To take my daughter out of nursery because she’s constantly ill?

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My 18 month old daughter started part time half day nursery at the begging of March, 3 days per week 1pm - 6pm. I work from home as a freelancer so with those hours thought I would be able to take on more work.

Since starting she has been unwell constantly with no break inbetween and hardly been in. She only did one full week after her settling in session and then just the off day here and there inbetween in the illness and fevers. Started off with an awful cold that lasted a month and that the entire house caught, then a virus that caused a 5 day fever, then conjunctivitis, then another virus, then another cold that lead to a chest infection and she had a fever for 14 days!! Was on antibiotics but it wasn’t clearing so she was eventually admitted to hospital for IV antibiotics for 5 days. It really has been 2 months of hell. I’m completely burnt out and not only are we paying for nursery she hasn’t been attending, I’ve hardly been able to work myself because of all this.

I know children get unwell when starting nursery but when my 6 year old son started it would be every couple of weeks he would catch something but nothing to this extreme. Even my husband has had to take time off work to look after our son whilst we were in hospital.

Before this I was able to work a few hours a day during nap times and bed time etc, although still not ideal it was better than this. She’s a lot better in herself now so could go back on Monday but I really don’t want to send her back in just for this whole cycle to start again 😩 AIBU to just take her out of nursery until she’s older? Maybe 2?

YANBU- definitely take her out, she’s too little, nurseries are the wrong environment for under-3s for many, many reasons.

nursery and school are a hot bed for germs. It is a pain but it does build their immunity

Nursery is basically a viral soup. It was hell on earth with my second child. He started at 13m old had about 30% attendance in his first year. My husband and I were on our knees. We had to both take unpaid parental leave from work to look after him, after we both ran out of annual leave looking after him. (No family support) We were constantly sick and he was in and out of hospital with cough and wheeze. It was just grim.
With my third child I’ve put off going back to work and am not starting him in childcare until he’s three years old as a minimum. We are in a better financial position this third time round though.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5491815-to-take-child-out-of-nursery

Honestly if I’d had other options there’s no way I’d have sent my DC to nursery as young as that (for this and other reasons). In your position I’d definitely take her out!