AIBU to wonder if a stay-at-home mum could become an MP?

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Do you think a degree educated, middle class 30 year old SAHM without any notable work history would ever have a chance at becoming a local councillor or MP? I feel like most MPs have either a local council or highly skilled professional background (law, finance etc). I’ve googled and I can’t find a single MP who has a SAHM background.

I’m not on your doorstep trying to convince you? I’ve made a thread on mumsnet to ask whether being a SAHM would mean that people be disinclined to vote for you?

being a SAHM would not affect my decision to vote for you. Everything else you've posted does though.

No? I’m saying I’m pretty sure I’ve read this but I don’t have the time to find you the exact article. You’re more than welcome to have a Google yourself.

She wants disabled people in work so people like her can continue to not work more comfortably and supports the party which wants to remove the accommodations and benefits that allow disabled people to stay in work. It sounds like she also wants Disabled Students Allowance gone too, so that we can subsidise people on £120k to have a SAHP.

Oh, and everyone needs to hurry up and get married and then stay married for life no matter how miserable they are, and encourage women to quit their jobs so they're properly trapped.

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Oh yay, so us working parents get to be taxed more heavily to pay for you non working parents as well?? Yup. Vote winning idea right there.

The whole sahm thing is so limited, there are only a few years where it really matters. You're in it now so you think it's all consuming, but it's not and I don't want to pay for you to stay at home any more than you want your husband's money to go towards people with disabilities

So you don't actually have any statistics, you're just making assumptions?

And in any case, we were talking about the benefits (real or just perceived) of having a SAHP, so the stats about children growing up in households where their father and mother are both present are irrelevant.

Also how can you be a SAHM and a MP?? Isn't that a job?

I think it's great to have more women in politics.

I do wonder if your posts are in good faith as lots of people who are interested in pushing their policies already do a lot to achieve those aims - for eg volunteering, leaflet dropping, supporting traditional values and families in other ways.

I also do think the single parent question is unanswered because it doesn't really feel like it matches your policy goals (which is having two parents, one of them working one of them at home, rather than allowing more/ different types of parents to not work and stay at home).

Politics is tough and not everyone has the answers! But go for it if you want to.

I've read a significant amount of research on outcomes for children of working mothers vs stay at home mothers over the years. I don't need to Google because I already know what that research says. And it isn't what you think it is.

If, as a SAHM currently with no job, you don't have time to research and present the statistics you are basing your platform on, what makes you think that as a working MP, still with children, you will have time? Or do you think that in the House of Commons you can just say that the things you're saying are probably true although you don't know the details and the right honourable gentleman should Google them?

I don't have the time.

"what happens if your marriage breaks down"

people should marry.

Not sure that answers the question.

Based on your politics, yabvu

As, not an insignificant number of, reform voters would tell you - get back in the kitchen 😩😩😩😩😩

I wouldn't vote for you then because I believe it does benefit society to support people with mental illness. Nothing to do with your previous career or lack thereof, but I do think your views very nicely illustrate that people who have led very sheltered lives are not the best people to represent society as a whole because they tend to have very little imagination or empathy for people who haven't had the same privilege.

But then not be allowed to divorce if economic dependence doesn't work for them.

But you claimed this to be your top priority (increased social good from mothers staying at home), and you proposed a solution - financial incentives to SAHMs.

But now it seems like this solution is limited only to a very specific demographic - i.e. mothers who already are able to stay at home because of a high-earning husband, and wished they had more spare money. Not middle- or low- earning women, not single parents who have no other option but to work as they are often the only meaningful income source due to ridiculous child support rates.

Is your home situation ok? Genuinely asking. Do you feel under a lot of pressure to go and work with small children?

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I would suggest that a good place to start would be be get involved in local politics, that is as a local Parish or Town Councillor. In my area there are more vacancies than potential councillors, so people can be co-opted to the local council and do not necessarily have to be elected. This will give you a feel for local Government and a route to progress perhaps to a County Councillor and then you would have some credibilty, if you wanted to try to be selected, by a political party to stand as an MP.

You can’t get PIP by pretending you have a medical condition, unless you manage to fake doctors letters plus a whole host of other evidence AND the DWP does not bother to contact your GP (they wrote to mine when I claimed). If you think the people you know have claimed fraudulently, then please report them https://www.gov.uk/report-benefit-fraud. However it is incredibly unlikely because tbey are incredibly thorough.

To stand any chance of getting PIP for ADHD, you would need a formal diagnosis. For anxiety, you are likely to need to have had treatment from a psychiatrist. I know this because I claimed PIP and none of my claims about anxiety were accepted because it was being treated with standard medications that GPs can prescribe….. in other words they said the medication I was on proved that my anxiety was not that bad.

Regarding ADHD - if is very disabling. it’s no coincidence that a people with ADHD have much worse outcomes, on average, in most aspects of life - career, finances, physical and mental health. Many people with ADHD do not qualify for PIP unless they have other health problems. However some people who only have ADHD do qualify.

I get PIP, but not for ADHD. However I do have ADHD. I get PIP for several physical serious physical health problems that are comorbid with ADHD. I might not have developed these conditions if my ADHD had been diagnosed and treated earlier.

I very much agree with a lot of the views held by Charlie Kirk if anybody has ever come across him.

You say that they all have a professional background OR one as a councillor. But being a councillor is usually a precursor to going for an MP post and has nothing to do with whether someone came to politics as a SAHM. I wouldn’t want to vote for someone who hadn’t at least been involved in local politics before wanting to be entrusted with a seat in parliament.

Of course you do. That was obvious from the start.

It’s incredibly easy to get a doctor’s note for anxiety! And to attend a couple of counselling sessions regarding it.

What physical conditions are comorbid with ADHD?

If you need to ask, there's no point in explaining it to you.