AIBU to ask for bank holiday pub shift off for Arsenal?

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I have a second job in a pub/restaurant that I work in around 6-10 hours a week on top of my full-time NHS role. I am paid fairly well but like everyone my CoL has gone up massively and I'm a single woman too. I also like expensive things/botox/nice holidays, etc. and my second job is also quite sociable. On the upcoming bank holiday Sunday there is a music and beer festival from 2pm which is likely to go on well into the early hours - we were told absolutely no holiday requests for that weekend. For context, I only usually do 11-4 Friday, Saturday, Sunday (usually 1 or 2 but never all 3). I get between £50-£100 a week which is nice to have.

I'm also a massive Arsenal fan. Have been my entire life. I know football isn't a big thing on MN but it can be substituted for any hobby that you love and feel passionate about. For the first time in 22 years, we may win the league with the game that's being played at 4pm ON BANK HOLIDAY SUNDAY. I have sent my boss (who I'd been friends with for a long time before I worked there and who knows how much it means to me) a pleading message saying that I would happily work the Friday/Saturday/Monday and/or until 3:30 on the Sunday but PLEASE could I have the Sunday night off (there are five or six other members of bar staff and we will be open from 11am serving food until 4pm - you couldn't fit all of us behind the bar). She's basically said sorry but nobody can have time off, but then said she's doing the shifts this week and can't promise anything...

I feel like she IBU to not make an allowance for something that hasn't happened for 22 years and I'm honestly tempted to just quit if she doesn't allow it. I can get another job fairly easily but probably not cash in hand/with as much usual flexibility. I just don't know what to do.

To add I probably am in a bit of a 'fuck it' mood right now as I've just started a new main job which feels full of completely incompetent people and it's pissing me off, also waiting on the results which will likely say my mum has a brain tumour so you know... shrugs

They might win the Premier League but they won’t beat PSG in the Champions League final on 30 May 🤭 Sorry that’s no help but I love PSG ❤️

As an Arsenal fan, I agree you should have the day off!!

But seriously, I guess I wouldn’t expect my job to take that into account for me. This is one of the cons of working weekends. I hope she does give you the time off!

I would quit if she doesn't give you it off. She'll probably take you back anyway. This is a serious matter! (Not being sarcastic)

Well I definitely don’t think you are being unreasonable. I’ll also be out that day hoping to celebrate.

Sorry about your Mum and I hope it’s better news than you expected.

Is there a compromise? Can you finish early? Can you beg a colleague for a swap or ask them to do an extra hour or two? in return for a swap for them later?

Doesn't sound like she expects you there all 4 days and will take your request into account.

If she doesn't, quit.

I’d just quit if she doesn’t let you, you don’t ’need’ the money anyway. Hopefully she will be annoyed but allow it rather than letting you quit

I don't see it as holiday/time off request. You typically don't work all days, you are not available on Sunday afternoon.

If you only work 11-4, then you don’t need time off? Or is the boss expecting you to work extra hours even though they aren’t your normal pattern? And not giving you any choice over it?

Missing the point but if you work 5 hours, how do you only earn ‘from £50’?! Do you not get minimum wage?

You're probably right but ironically I can have that whole weekend off 😂

@DialSquare love your username!

@Specialagentblond I've said I can work until 3:30 or even 3:45 at a push - as long as I'm in the pub for kick off (different pub, we don't have sky sports) I would even maybe miss the beginning if I had to. We don't get our rotas until the Monday before so I'll have to wait until next Monday....

@Shinyandnew1 minimum wage but I pay 40% tax due to my other earnings. And yes she expects all hands on deck with it being a special event regardless of whether it's your normal shift or not. There was a party recently and I luckily got away with working 1-9pm, some of the others were there until after 4am. That doesn't help my cause as I wasn't the late finisher that day either (although others finished earlier than me)