AIBU to resent DH constantly complaining about tiredness since DD was born

[Weareallreallytired]

Before I start moaning, I just have to caveat by saying I know my DH works long hours and has a very stressful job. But I am honestly sick to the back teeth of him moaning about how tired he is since our DD was born 18 months ago.

From the day we left the hospital it was been constant. He moved into the spare room when she was 4 days old. She sleeps through the night now but I did every single night feed as I was breast feeding even when I had a sick bug and had to crawl into her room. I get up with her every morning even when we were on holiday, I didn’t get 1 lie in as he was soooo exhausted from work. The baby monitor disturbs him. It’s just endless moaning.

He does work long hours and there is a lot of evening events he has to attend whilst I’m a SAHM so I do totally understand that he needs to catch up on sleep but I’m sooo fed up of being up at the crack of dawn with DD whilst DH ‘snoozes’ upstairs and then having to listen to him whinge about how tired he is.

I’ve suggested he go back in the spare room, wear ear plugs, have white noise on etc but apparently he is still being disturbed.

I’ve tried so hard not to go down the competitive tiredness route but I’m just feeling livid today after a 5am start with DD and no appreciation from DH that I might be tired too!!!

A lot of Mrm suffer so much when their partner gives up 9 months of their life and agree to carry their offspring and endure HOURS of painful Labor pains with parts of her body ripped to shreds; they suffer so much and it's good that the government now recognise FATHER SUFFERING and have legislated for PATERNAL LEAVE. These poor souls, need nurturing again just like as if it was their SECOND Childhood. No one should expect them to contribute anything to the relationship apart from having a job, we don't want to increase their suffering further by asking them to mend a shelf, of retrieve their own cutlery from the draw, that could come across as abuse.

I’ve had norovirus twice since my 2 year old was born. Once when he was 5 months old and I was still breastfeeding. I still insisted on feeding him overnight so every time he woke up (average of 3 times a night then), his dad woke up too and fetched him from his room, gave him to me to feed, then put him back to bed while i went and threw my guts up. He then got up at 7 to go to work. That’s what fathers should be doing. You’ve apparently got two children, not one. You deserve better.

Presumably @Weareallreallytired started the thread to off load rather than to actually engage and get any useful advice

I'd show him this thread OP. He sounds like a nightmare. It must be impossible to feel attracted to him.

He will be too tired to read it