AIBU to wonder if a stay-at-home mum could become an MP?

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Do you think a degree educated, middle class 30 year old SAHM without any notable work history would ever have a chance at becoming a local councillor or MP? I feel like most MPs have either a local council or highly skilled professional background (law, finance etc). I’ve googled and I can’t find a single MP who has a SAHM background.

But you are all about improving the lives of children! What about the child in this example? They didn’t ask to be born. Would you condemn them to a life of poverty and disadvantage because you think poor people shouldn’t have sex?

You’re veering towards eugenics here. Only the worthy allowed to reproduce.

Be very aware of what you’re absorbing from those far right sources which are very clearly shaping your thinking.

So nothing to do with 'family values' then, because, obviously, being married or not makes no difference to our day-to-day lives or our daughter's upbringing.

Ugh, why am I engaging with this nonsense 😫

Reform is not a political party as we know it ie with members who can vote for the leader etc. It is a limited company founded by Farage. He is showing his anti democratic philosophy in plain sight.

You don't need to spend a lot of time online to know about him. Unless the news you are exposed to is heavily filtered, of course.

Quite. Since OP seems to be into her anecdotes rather than hard evidence, I will say that I've dated a few men with SAHMs and they have all, without exception, been entitled, incompetent man-babies. The type who will rant about traditional families and men being providers and protectors when it's time to wash the dishes or do the laundry, but call you a gold-digger if you expect him to pay for dinner, and send you downstairs to investigate if there's a bump in the night.

In theory, why not? But then they wouldn’t be a SAHM anymore, I guess?

Hopefully not every statement would start with “As a mom, I think…”.

You think it’s detrimental to teach children that there is value in caring for their own children instead of whisking them off to nursery at 11 months old?
Oh the irony from the likes in society whose children do one or two club activities daily, more activities at the weekends, are looked after by babysitters when they attend their important parties, force their children to do tutoring after school etc....all activities of course provides by other people they WHISK their kids to....

Also, lightbulb moment...you know the lesser people do look for politicians to come with answers and solutions, not just adolescent ideologies!

I'd like at least one answer. Who is going to replace the nurses, teachers, care home workers when instead, they'll get paid to be sahm? Because a large proportion of these workers wouldn't do it if it wasn't for the pay!

Back in the 1980s Shirley Porter, a SAHM,became a Conservative councillor and then Chair of Westminster Council. Apparently she had issues about always being wife, daughter. It didn‘t work out well at all.

Go for it - you are indeed a right fit for Reform. Cuckoo economics, divisive politics and all about number 1.

A close relative of mine was an MP from 2001 and retired at the last GE, so I’ve seen it from the inside.
It’s not a job, it’s an all consuming lifestyle.
You’re in London during the week and commuting home on a Thursday night for constituency surgery on Fridays, weekends are often more constituency work of the ribbon cutting variety. You don’t see your kids much, and need a very supportive partner or extended family/paid help. Unless you have a London constituency, the logistics alone are a nightmare. The money isn’t great considering the amount and type of work. At least half the population hates you on principle. It’s thankless work and as a backbench MP, very very hard to effect meaningful change at a national level.

In short, I really wouldn’t bother. But if you’re still keen, Reform (or Green) are more likely than the other parties to take a chance on a young SAHM.

What are your kids doing while you're spending a lot of time online op (since you indirectly admit it yourself in your Charlie Kirk schtick)?

Also, just to give your post credibility, where did you do your degree and in what subject?

Not quite the same, but one of our local councillors is a swimming instructor. She's amazing and gets loads of people voting for her every time!

Publishing eh?

OP, I'm going to be really honest with you, you are not yet ready to be an MP. You have some subjects you have strong opinions on, but you don't seem to have actual subject area knowledge or evidence for them.

Being an elected representative means representing your electorates views rather than your own. It also means a lot of reading, research, data and evidence. MPs rely on their offices and civil servants to produce data, models and recommendations based on that evidence. There is then lots of meeting and debates to figure out what the best course of action in, for the country and for the party. There is actually very little room for personal opinion.

OP - what commuinity involvement do you have currently? What volunteering or similar are you doing?

A SAHM (who had worked originally but stopped when her oldest born, who is now 7) recently was sucessful in our at getting elected as a councillor. She is very well known in our village as co ordinates lots of village events, lots of fundraising for charities in our area, most people have heard of her and see her as a dynamic motivated kind confident advocate. This is the kind of person I would vote for, someone who gets things done, she has proven herself to local people. Can you say the same?

I don't think people care so much now about your 'title' (SAHM, Dr, lawyer etc) but what you have actually acheived, what difference you have made in your local area?

I think you may also struggle to stand based on your 'manifesto', unless your husband is willing to become a SAHP if you were elected?

That's part of the problem with some people in politics/interested in politics.

Quick to want to reduce/take away PIP but doesn't even understand ADHD (insert Autism, depression etc).

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Why do I know EXACTLY the type of man you mean!

Unless you already have an established history of activism for your chosen political party, you won't stand a chance of becoming an MP. There's a rigorous selection process for the major parties. It's not something you can just rock up and they say 'fine you'll do' - well unless you're planning on being a Reform MP, of course.

You beat me to it!

Gosh I left this thread for only a couple of hours and the shark got well and truly jumped while I was away.

We need to remember plenty of research shows that rigidly held beliefs cannot be challenged with facts. This is a pretty good example of that.

The calibre of Reform's MPs and candidates is utterly woeful so your lack of experience, either paid or voluntary, wouldn't be a barrier for Reform.

Seriously you are so, so wrong. I would say the vast majority of people in this country know exactly who Charlie Kirk was. And if you think it's only people who 'spend a lot of time online' know this, that kind of proves my point.

Btw I think you jumped the shark with your Only Fans comment.

Well, I agree that a foetus isn't just a few cells. I think it's a potential life and shouldn't be taken lightly,,but most women having an abortion aren't doing that.

Most women do try & use contraception,I don't think women like that client are that common any more than Bonnie Blue is the typical Gen Z woman. Women who gossip about 8 abortions to the hairdresser aren't the typical woman who has an abortion in the UK.

Don't forget the women who have 8 abortions! Vaulting the shark.

I don't think she said she'd stop women working?