DP shouting to neighbour who we keep overhearing in the bedroom

[Neighbourproblem26]

We’ve had an ongoing issue with one of our neighbours and overhearing sexual noises because they don’t shut their bedroom window at night. We’ve attempted to respectfully raise it but they just continue. Another neighbour has also done similar - they think the couple are doing it deliberately and getting kicks out of it.

This has really started to wind my DP up. He has made a couple of sarky comments to the man when he’s seen him on the drive into the past few weeks. The man laughs it off which has riled DP up more.

Tonight, we were coming back in from the car having been shopping together and the man was entering his house having arrived home just before us. DP shouted to him - “give her one from me”. Again, the bloke turned and laughed.

I found this an odd comment for DP to make - his response being that he is trying to embarrass them and make them feel ashamed. I said the only person he embarrassed with that was himself.

He’s now having a bit of a sulk. Does anyone else find his comment odd?

not the same but I had a neighbour that use to let their dog shit on my lawn EVERY DAY. So one day I picked up that wet shit and put it in their letter box. At night she came home and screamed........Her dog NEVER shit on my lawn.

Sorry, I thought it was funny and I kind of get your hubby's stance.

I like @eyeballer suggestion of recorded canned laughter! Or perhaps a baby crying or dog barking may put him off?

He has a right to be annoyed and he was trying to shame a pos into doing the right thing. Unfortunately he made it sound like he wants to fuck the other woman, which I am sure was not his intention. He needs to choose his words rather more carefully.

Canned laughter turned up loud is a great suggestion, or just really loud music. We had an issue with neighbours who would turn loud music on intermittently on Sunday mornings and afternoons. We put ACDC on for about ten minutes to a deafening volume (through a back door that pointed towards their house) and did it each time they did this (on one particular day) and they stopped and haven't done it since.

Just turn it on for five minutes, super loud, then off again. If nothing else it will drown the creepy bastards out.

If you think your neighbours are showing off with their noisy sex your partner is basically cheering them on!

Why not play something really unsexy over a loud speaker every time you hear them at it to put them off - something like Allan Partridge quotes?

@Neighbourproblem26 he was lucky the neighbour didn’t give him a punch in the face talking about his wife like that!

It was a very odd comment to make, it probably sounded better in his head. Yes, he embarrassed himself but he achieved raising the subject of sex again, so that’s something I suppose.

It seems quite misguided. Clearly your DP must on some level be intimidated by this other man and lacks the stones to actually confront him directly - so in that case why bother. Misogynistic, crude comments on the driveway will achieve what, exactly. The neighbour obviously isn't in the slightest bit bothered, has already heard that this is an issue and has taken no action, and now has just received the verbal equivalent of a high five from your DP.

I'd also be embarrassed by this behaviour OP, and would tell him to either grow up and speak to them about it in a mature and direct way, or simply say nothing going forward. Sarcastic comments and then this is a bit pathetic. If the issue can't be resolved he is just going to have to accept it and focus on other channels - soundproofing, the council if it's really that bad, a fan for your room in lieu of the window open when this is an issue etc etc

To be clear I do think the neighbours sound awful and do sympathise because ours do the same (thankfully not constantly) but he really needs to ground himself over this and find other ways to deal with it. They are realistically going to continue doing as they like so he might as well just get on with his life than spend it fuming/sulking and plotting pointless quips.

A lot of oinking and porcine grunting should do it.

basically hes only embarrassing himself,

It is very likely that your husband is aroused by the noises from next door. In his imagination, he probably is giving her one already.

This sound like it should have its own thread

Your neighbours sound hellish. Why don’t you have a word with her and just mention decorum. I would also play canned laughter really loud or the Benny Hill theme tune.

Benny Hill theme tune 😂
Yes, try this - it might put them off their "stride" due to the silliness 😁
(Thanks for the earworm!)

Play Guns n Roses “Rocket Queen” loudly every time. If those <ahem> noises don’t put them off nothing will

They’re fucking with you. They’re taking the piss out of your husband and he’s rising to it time and again.

Tell him to just drop it.

His “give her one from me” comment literally sounds like he thinks it’s funny and doesn’t have an issue with it. What a fucking weird thing to say if he does have an issue with it.

They re getting off on it.

OOh no. The correct thing would be to wait until they finish one night and loudly comment that the noise may be annoying but at least it doesn't last very long.

How do you know he’s missing anything? OP says nothing at all about their own sex life. Maybe they have sex most nights but are just respectful enough to shut the window so all the neighbours don’t have to listen

It’s a misguided comment but the ones in the wrong are the neighbours for continually leaving the window open , it doesn’t seem accidental as they’ve been asked nicely to be more careful. Maybe ask the police if there’s anything can be done?

be careful he does not get invited round there!

Or play the William Tell Overture or the 1812 Overture by Tchaikovsky with cannons blasting off in the background .

I can't with these posts.

Honestly from all of it. Think your partner said it in the hopes it would gross the guy out. Cause that is a gross thing to say and would creep or piss off most people. Think your DP is right, they get off knowing people can hear them.