Morphed into irritable old woman

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Not really an AIBU but anyone else late 50’s find themselves impatient and snapping? Just seems I have no patience anymore for anything or anyone. I must be a delight to be around!

Wait until you hit your '60s...

This kind of behaviour is not nice to be around and is exhausting for the person displaying it. Be careful. Rage might feel cathartic but is ultimately damaging and snappy, miserable people tend to end up isolated. There could be a physical cause or it might be a symptom of anxiety or depression. Something to keep an eye on anyway.

Lying to the cat is a step too far. Obviously you exist to serve her.

Once you’re past the menopause and you no longer have sexy hormones, you realise you’re sharing your home with an irritating old man who fucking breathes loudly, all the time! 😂

HRT helps!

Isolated sounds just fine.

There might even be a cat, and some wine. Oh no!

The glass is just full. 50 something years of putting up with shite, listening to shite, I can anticipate pretty much every excuse everyone is going to make for their awful, stupid, self sabotaging or otherwise painful behaviour before they even say it, or do it.

I think patience is finite, certainly mine has reached its limit with irritating or unpleasant behaviour.

I have to get off this site, it is my form of doom scrolling. Watching woman after woman throw herself under the bus of truly worthless men is bad for my mental health. No, that doesn't mean I think all men are worthless. But I am getting a skewed view of them because of all the doormats on this site. :(

I have definitely found this. It’s been building significantly in the last couple of years. I was all into the It’s Liberating! attitude and decided it was mainly because everyone else was so annoying (they really are!) but had a bit of a clash with teen DD just at the weekend which has sobered my view a bit and am now looking to turn things around. When it comes down to it I don’t want to be constantly irritated or unpleasant to be around.

I’m with you, OP. Also, it’s fury at being treated as if you were invisible. I’m sure that when I was a teenager we weren’t the vapid ill-mannered bunch I see on the local trains, spreading their bags out on the seats, putting their shoes on the seat opposite, oblivious to everyone but themselves and their friends.

I quite like being "invisible", I just do what I want now. Pretty much only acknowledge other women/older women these days. The rest of people I just leave to it.

I don’t know why people are going on about this being a post menopausal thing. One of my earliest memories is of being at a playgroup and being immensely irritated that a child had brought in a Jack-in-the-box but wouldn’t let anyone else play with it.
I made my three year old feelings very clear to him.
I’ve remained happy to vocalise my irritation ever since (over 50 years!).

45
and honestly can’t say that I’m irritated or pissed off about much in life. In fact, very very rarely 🤷‍♀️

Exactly! Seems a thoroughly shite way to live. For both the OP and those around her

Any side effects? Sounds like it’s worth a try.

I’m nearly there. We were discussing booking a special trip with friends to celebrate our 60th but I’m thinking by the time we get back they won’t be my friends anymore!

I'm not calling you out on this, believe me, you do you. But I remember a long time ago, when my MIL turned 60, she said the same thing.

My response was, "You'll be treated as you treat others,"

Some people think being rude is a right of passage that comes with age but, IMO, the older generation should be setting an example for the younger generation and also being nice so we don't get thrown into care homes for being dickheads!

When I say that I mean I’m past caring what people think of me and will speak my mind if the situation calls for it. I am no longer a people pleaser and if I don’t want to do something I’ll say so. I agree with you there is no need to be rude just because you reach a certain age and I will treat others as I expect myself to be treated.

It’s not about being irritable all the time. I’m not. It’s about not putting up with stupidity, stopping pleasing people all the time and doing things you want to do and having the mindset of if people don’t like it or you, that’s their problem.

I'm 51 and hope to carry on pleasing people for as long as I possibly can

There is a woman at work like this. She snaps at her team all day long and the rest of us feel sorry for them.

Yes, that makes perfect sense!

Wish MIL had your brains 😆

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So what if you are irritable sometimes - there are plenty (if not more) irritable men around. I'm all for equality!

There's a difference between being rude and not accepting the bollocks you've put up for years.

An example, I'm suited and booted walking along the pavement and a young couple with a pram came the other way. No effort to go into single file, so.i step into the road. No acknowledgement. So was being unreasonable to say "no don't thank me, I'll get run over so you don't have to fucking move"...I will own the f bomb was a little out of order, but ...

I just don't smile and let it pass anymore. If you are being a dick and it effects me..
I'm telling you

Please don't get me started with the entitlement of those with prams. I am having a good day.