To find it rude that DP picks up his phone at every notification when we’re mid conversation

[dinnerdateeee]

DP has an Apple watch and phone and has always done these even in our early dating days. We can be mid conversation and a notification will come on his phone or his watch and he’ll focus entirely on that and start reading it.

we were having a bit of a make or break conversation at dinner the other night and while I was talking he just picked up his phone and started reading a message.

I paused and waited for him to finish and he had a go at me as he can ‘concentrate on more than one thing at the same time’

I just find it so bad mannered but AIBU?

these are not urgent notifications by the way just like group chat nonsense or whatever

i don’t think DBF is an understood term on here? Had to put DP or no one would understand it.

Dump the guy.
It is easy to say NO to a lump of electronics and plastic if DP finds you important.

Manufacturers make phones and programs addictive.

I will not have a conversation with anyone who prioritises a phone over me.

No phones near dining table.
No phones in bedroom.
No phones played with in the car while another person is company.

Always politely excuse oneself before making a phone call or taking a message, if it is an emergency.

I have zero respect for people who disrespect me in favour of a non present person/comment on the screen of a a phone.

I had a similar BF who used to chat on the phone while walking hand in hand with me, which I didn't like. Similar to you, I felt a bit of a spare part!

Should've seen the signs. After I accepted his proposal, he was on the phone to a mate within five minutes.

And later he used to go from hyper sociable to silent as he closed the door to dinner guests at the end of an evening.

I eventually got the message that I wasn't important to him.

its rude and people do get distracted