliminate any bed bugs. Provided the temperature of either wash or dry is above 60 degrees.

when ds was a baby i bought him one of those pillows which stops them getting a flat head and i think it was second hand. never thought anything of it tbh.

I wouldn't buy a second pillow, so I agree with you on that bit, but being 'furious' with him seems a bit excessive. Just tell him it's going nowhere near your bed. Are you angry because he paid a lot for it or something?

That should be second HAND pillow, obviously.

pmsl at some of this..."reduced to selling their own pillows" etc.

KM I was just breathing a sigh of relief at your dust mite protector when I got to the 'mold' bit....

I was furious because he went ahead and bid after I had specifically told him I wasn't happy about it and because it's not totaly his business, it being in our shared bed.

It will get washed, hoovered, frozen and encased, and then I will take refuge in Tinker's re-assurance that foam does not harbour squirly things.

Thank you.

I need to stop mnetting now and go drink more wine. I was wondering what a "hand pillow" was, and why your DH needed two of them.

how much was it???

Aldi sell new (clean, bugless) ones now and then for about a tenner. (But, having bought a couple, I wouldn't again - they are large and heavy and not squishy enough. OK for sitting up in bed, but I floor mine for sleeping)

I think a 2nd hand pillow is gross!!!

Put it in the freezer overnight. That will kill any living things there might possibly be in it. It probably has been only used a couple of times. Those "healthy support" ones can be uncomfortable and it is easy to buy one only to find that one or two nights on it are quite enough! You just can't test pillows before you buy, can you, like you can a bed.

WW - about £35 I think!!!!!!
It is a particular make, that are about £60 new, but even so.

And DS only wants one because DP has one. He had a crick in his neck this morning fom sleeping on DP's.

Oh well - I had better apply myself to eating all the ice cream in the freezer so that there is room when the damn thing arrives!