Morphed into irritable old woman

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Not really an AIBU but anyone else late 50’s find themselves impatient and snapping? Just seems I have no patience anymore for anything or anyone. I must be a delight to be around!

Yes.
I try to find ways to manage it by removing myself or changing the routine. That seems to help.
Recognising that I get irritated by something that I never used to and doing something different.
I guess if it was generally just my husband that could be tricky though as it’s a big thing to change one of them!!!!

Yes. Some interesting takes on this here. I want to be „zero fucks given“ about things that don’t matter. I agree that being angry and forthright is the opposite of zero fucks given. I am like that and I really don’t want to be. I think it’s liberating to be at a place where you realise your needs aren’t being met and to be at a place where you can no longer tolerate that. But I want to be able to meet that awareness calmly and without anger. Because the irritability is completely exhausting. And I don’t want to be that irritable nightmare I currently am. Zero fucks given to me implies peace. I’m exhausted, angry and unable to do anything - that’s definitely not peace.
im hoping it’s a journey I’m still on because I really don’t want this to be the destination!

I find my husband and his situations are the culprit. The rest I can cope with, except not using indicators on roundabouts...when I am waiting to join..

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I believe not worrying what people think of you is a good thing.
I don’t believe not minding your manners is. If I catch myself being rude or irritable then I try to stop. I wouldn’t like it back to me.
If someone is rude to me then I will say what I think. But I try to do it in a mannered way. I am not always successful though.

HRT? 👌

Is there something bothering you? Is life OK?

This is me!!! And I’m a good 20 years younger. Really ramped up this year. Going to the docs next week cause I’m so so outrageously grumpy, it’s not good for anyone. B12 check is a good idea! Any other medical things to check for in people’s experience? One of my most instant snaps is giving cyclists what for for cycling through red lights.

I'm not sure if it's my age - 61 - or the menopause, which clopped me at 42, but while I'm normally quite patient, level-headed, I find myself more and more becoming grumpy and bad-tempered!

I love my job, I have a brilliant lady boss, but regularly I lie in bed grumping to myself that I don't want to get up to go to work, or to the shops.

I crash into the shower, then dress, grumping to myself about all kinds of stuff. But I won't let anyone else see it, I just keep it to myself, like a secret I'll be taking to my grave, then put on my normal, calm personality when out.

It feels like my personality is getting darker and darker, and I find it quite scary as it's not my nature!

Thankfully, I live alone, so I can't bite off the heads of innocent victims!

Loud apple chomping would give a lot of people the rage I would have thought! DH does it sometimes when he comes to chat to me in the afternoon, I only just about manage to hold it in, giving him single word answers or hmmms, while internally chanting "please piss off, please piss off...."

Nothing, its natural. The only reason I think its working is my friends have raved about it, so I went on it and I really have lost so much of my crankiness, am calmer, don't care if people eat or not, have so dropped the rope in my life. I take it at night with magnesium and am sleeping better too. Definitely worth checking out IMO. I was a cranky bitch in myself, biting my tongue and avoiding people for a few years.

It's biology. Once we don't need them to produce children, that's it! 😄

I can't be bothered to get upset about stuff like that

Friend’s two year old child was run over by an e-bike when the child had stepped out crossing on the green man, so because a e-bike the guy was going quite fast. When the other cyclist also on the road berated him for skipping the red he calls out “but I didn’t know I was supposed to stop on red?”. So many Deliveroo people near me zooming in and out across the road, going the wrong way down a road. When you have toddlers and young children it’s exhausting trying to protect them from the rule exempt bikes near us. Defo a room 101 for me!

Thank you will do!

I have nothing to complain about that’s for sure.

Im 81 and I have had enough of people so I stay away from them as much as possible. If I need something explaining I ask an AI as they are endlessly patient and dont mind if you swear at them

Transdermal Bio/body-identical HRT etc IS natural.

Exactly the same as our own bodies produce for the previous 40+ years.

I deffo think peri/menopause unleashes an element of "the worm has turned" for many women 💪

100% I’m loving it!!