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To think that "97% of women can breastfeed" is a load of crap

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elliejjtiny · 16/05/2026 12:53

I've been seeing this phrase a lot over the years, about how 97% of women can breastfeed and all the rest of the people who say they can't just need support.

I would guess that 97% of women can probably produce milk (although I wouldn't be surprised if it was lower) but there is so much more to breastfeeding than the mum producing milk which never seem to be mentioned. Mums with disabilities/medical conditions, babies with disabilities/medical conditions, babies who are born prematurely, mums separated from their babies and mums on medication that means they can't breastfeed.

When people gaily spout that 97% of women can breastfeed I find is so annoying and inaccurate. It's usually the same people who want the number of c-sections reduced as well and think that everyone can give birth with no interventions, they just need to stay mobile and ignore the nasty doctors.

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S3mple · 16/05/2026 13:56

Kendrickspenguin · 16/05/2026 13:53

I pumped for two months while my eldest baby was in ICU. Once he could feed orally he was exclusively breastfed. He was never given a bottle. My second was breastfed from birth because he did not need surgery, ECMO, a ventilator, a feeding tube etc. I believe that the vast majority of women can breastfeed. However as human beings mothers deserve just as much bodily autonomy as anyone else. I breastfed my babies until they were nearly three because I wanted to, I think it was in their best interests and I think it is better than formula. I am entirely comfortable with my choices.

Many things are better for children, things that have a far bigger impact than a few months of formula . When they get to adulthood you realise what an insignificant parenting choice breast v formula is.

Albarino · 16/05/2026 13:57

10namechangeslater · 16/05/2026 13:31

It’s not a narrative it’s the truth. Woman should be told the truth.

It's your truth though - BF was tough for the first few weeks with my first as she had tongue tie but then I found it very easy and it was a breeze with my 2nd. Overall, I loved BF and fed both to 2 yrs old. So I think the 'narrative' varies so much as people have different experiences - but as others have said if support is there it's always going to be easier.

TheIceBear · 16/05/2026 13:58

hahabahbag · 16/05/2026 13:24

97% of women do produce milk, that figure was around 25 years ago when I had mine. Of the 3% that don’t they are either due to surgery or extreme preemies typically. Many more women find breastfeeding challenging whether that’s because of lack of support, logistics, need to work etc but if those were solved they technically could feed their babies - my friend was very physically disabled (electric chair, hoist, catheter etc yet breastfed because bottles are far harder!)

if you have chosen not to breastfeed because you didn’t want to or doesn’t fit with your life that is absolutely fine but don’t imply you couldn’t. Even if you have low milk production you can mix feed while building supply. I support right to choose but not the claims so that so many women can’t when it’s actually lifestyle related not biology

I’ve done both breastfeeding and bottle feeding . I breastfed my first . After needing surgery post the birth of my second and missing the golden hour , having a major postpartum haemorrhage and being severely anaemic for weeks and exhausted my attempts at breastfeeding didn’t work out the second time around , but maybe it just didn’t “fit in with my lifestyle” . I guess I must be in the “three percent “.

Ohdearnotthisagain · 16/05/2026 13:58

It was too difficult for me and I’m ok with that. I pumped for three months with each baby before my supply couldn’t keep up, then gradually transitioned to formula.

Could I have kept going if formula wasn’t available? Yes. Was I a crying mess with shredded nipples and never ending back pain? Also yes.

Formula is fine. I decided to focus more on solids and was pedantic about that for a couple of years before chilling out and realising the occasional packaged thing is ok!

Bollixtothat · 16/05/2026 13:59

S3mple · 16/05/2026 13:38

No it exists so babies don’t die and mothers have a choice .

Perhaps in its infancy but now it’s to make money and encase it’s easy.

BrownBookshelf · 16/05/2026 13:59

Leavelingeringbreath · 16/05/2026 13:55

Very difficult to work out as wet nurses were used.

Yes, milk sharing and wet nursing are both things that humans have been doing for a very long time. All we can do is guess.

Bollixtothat · 16/05/2026 13:59

Because

Growingaseed · 16/05/2026 14:01

BerryTwister · 16/05/2026 13:49

I have no idea of the figures, but as a GP I hear of lot of explanations for stopping breast feeding that are frankly incorrect.

If people don’t want to breastfeed then that’s obviously their decision. But there are some myths I find frustrating, and the commonest is that mums think they’re not producing enough milk because their baby wants to feed all the time. Breastfed babies will often want to spend hours on the breast. Of course if that is not something that the mum/family can manage, by all means switch to formula. But it’s wrong to say the Mum wasn't making enough milk.

The other myth is that it’s fine to top up with formula and continue breastfeeding. This works for some people, but a lot of mums will find that their breast milk starts to dry up if there is lack of stimulation. Certainly in the early weeks.

Also, the latch/position can be difficult. I was fortunate (well unfortunate really, but it’s swings and roundabouts) in that DS1 was premature, so he spent 10 days on SCBU. This meant I had lots of help with breastfeeding, unlike mums who are home with their baby after less than 24 hours. I’m sure that more prolonged and intensive support would enable more latch problems to be resolved.

This is the most valuable perspective on here

TwiceTwoDouble · 16/05/2026 14:01

Sartre · 16/05/2026 13:35

Le Leche league are good and FAB. Support exists.

I called the La Leche league. Nearest support person was an hour away and they didn’t have anyone to send me. I’m sure they are great if you can access them.

My nearest city had a breastfeeding group, in a church up a steep flight of stairs I couldn’t carry two babies up post c - section.

My midwifes and health visitors were no help.

I fed my babies because my Mum fed all of us, my sister fed her babies and I was DETERMINED to.

It was sore.
It was difficult
One baby latched with no bother at all, but the other found it hard immediately post birth.

Breastfeeding is a skill

Like all skills some people (both Mums and babies!) are better at it than others.

Like all skills having a great teacher and practice means you get better at it.

Women should have choices, including the choice to use formula. But choice should include support.

lornad00m · 16/05/2026 14:04

askmenow · 16/05/2026 13:42

As an ex midwife, I would say its extremely unlikely that 97% of women can breastfeed.
Whilst it can be rewarding I don't think it should be forced or mothers made to feel uncomfortable at not wanting/ being able to breastfeed.

And it can be painful which is disenfranchising. Mums have enough on their plates without the extra burden of being forced to perform by those who think they know better. Babies can be raised perfectly well on formula so don't stress.

Thank you for comment. I think it's extremely important. 🌸

MrsAvocet · 16/05/2026 14:05

I agree with you to some extent OP and I am about as pro breastfeeding as they come. It's very over simplistic to say that "X% of women can breastfeed". As a scientist that phrase gets up my nose anyway as it's meaningless in that form. What qualifies as "breastfeeding"? One feed? One day? Exclusive for 6 months? Til self weaning ? People trot this kind of statement out with no idea what they really mean by it, or the source of the information.
It is a looong time since I was at the baby stage andcI have forgotten a lot, but if my memory serves me right, the figure comes from interventions in another country - somewhere in Scandinavia I think - that raised breastfeeding for 6 weeks to something like 98%. But even if we take that as gospel, 2% who didn't is 1:50 which isn't really "rare". Most of us wouldn't get on a plane if it had a 1:50 chance of crashing yet women get told that it's "vanishingly rare" to be physically unable to breastfeed. And there are of course lots of other factors that influence things in the longer term - social, psychological and medical. So as a stick to beat women with it's a terrible thing to say, suggesting that you a weird, deficient woman if you can't, or lying or a bit feeble if you say that you can't.
However...it is without doubt important to recognise that the majority of mothers do have the capability to breastfeed their babies if they wish to, certainly more than currently happens in this country. And we know, from amongst other things, many years of the national infant feeding survey, that a lot of women stop breastfeeding before they want to. Misinformation is a big part of that. I've seen an example this very week. My DD has had a minor blip with feeding her baby. I wouldn't even go so far as calling it a problem. She probably wouldn't have contacted her HV but happened to be seeing her for immunisations and mentioned it in passing. The HV's immediate response was "oh you're not making enough milk, start topping up with formula". This is complete crap. Fortunately my DD is well informed, very self confident and has a good support network. But if not, she would probably have followed professional advice, believed her milk supply was inadequate and in all likelihood she would soon have become another mother who "couldn't" breastfeed, which is absolutely not what she wants.
There are huge variations in breastfeeding rates within the country as well as internationally. It seems unlikely that Norewgian women are biologically vastly different to British women or that Glaswegians fundamentally differ physically to Londoners. So other factors must be driving the differences and I think it is useful to recognise that we are mammals, breastfeeding is the biological norm and most , but not all, of us will be capable of doing it with the right information and support. Data from other countries show us the difference that policy changes and specific information can make.
However, weaponising that data and turning it into a message that says "everyone can breastfeed, you're rubbish if you don't" is just as bad as saying "breastfeeding is really hard, you'll never manage it and it's weird anyway". We need to acknowledge the hurdles and support more women to breastfeed as long as they want to by making sure that, wherever possible, they can find breastfeeding solutions to their breastfeeding problems. Neither overly optimistic nor deeply negative information is helpful.

notacooldad · 16/05/2026 14:07

*10namechangeslater · Today 13:31
It’s not a narrative it’s the truth. Woman should be told the truth.

There isnt a single truth though.

Some people, like my mum, despite a lot of intervention was unable to breast feed. Her milk did come through and dhe was given tablets but nothing worked. No problems I am a fully functioning 60 year old with no health issues!

Some finding it incredibly difficult but persevere some for way longer than they need to.

Some mums need support to get going and then they are fine and others find it easy and have no real problems.

I would say that is nearer the truth than telling mums that it is incredibly difficult. I think saying that would put people off before they started instead of saying ' give it a go and see how you get on'

TheIceBear · 16/05/2026 14:08

TwiceTwoDouble · 16/05/2026 14:01

I called the La Leche league. Nearest support person was an hour away and they didn’t have anyone to send me. I’m sure they are great if you can access them.

My nearest city had a breastfeeding group, in a church up a steep flight of stairs I couldn’t carry two babies up post c - section.

My midwifes and health visitors were no help.

I fed my babies because my Mum fed all of us, my sister fed her babies and I was DETERMINED to.

It was sore.
It was difficult
One baby latched with no bother at all, but the other found it hard immediately post birth.

Breastfeeding is a skill

Like all skills some people (both Mums and babies!) are better at it than others.

Like all skills having a great teacher and practice means you get better at it.

Women should have choices, including the choice to use formula. But choice should include support.

Edited

That’s great you were DETERMINED . But I’ve seen women who were also determined and their babies ended up being admitted to hospital with failure to thrive because they were producing so little milk. These poor women were absolutely heartbroken and had tried so hard to exclusively breastfeed . They were in tears when the consultant suggested giving formula .

feellikeanalien · 16/05/2026 14:08

Happymchappyface · 16/05/2026 13:19

Sad that those doctors said that as NICU babies are the ones who really should be having breastmilk either from their mum or donated.

DD was not born in the UK. She was in NICU for three months. I was still recovering from a major op as a result of birth complications. Basically I was given a breastfeeding pump and told to get on with it. I was devastated at the small amount I produced and felt I was failing DD. She couldn't breastfeed as she was on a ventilator.

One of the other mums was so kind and said that because of stress as a result of DD being in NICU and incredibly premature it was hardly surprising that I wasn't able.to produce enough. I had no support from the medical staff although I can't fault their care of DD.

I think that lack of support is a major reason why many women who could breastfeed either stop fairly early on or dont start at all.

Besafeeatcake · 16/05/2026 14:09

Can’t vs won’t = two very different things.

Many women CAN but don’t want to (for whatever reason). Let’s not conflate the two.

The stat of 97% of women CAN is accurate. Those that don’t want to or won’t in the UK is about the highest in the world (very old studies but can’t see how things will have significantly moved on - although breastfeeding percentages increased during Covid). Women in the UK aren’t physiologically different nor are their children to the rest of the world so it isn’t about CAN but more about WON’T.

There is a cultural attitude to breastfeeding in the UK which is very different to a lot of counties.

I’m not saying it’s right or wrong it’s just what it is.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-35438049#:~:text=Rates%20of%20breastfeeding%20in%20the,Brazil%20and%2099%25%20in%20Senegal

https://www.nuffieldtrust.org.uk/research/international-comparisons-of-health-and-wellbeing-in-early-childhood#toc-header-3

Breastfeeding

UK 'world's worst' at breastfeeding

Rates of breastfeeding in the UK are the lowest in the world, an international study shows.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-35438049#:~:text=Rates%20of%20breastfeeding%20in%20the,Brazil%20and%2099%25%20in%20Senegal

Therescathairinmybath · 16/05/2026 14:10

Despite my best efforts,I’m still waiting for my milk to come in 30+ years later!😊

Dillydollydingdong · 16/05/2026 14:10

I would have liked to be able to breastfeed, but I didn't produce a lot of milk and it dried up quickly.

BertieBotts · 16/05/2026 14:13

It's obviously not true in our current context because around 80% of women start off breastfeeding, and of those, around a third experience no problems, a third experience problems but are able to overcome them (with or without support) and continue breastfeeding until a time they wanted to stop, and a third are not able to overcome them, and stop before they had wished to. It's that last third that the big question mark hangs over. (Some of the 20% who don't start BF at all will be second+ time mums who fitted into this last third previously and, fairly, want to spare themselves the pain.)

I don't think I have ever come across a single person (that I didn't think was trolling) who thinks that this third "did not try hard enough" or that the issue is effort or willpower related.

It's likely that some portion of this group have physical, hormonal, biological issues that no amount of support could mitigate. The 97% figure suggests this is only 3% though, rather than the ~33% accounted for by statistics.

Is 3% accurate? I think it's more complicated than that. Certainly 3% as a minimum isn't unbelievable, because evolution isn't some super-optimised thing and nature does include errors. I think it's a bit low personally. I think it's more likely that the figure of women who are always biologically going to struggle to produce milk is probably closer to 10%, partly because in a survival sense, having 90% of women able to produce milk means there would always be a nursing mother around even if it was not the baby's biological mother, and partly because more up to date research shows links between conditions like PCOS and breastfeeding difficulties, so it's also possible that if we go way back, mothers who would have struggled to breastfeed might also have struggled to conceive. Plus, there are environmental factors - various sources of hormone disruption - that would not have existed thousands of years ago.

But I do think the number who have a biological/medical reason to have difficulties breastfeeding is lower than the number of women who do experience insurmountable difficulties breastfeeding, and that's because I think our culture subtly undermines breastfeeding success a lot of the time and places barriers in the way of a breastfeeding relationship developing well. It's not necessarily overt and it's not necessarily malicious in any way.

I also think the middle third (who experience problems but overcome them) are likely to be increased by these cultural barriers.

When I say cultural barriers I mean things like this. Most new mothers have never seen any baby being breastfed, or have only seen it briefly, or many years ago, because we have fewer babies, we spend less time around babies in general, babies are less often breastfed and for less long, and it is seen as something taboo or embarrassing so it is polite to look away. When you see something frequently then you unconsciously pick up knowledge about what is normal and how to do it.

For example, when I went to work in a shop as a teenager, I automatically adopted the same way I had heard other shop assistants say things like "Would you like a bag?" "Here's your change. Have a nice day." "That's £3.72 please." When I first drove a car, although I needed lessons to really understand what to do, I had a basic understanding that I would need to turn the wheel to steer, to press the pedals with my feet, to change gear, to indicate, etc. It actually felt a lot more natural than I was expecting it to. I know what traffic light signals mean, even if I have to learn the exact meaning of the amber light for example. If I was to go and train as a train driver, I would probably need much more initial training on how to use the basic controls, because I have not spent a significant amount of time sitting next to a train driver observing them. I would have to study the signals to remember which signal means what because I have not already got any preexisting knowledge about train signals.

The same thing happens with anything we learn, including breastfeeding. In fact though, the thing we tend to have experience of is bottle feeding. We might even have bottle fed a baby before we have our own, and a lot of this observed knowledge tends to intrude when we try to breastfeed. For example, with a bottle you can look at the markings on the side to understand how much the baby has drunk and therefore whether you ought to try to convince them to take a little bit more or whether you are happy that they have had enough. Knowing how much they have drunk leads you to make assumptions about how often it should be before they are fed again. This feels like obviously important information and so the absence of it with breastfeeding can feel quite worrying. But in reality you don't need to know this at all, because babies (just like humans of any age) don't necessarily eat exactly the same measured amounts at every meal or even every day. The way that bottle feeding works means that it helps to be able to predict how much the baby will want to drink and when, so you don't waste formula. A bottle also has a set amount in it which when it is done, it is done. And then it takes time or effort to refill. But breastfeeding doesn't work this way. Essentially you have an unlimited supply of milk (not really, but in terms of the amount a small baby will drink) and it doesn't matter how frequently they feed, they can usually get more if they need it because your body just makes more on demand. The best way to increase milk supply is to feed more, because that will send a feedback message to your hormones to increase speed of production. But if you're unconsciously making an assumption that the breast is like a bottle which has a set amount and then needs time to refill, that can cause you to behave in a way which doesn't send those messages to the body and the body continues producing milk at the slower rate, or even cause milk to pool in the milk ducts, which is a backup system to account for excess supply, which is common after growth spurts or early on in breastfeeding when your supply is hormonally driven because your body doesn't know if you had twins or not. Actually if you're thinking about bottles, then you might even feel like you should be waiting for this time when your breasts feel "full", which is counterproductive as too much of this milk pooling sends the opposite message (slow down production/conserve energy).

I couldn't go into every possible way which bottle feeding as a norm or unfamiliarity with breastfeeding causes problems because it will be too long, but essentially if you look at any Attachment Parenting stuff (the older stuff like Sears, not the insane modern stuff like Komisar) which emphasises maximising close contact between the baby and breastfeeding mother, unrestricted access to the breast particularly during sleep, lots of skin to skin or other close body contact, all of this is great for increasing success of breastfeeding and our society is not at all set up for most of it, as well as delivering messages suggesting that "feeds" are a set, discrete thing which happen X times a day and it would be beneficial to measure them. Many practices which are actively normal or encouraged or even a genuinely good thing do work against breastfeeding as well. And there will be areas where success of BF is directly in competition with other things (such as SIDS prevention for example). So it's not simple at all. And lack of access to good, knowledgable, experienced BF support is an issue.

I would highly recommend The Politics of Breastfeeding as an interesting read on the topic.

Crew20 · 16/05/2026 14:13

Of course most women can breastfeed otherwise the human race would have died out.

OP you need to take less notice of stupid remarks from doctors. I once had a paediatrician tell me that the reason my baby (in hospital for sepsis) had diarrhoea was because I was over (breast)feeding him. Absolute rubbish.

S3mple · 16/05/2026 14:14

Besafeeatcake · 16/05/2026 14:09

Can’t vs won’t = two very different things.

Many women CAN but don’t want to (for whatever reason). Let’s not conflate the two.

The stat of 97% of women CAN is accurate. Those that don’t want to or won’t in the UK is about the highest in the world (very old studies but can’t see how things will have significantly moved on - although breastfeeding percentages increased during Covid). Women in the UK aren’t physiologically different nor are their children to the rest of the world so it isn’t about CAN but more about WON’T.

There is a cultural attitude to breastfeeding in the UK which is very different to a lot of counties.

I’m not saying it’s right or wrong it’s just what it is.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-35438049#:~:text=Rates%20of%20breastfeeding%20in%20the,Brazil%20and%2099%25%20in%20Senegal

https://www.nuffieldtrust.org.uk/research/international-comparisons-of-health-and-wellbeing-in-early-childhood#toc-header-3

Yep and the demonising of formula, scaremongering and refusal to say mixed feeding is absolutely ok is a massive part of the culture .

BreatheAndFocus · 16/05/2026 14:15

elliejjtiny · 16/05/2026 12:53

I've been seeing this phrase a lot over the years, about how 97% of women can breastfeed and all the rest of the people who say they can't just need support.

I would guess that 97% of women can probably produce milk (although I wouldn't be surprised if it was lower) but there is so much more to breastfeeding than the mum producing milk which never seem to be mentioned. Mums with disabilities/medical conditions, babies with disabilities/medical conditions, babies who are born prematurely, mums separated from their babies and mums on medication that means they can't breastfeed.

When people gaily spout that 97% of women can breastfeed I find is so annoying and inaccurate. It's usually the same people who want the number of c-sections reduced as well and think that everyone can give birth with no interventions, they just need to stay mobile and ignore the nasty doctors.

YABU. You completely misunderstand the point it’s making, and you’ve completely underestimated the pressure on women NOT to breastfeed. A lot of this pressure is very subtle and, shockingly, it’s from other women. You’ll see it all over Mumsnet and IRL.

The point of the saying, which is the opposite way round from what you’ve said - ie only 3% of women can’t physically breastfeed - is to reassure women that’s there’s no dark art involved, no exclusivity, no arcane skills, no special body type, no special breast size needed, and that the majority of women can breastfeed if they choose to and the situation and circumstances allow them to.

That’s all.

DinosandCarsAllDay · 16/05/2026 14:16

I think it's a helpful stat to remember for mums and health professionals. I personally know a lot of women who gave up breastfeeding citing low milk supply and were sad about it. The reality is that they didn't get the right support. It's a skill, something both you and baby need to master. It's foolish to think you can just birth a baby and put them on the boob, it's not usually that easy. Equally, very irresponsible of a midwife to not learn about it and help women.

So in my view, knowing that statistic should be a prompt to seek help before giving up before you are ready to do so.

If you want to formula feed, go ahead. But if you want to breastfeed, you need all the facts and some help.

The midwives in hospital knew absolutely nothing about breastfeeding and kept pushing formula on me (presumably because then their job would have been easier caring for me after a complicated c section). I had done a lot of research about BF, had expressed colostrum and paid for a private lactation consultant to come see me in hospital, otherwise I would never have managed.

ChelseaBagger · 16/05/2026 14:16

I think they probably mean "could physically breastfeed even it were significantly detrimental to the mother's (or the baby's) health", but it's just so irrelevant. There are many, many ways in which we no longer live like cave people.

100% of people used to cope without cars, without painkillers, without supermarket food etc etc, so presumably 97%+ of us still could. But we're lucky enough to have the choice. (and of course nothing like 100% of people survived without medical intervention)

TwiceTwoDouble · 16/05/2026 14:17

TheIceBear · 16/05/2026 14:08

That’s great you were DETERMINED . But I’ve seen women who were also determined and their babies ended up being admitted to hospital with failure to thrive because they were producing so little milk. These poor women were absolutely heartbroken and had tried so hard to exclusively breastfeed . They were in tears when the consultant suggested giving formula .

I’m not sure of your point?

My point was that I really wanted to breastfeed and the support wasn’t there to help me.

Even being so determined if it hadn’t been for the help of a very kind Mum at twins club (a complete stranger) I would have ended up formula feeding at least one of my babies.

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 16/05/2026 14:18

In many countries, 97% of women do breastfeed, so unless you think British breasts are inferior, it's correct.

Unfortunately, a large proportion of women get false information and inadequate support.

It's not something that people generally go into detail with but I know two women who "couldn't" breastfeed.

One was incorrectly told that her anti-depressant medication wasn't compatible with breastfeeding.

The other started giving formula almost immediately because the baby was "too hungry" (despite gaining weight and having plenty of wet/dirty nappies) and her supply quickly tanked. It's probably more accurate to say that she physically could breastfeed but wasn't prepared for the reality of having a newborn attached to her for large portions of the day and night, and had been led to believe that frequent feeding indicated he wasn't getting enough milk.