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AIBU to wonder which button people would press to survive?

213 replies

Boxingshibes · 09/05/2026 19:11

Everyone on earth takes a private vote by pressing a red or blue button.

If more than 50% of people press the blue button, everyone survives.

If less than 50% of people press the blue button, only people who pressed the red button survive. Which button would you press?

Red or blue
Red- aibu
Blue-ainbu

OP posts:
XenoBitch · 09/05/2026 21:40

NoisyHiker · 09/05/2026 21:39

I asked dc and thankfully I didn't raise morons.

All three immediately said red.

And this is why posting about truly hypothetical situations that will never happen are stupid when you call the people who would pick different to you as "morons".

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:41

SlumChum · 09/05/2026 21:39

For anyone feeling stupid about pressing blue - don't. It's just different approaches to an ethical question. There is no right or wrong answer, the point is to encourage ethical debate. Love how sure of themselves the red buttons are though!

It’s not an ethical dilemma because it has an easy solution with no risk or negative outcome or downsides for anyone. So everyone would choose red.

For this to be game theory, ethical dilemma then there needs to be an actual downside to choosing red, that people can weigh up against the possible rewards and bigger downsides. As I’ve outlines above.

asdbaybeeee · 09/05/2026 21:42

Red obviously . Everyone who presses red survives.

NoisyHiker · 09/05/2026 21:42

XenoBitch · 09/05/2026 21:40

And this is why posting about truly hypothetical situations that will never happen are stupid when you call the people who would pick different to you as "morons".

I said my own children would have been morons if they pressed blue.

Which they would have been. There is no moral or logical reason to press blue whatsoever.

SlumChum · 09/05/2026 21:42

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:40

Because it comes with risk, whereas red comes with no risk for anyone whatsoever. The only people at risk are those who don’t agree to choose red. And that would be their choice and they only hurt themselves.

That’s why this doesn’t work. It isn’t a game theory question. Because there are no bad outcomes for people choose red, and it guarantees survival so everyone would choose it. There isn’t a question here.
There needs to be some kind of risk to choose red. As I’ve outlined above. To make this a real dilemma.

Red comes with a risk for everyone who doesn't pick red. The risk is, am I willing in act in self interest knowing others could die. The risk for blues is am I willing to put my life in other's hands to save lives. Both come with risk, it's just which risk you feel most comfortable with.

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:44

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:34

I saw this explained in another way, see if this makes you feel any different about the choice.

Imagine a giant blender, you have the choice to get in it or not. If enough people get in, it doesn’t get switched on and everyone survives. If not enough people get in, those in the blender will die. Would you climb in the blender? (disclaimer you cannot see who is in the blender.)

No one would get in the blender. It can run empty and no one gets hurt. There needs to be another outcome, like a small amount of damage to everyone if no one gets in the blender.

Game theory has three outcomes.

A)Great for everyone in the group.

B)Good for the person who “betrays” but really bad for the person who doesn’t.

C)Somewhat bad for all, but at least guarantees survival/prize/freedom - just not as good as it would be if everyone cooperated.

Tontostitis · 09/05/2026 21:45

FruAashild · 09/05/2026 19:33

It's a stupid question, if everyone presses red, everyone survives, there's no downside. The only people who die are the blue pointless virtue signallers. But the question is designed to confuse because of the structure of the question which reminds you of questions where there's a choice between everyone getting something or one person getting everything.

Tbf getting rid of the pointless virtue signalers would improve the human race so it's a win win scenario.

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:46

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:40

Because it comes with risk, whereas red comes with no risk for anyone whatsoever. The only people at risk are those who don’t agree to choose red. And that would be their choice and they only hurt themselves.

That’s why this doesn’t work. It isn’t a game theory question. Because there are no bad outcomes for people choose red, and it guarantees survival so everyone would choose it. There isn’t a question here.
There needs to be some kind of risk to choose red. As I’ve outlined above. To make this a real dilemma.

You are clearly wrong or all the answers would say red. That’s the whole point of the question, it’s that people think there is a moral dilemma when actually the logical common sense choice would be to red but as you can see, loads of people think that picking blue is somehow morally better? Thinking that people who choose blue could be mentally impaired or have accidentally pressed it and we need to save those people by also choosing blue. That’s why it is going viral and there is a lot of discussion around it.

SlumChum · 09/05/2026 21:47

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:41

It’s not an ethical dilemma because it has an easy solution with no risk or negative outcome or downsides for anyone. So everyone would choose red.

For this to be game theory, ethical dilemma then there needs to be an actual downside to choosing red, that people can weigh up against the possible rewards and bigger downsides. As I’ve outlines above.

If you cannot see the risk of choosing yourself knowing others may die, then that's definitely one approach. It doesn't make it the definite answer, but a great starting point for debate, as we've seen on this thread. What has been shocking is how quick people have been to call 'blue pushers' morons, and that the world would be better off without them. To the point where blue pushers are saying they feel stupid. Very interesting social experiment!

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:47

SlumChum · 09/05/2026 21:42

Red comes with a risk for everyone who doesn't pick red. The risk is, am I willing in act in self interest knowing others could die. The risk for blues is am I willing to put my life in other's hands to save lives. Both come with risk, it's just which risk you feel most comfortable with.

No, pressing red doesn’t come with risk because philosophically speaking, no one would pick blue. There is no personal risk to choose red and there is no group risk to everyone choosing red. There is personal and group risk to choosing blue. Everyone would choose red because we would all understand that everyone else can u first and the question and see the obvious choice with no risk or downside.

This isn’t game theory. How many times do I need to explain an actually moral dilemma game theory scenario?

Roads · 09/05/2026 21:47

SlumChum · 09/05/2026 21:42

Red comes with a risk for everyone who doesn't pick red. The risk is, am I willing in act in self interest knowing others could die. The risk for blues is am I willing to put my life in other's hands to save lives. Both come with risk, it's just which risk you feel most comfortable with.

But red doesn't come with a risk? If everyone picked red there would be no consequences which is not true if you chose blue.

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:47

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:44

No one would get in the blender. It can run empty and no one gets hurt. There needs to be another outcome, like a small amount of damage to everyone if no one gets in the blender.

Game theory has three outcomes.

A)Great for everyone in the group.

B)Good for the person who “betrays” but really bad for the person who doesn’t.

C)Somewhat bad for all, but at least guarantees survival/prize/freedom - just not as good as it would be if everyone cooperated.

We are not discussing game theory, we are discussing the OP‘s question

NoisyHiker · 09/05/2026 21:48

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:44

No one would get in the blender. It can run empty and no one gets hurt. There needs to be another outcome, like a small amount of damage to everyone if no one gets in the blender.

Game theory has three outcomes.

A)Great for everyone in the group.

B)Good for the person who “betrays” but really bad for the person who doesn’t.

C)Somewhat bad for all, but at least guarantees survival/prize/freedom - just not as good as it would be if everyone cooperated.

The blender situation is exactly the same as the button situation.

There is no reason to get in the blender, or to press the blue button.

People may pretend they will vote blue because they mistakenly think that is the 'kind' thing to do online, but when it really comes down to it I would hope self preservation and logic would kick in.

SlumChum · 09/05/2026 21:49

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:47

No, pressing red doesn’t come with risk because philosophically speaking, no one would pick blue. There is no personal risk to choose red and there is no group risk to everyone choosing red. There is personal and group risk to choosing blue. Everyone would choose red because we would all understand that everyone else can u first and the question and see the obvious choice with no risk or downside.

This isn’t game theory. How many times do I need to explain an actually moral dilemma game theory scenario?

Please don't stress yourself out over this, I have PhD in philosophy, you don't need to explain anything to me.

Boxingshibes · 09/05/2026 21:50

I apologise as it was something I read on X and wondered what mumsnet thought. Not invented it or anything.

OP posts:
SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:50

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:46

You are clearly wrong or all the answers would say red. That’s the whole point of the question, it’s that people think there is a moral dilemma when actually the logical common sense choice would be to red but as you can see, loads of people think that picking blue is somehow morally better? Thinking that people who choose blue could be mentally impaired or have accidentally pressed it and we need to save those people by also choosing blue. That’s why it is going viral and there is a lot of discussion around it.

People are choosing blue, not because of morality but because of a lack of knowledge or intelligence.

For an actual moral debate, there needs to be three outcomes with risk/reward for the group be risk/reward for the individual. That gives a debate on morality.

This question gives a debate on stupidity. Only stupid people would pick blue, and I’d assume in a life or death situation that people could figure out that everyone will be thinking “red is guaranteed survival” so everyone would choose it. There is no downside. There needs to be personal downside and risk for this to become a morality debate.

NorthXNorthWest · 09/05/2026 21:50

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:44

No one would get in the blender. It can run empty and no one gets hurt. There needs to be another outcome, like a small amount of damage to everyone if no one gets in the blender.

Game theory has three outcomes.

A)Great for everyone in the group.

B)Good for the person who “betrays” but really bad for the person who doesn’t.

C)Somewhat bad for all, but at least guarantees survival/prize/freedom - just not as good as it would be if everyone cooperated.

Or people who choose the blue pill are choosing to put the control over whether they live or die in then hands of random strangers. No thanks.

“It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.” Charles Darwin.

XenoBitch · 09/05/2026 21:52

I will be getting in the blender and asking someone to press the button, because these things are bullshit and just gets people calling each other stupid over an impossible situation.

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:52

SlumChum · 09/05/2026 21:49

Please don't stress yourself out over this, I have PhD in philosophy, you don't need to explain anything to me.

I’m sure you do. Just like all the posters on the legal board who say nonsense advice and then say “I have a law degree.” Or people on the mental health boards who tell you to just smack your autistic kid and then say they have a degree in psychology.

Good luck on your philosophy journey. But I don’t know why philosophers who don’t know what the prisoner’s dilemma is.

SlumChum · 09/05/2026 21:54

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:52

I’m sure you do. Just like all the posters on the legal board who say nonsense advice and then say “I have a law degree.” Or people on the mental health boards who tell you to just smack your autistic kid and then say they have a degree in psychology.

Good luck on your philosophy journey. But I don’t know why philosophers who don’t know what the prisoner’s dilemma is.

Thank you! I'm not big into game theory, and I'm also not a fan of analytical philosophy as it's so rigid. But always great to hear a different perspective!

NorthXNorthWest · 09/05/2026 21:55

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:47

We are not discussing game theory, we are discussing the OP‘s question

You don't betray a stranger by choosing to live. We all had the same information, i am not responsible for their choice or the consequences, they are not responsible for mine, or the consequences.

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:56

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:50

People are choosing blue, not because of morality but because of a lack of knowledge or intelligence.

For an actual moral debate, there needs to be three outcomes with risk/reward for the group be risk/reward for the individual. That gives a debate on morality.

This question gives a debate on stupidity. Only stupid people would pick blue, and I’d assume in a life or death situation that people could figure out that everyone will be thinking “red is guaranteed survival” so everyone would choose it. There is no downside. There needs to be personal downside and risk for this to become a morality debate.

You are totally missing the point here, yes ‘stupid’ people will press the blue button The moral part is whether you want to try and save those people or let them die. This could include young children, people who are mentally impaired (conditions like dementia), low IQ or other reasons for not being able to comprehend.

OtterlyAstounding · 09/05/2026 21:57

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:50

People are choosing blue, not because of morality but because of a lack of knowledge or intelligence.

For an actual moral debate, there needs to be three outcomes with risk/reward for the group be risk/reward for the individual. That gives a debate on morality.

This question gives a debate on stupidity. Only stupid people would pick blue, and I’d assume in a life or death situation that people could figure out that everyone will be thinking “red is guaranteed survival” so everyone would choose it. There is no downside. There needs to be personal downside and risk for this to become a morality debate.

This. The only real, sensible choice is the red button. Anyone who presses blue is not thinking clearly at all.

SnappyQuoter · 09/05/2026 21:57

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:47

We are not discussing game theory, we are discussing the OP‘s question

Who some idiot on twitter has written because they misunderstood game theory and missed out on the actual interesting debate that comes with it.

This is a simple “everyone lives or everyone dies” choice. So everyone would choose red so that everyone can live, with no personal risk to yourself.

Prisoner’s dilemma, game theory, comes with risk no matter what. And it’s about weighing up that risk - choosing for yourself, even though there could be a slightly bad outcome but it’s better than nothing, or choose for the group even though it could mean you get nothing. That’s an interesting discussion. This is just stupid people vs anyone with a brain, because there is an option that has no personal or group risk of everyone goes for it. So everyone would.

JanBlues2026 · 09/05/2026 21:57

NorthXNorthWest · 09/05/2026 21:55

You don't betray a stranger by choosing to live. We all had the same information, i am not responsible for their choice or the consequences, they are not responsible for mine, or the consequences.

I agree with you. I would press red.

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