To ask for stupid reasons you've been told off at work?

[chailatte123]

I once asked a member of the Senior Team if she had dyed her hair.
Apparently this was very rude.

I don't think asking someone if they have had their hair done or had it dyed is rude.Do you not talk to your colleagues as people? I'd love someone noticing my hair and they have done frequently.

I've known some of my colleagues years and they wouldn't bat an eyelid at this.

Guess people get worked up over all sorts of things lately. There are more important and actual rude/ distasteful things to get upset over.

Yes I would and yes I have. Commented on new hair cuts or clothes I thought looked good on make colleagues.

For putting ear rings in a young person’s pierced ears. Apparently, she should have done it herself (she asked me for help) and I didn’t show enough concern about the fact she may have been allergic to the metal they were made of.

A simple telling off I’d have been ok with, but it was flagged as a safeguarding concern with LADO (they didn’t proceed with it) and I got a disciplinary warning that stayed on my record for 6 months.

I hole punched documents in the wrong place apparently and was told via email.

A minor celeb is now a client where I work. We were laughing about their ridiculous demands (amongst our own team) and boss went mental - asking who had leaked the info! They are all over social media - it's hardly a secret who they are!

It's not 'very rude' don't exaggerate. It's a bit personal and a bit strange to ask a superior, but not more understandable if they had a friendly and close working relationship.

-I got yelled at for not arriving 2hrs before my contracted start time, because the manager had booked a client in early- but didn't tell me.

-Told I was rude when I was given business cards. They'd spelt my name wrong and included my personal home and mobile numbers. I had no work mobile and wasn't allowed to WFH.

Did it come off?

Yeah I mean it’s hardly like you’re asking if they had a boob job or a full set of dentures.

This is hilarious!

I got told off for an inappropriate suit.
it was fucking gorgeous, it was the year 2000 a French connection. Short skirt, long line jacket, that was kept on and longer than the skirt. Black tights to keep my modesty.

sent home to change. It was a stunning suit.

Early 1990s got told off by the MDs personal assistant for wearing trousers to work.
They were smart, tailored trousers.
My first reaction was to laugh because I thought it was a joke but I got told off for that as well.
It was all the way to the MD who ruled that it was ok for me to wear them.
Utterly ridiculous!

When I was working in a care home

Told to leave the lady I was feeding because somebody urgently needed a second person to assist another lady to the bathroom. Ok. Asked another carer who was in the room to please finish helping the lady with her food. All good. Both women can now be assisted being my thoughts.

Get back to manager being outraged because lady had been left halfway through her food in an apron with food on it (lady had severe dementia, shakes a lot, doesnt always open mouth fully, even being careful food drops in this situation, hence the apron, she shouldnt have been left half way through because the other carer said she would step in for 10 minutes)

I was told off despite the fact that the other carer was meant to step in until I came back.

I had, in my mind, covered both peoples needs but it was my fault.

Lots of similar stories from care homes. Carers get told off even if they ensured things are covered, for having to leave one person to assist another even when there are at least 20 people for each carer.

That’s so cheesy lol I bet she thought she was clever

Depends on the context I suppose. If you shouted it out in the office I suppose it could be considered rude, but if you were chatting and it was said as part of the conversation and in context, I would say YANBU.

Repeatedly told my writing was too big, on scrap paper used for jotting notes by the phone.

I got shown and offered to feel someone’s boob job at work once.

she wasn’t from my branch was just visiting and hadn’t long had them done and was very proud. I didn’t ask I genuinely didn’t ask

Not wrapping someone's leaving present in the way she imagined I would do it.

She made me do it again.

I worked for a charity so used extra wrapping paper for this. What a waste!

If I asked how she is wanted things done in advance she wouldn't give a proper answer or write an email. I never had the proof I'd done what I was asked for. Just told me off for getting it wrong.

Why do you need to ask if their hair is dyed? It's either obvious in which case the question is rude and unnecessary, or it's subtle, in which case the question is just rude.

It's not rude to compliment someone in the right circumstances, but that isn't what the OP said she did.

It was genuinely meant as a compliment but point taken!!

I got told of by my employer for not standing aside and letting him walk through doorways first.

I think it could be illegal to stop a diabetic person eating at work, maybe under disability/chronic condition discrimination.

When I worked for the Courts processing fines - one of my best friends (we met through there) was new and answered the phone. It was a young girls father calling to pay her fine. He asked what the fine was for and he should have been told that information couldn't be divulged due to data protection. My friend told him while I was trying to tell her no. It was for prostitution. Don't know who was in more trouble - her or the daughter.

Wearing a white 'top', when apparently I should have been wearing a white 'shirt', even though I'd been told to wear a white 'top'. I was 18. It was waitressing in a cafe that had ideas above its quality station. I quit. Even at that age, I realised I wasn't willing to put up with the combination of pettiness and poor communication.

Our department told HR that refusal to consider a pregnant colleague for promotion was an equality issue. She got very huffy indeed about it, despite that fact that our department was stuffed with employment lawyers.