22:30 work call - completely unacceptable?

[shortbreadconsumer]

I received a work call from someone in my organisation at 22:30 last night. I answered, thinking it was an emergency. The colleague was completely hysterical and impossible to understand. In the end I had no choice but to end the call with 'we can discuss this in the morning.'

This morning I spoke to the persons line manager about it, who said that it was 'unfortunate, but not unreasonable' for this individual to have called me as I had not answered any emails from said colleague over the weekend. They had sent me over 50 emails this weekend. I did not see the emails as seniors within the organisation take an 'if it's urgent, they have my number' approach.

I am more senior than both of of these colleagues and I was 'on call' all weekend as the most senior point of contact in the organisation. However, this was not an issue that required weekend working and, more importantly, it was not an issue that I needed to be consulted on. It was very simple and should have easily been resolved in working hours by this individual alone - her direct line manager would not have needed to input either.

AIBU to think that this was unprofessional and unacceptable from both of them?After no sleep, I've reached that 'was it really that bad' point where I am so sleep deprived that I am not sure whether I am overreacting in my annoyance or not!

and quite frankly, friends or not, if you're naïve enough to give the people you work with access to your private social media, more fool you.

Your not friends with any of your colleagues. apart from my parents (who are my bosses)

You never go on nights out work Xmas do

birthday cards - no, birthday person buys the office cakes

or go to their funerals - we closed the business for a day to attend the funeral of a long standing employee

or weddings - no weddings are expensive, people tend to invite family & close friends.

thats really sad. I've made some amazing friends through work - I have very little in common with most of them. My friends are outside of work & usually people with common interests.

I've always been friends with people I work with so this is a different world to me where you all hate each other and refuse to speak unless its about work and only at certain times. That sounds an awful work environment

No, it’s a fantastic work environment. We all get on and have a laugh but we are professional & have boundaries. We go home to our families & have a life outside of work.

Why what on earth do you think im posting. Its social media if its something that bad I wouldn't want people at work to see it i certainly wouldn't be posting it on social media

Another idiot! Work computers do not get switched on over the weekend unless somebody is being paid to work overtime and be in their work email account. Being on call is different, it's a telephone only system for many people including the OP! She isn't supposed to check her emails outside work in her own time and mentioning Facebook is bloody ludicrous when it's completely irrelevant!

Why did you call me an idiot?

Can you not comprehend a relationship between two people where they're neither friends, nor do they hate each other?

this is a different world to me where you all hate each other

Who has said anything about hating anyone?

That's nice? Mine don't, and the OP's might very well not either.

I think this person’s work colleagues probably have a different opinion of her than she thinks.

be aware that there is legislation being considered that will give a legal right to disconnect from work.

I am perfectly capable of getting on with/being friendly with people i've worked with, and i know how to make a work environment friendly, affable, pleasant, and a good supportive place to work.

However, the People i work with are very rarely the same kind of people that i choose to socialise with outside of work, like night and day different.

I've also learned to keep people i work with at arms length because when you're 'different' people are incredibly likely to stab you in the back as soon as smile with you at work.. hence my comment about not being stupid enough to add anyone i work with to my private social media.

They're people i work with, acquaintances, not my friends.

I think a significant amount of these comments imply that. Who the hell hangs up on someone who calls them and is hysterical to the point you can't even understand what their saying and then gets that annoyed about the inconvenience they don't sleep and then write about it on social media
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I totally agree. Plus when you are in a position of responsibility such as a manager it is best NOT to be friends as there may be times you have to make difficult decisions or circumstances. It’s a bit different if you are all at the same level. But a manager needs to maintain a professional distance.

you CLEARLY don't have the kind of personality where there are some things you do/say/think that aren't suitable for the professional environement.

I don't need my boss/colleagues seeing the vulgar, sweary, outspoken shit that i post to my friends on my social media, nor my religious (i'm a witch) beliefs and meanderings, nor my feelings about my disability, my health care journey, or my kids.

The professional person i present at work in my line of work is not the private me.

Thing is, your examples confirm that the my answer is NOT stupid. All your examples are

1. emergencies
2. situations where organisations know that they will need staff to support with that function 24/7 because it will NEED to be in order 24/7.

No-where did I, or the original poster, suggest that any role should be banned from having a night working element. and indeed ALL the things you've mentioned, would logically involve a night working element, as you suggest.

What the poster was talking about is being employed in a role where emergencies don't occur and being rung at 22:30 at night for a non-emergency. My point still stands that there is NEVER a reason to ring an employee who does not work nightshifts, at 22:30 at night, for a non emergency.

I will hang up on anyone who phones me when they should not.

Dont forget that OP doesn’t even know this person.

You don't sound unreasonable at all, based on either the procedures you've outlined or your clear bafflement at what the hell.

You're right to wonder what is going on with your colleague - she shouldn't have been working at weekend but was, late at night, and in a state. She clearly needs support so I hope she is getting it rather than just being reprimanded.

If that was true why would they come round my house, come out for my birthday, invite me for nights out or round for bbq or to their weddings. I was bridesmaid for one of my colleagues i even had one of them come with me to a hospital appointment. Why don't you understand some people do have close relationships with people they work with.

Are you for real! You've plastered all over here that you are complete bunny boller that would use ridiculous excuses to stalk them and harass them at their own homes, you've posted that you would stalk them at heir homes if they didn't respond to out if work harassment via their work emails! You couldn't paint yourself any blacker! That's if you even work because earlier you were demanding that everyone with MH be paid to stay home. You sound delusional just like my mum gets, you make things up because I you want a reaction. I don't believe for one minute that you have all these colleagues and managers on your Facebook because that's not normal for anyone to have every single person at work on their Facebook. Your self admitted need to stalk and be given attention every 6 minutes would have you blocked and sacked very quickly.

Thats awful.

nope. it's called boundaries.

You've exaggerated about 90% of what you have written there

Why don’t you understand that some people don’t.

I have a family, a husband, elderly in laws with health issues, neurodiverse children and we value our family time. It is sacred. I also have genuine friends. No work colleague will ever come close to that.

Because you claim that you stalk people and bully them for attention. You are inventing a life that I don't think you have, bpd makes you fabricate things and makes you contradict yourself!