To be furious that DP has bought a second hand pillow from ebay?

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I just can't bear the idea of a second hand pillow from god-knows-who. It's one of those very expensensive memory foam ones and has, allegedly, only been used a couple of times.

I know people you don't know have slept on hotel pillows, but...

he doesn't think it's my business - he says he will sleep on it - but I don't want it in my bed!

I said he would have to pay the £££££s it will cost if we have to have professional treatment for bed bugs and I just get 'yeah yeah'.

PLease someone give me some comfort - like 'foam pillows don't harbour invisible squirly things from other people's bodies' or something.

I am furious. AIBU?

How much did he actually save by getting it second hand? I would buy a new one and replace it!

I would make him sleep, in the spare room.

I would not have bought one I have to admit.

I think YANBU.

How much did he pay??

I agree with you - there are just some things you don't buy second hand (or vintage as people like to call it now)

And as for hotels, I generally bring my own pillow, if we are arriving by car.

To me it's a horrible idea so YANBU

Still, the odds are that it will be ok since it will be from a household that can afford expensive stuff. I expect they put it on the bed once and hated it right away and maybe he will too?

YAB precious. What do you think you are going to catch from it?

So when you go to a hotel do you take your own towels, pillows, cups saucers plates, knives forks etc?

All these things have been used beofre and several hundred people have used them - some customers even steal hotel towels that must have been used 300- 400 times by different peoples bums and feet [gross emotion]

So what the heck if it is second hand at least 300 people havn't used it, thrown up on it, got mascara all over it sleep and hair and boogies...

And we all lose 1/2 a pint of sweat a night...

it's all about your piece of mind and comfort. if your not comfortable then your not being unreasonable.

Greyriverside - is it only poor people then that have bed bugs and germs etc?

lol at "it will be ok since it will be from a household that can afford expensive stuff" I can afford expensive stuff and my house is filthy. (except mondays when my lady who does for me comes)

plus I only wash my hair once a week (with expensive shampoo - I wonder if that cancels it out )

Does he buy his undercrackers from Oxfam too? YANBU (and I'm a tightwad myself).

GRiverside, am i right in thinking you are a man? I am so pleased to have a male viewpoint - it's just my DP who is of scummy enduring student ways, then?

Buying another surreptitoously is a good idea.

He will like it, he already has one which he has now promised to give to DS - hence the 'pre-loved and contaminated' one.

He would be in the spare room (oh yes he would!), but we are currently taking it in turns to sleep in there as one of us is on duty with DS in the night following his operation(he wakes in pain when his medecines are due) so although I don't have to sleep next to the pillow (when it arrives) I can't escape being in a bed it has been in.

Maybe it will be really foul and smelly when it arrives and even he will agree it is a 'eeugh' thing to do?

Foam pillows don't harbour invisible squirly things from other people's bodies.

YANBU - it will not have come from a household that can afford expensive stuff. It will come from a household so poor that they are reduced to selling their own pillows.

And I also take my own pillows to hotels. And if I'm flying, then I just take my own pillowcase.

If it's being sold does that mean it doesn't work anyway?

"reduced to selling their own pillows"

LOL, it's positively Dickensian!

eugh!like 2nd hand pants- embedded with someone else detritus.yuk

if it's foam I reckon you could chuck it into the washing machine and it will be fine. Tis a bit grim as it stands.

you know I read that once a pillow is 10 years old a third of the weight is made up of dust mite crap and dead bodies.

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YABU