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Do people pretend not to know who people are in order to seem intelligent?

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coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 09:35

Do people pretend not to know who people are in order to seem intelligent?

This question is prompted from reading comments online re The Met Gala?

Now let me prefix this by saying I have no interest in reality tv, Showbiz mags, etc - but surely there are some people who you know who they are because everybody does!

There were people saying "who" on a photo of Kim Kardashian. I have never seen an episode of the show, have no interest in her, but of course I know who she is - because how can you not?

Another British example is Jordan/Kate Price. No interest in her, but she has literally been headline news in The UK for 20 years. If you live in The UK - surely its impossible to not at least know who she is?

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gamerchick · 05/05/2026 09:47

You can know a name but not knowing who they are. I had to ask wtf a Kardashian was because I kept hearing/reading the name.

Still none the wiser to why they were a thing or would I recognise one from a picture without their name.

I don't watch a lot of telly and don't read magazines or follow any popular crap. So why would I know who's who?

Mention Hideo Kojima to me then not only do I know who that is, id probably be able to have half a decent conversation

Lovemuesli · 05/05/2026 09:47

I'm in my seventies and I have heard of Kim Kardashian and Jordan but I wouldn't know either of them if I fell over them in the street.

It's no measure of intelligence.

takealettermsjones · 05/05/2026 09:48

gamerchick · 05/05/2026 09:47

You can know a name but not knowing who they are. I had to ask wtf a Kardashian was because I kept hearing/reading the name.

Still none the wiser to why they were a thing or would I recognise one from a picture without their name.

I don't watch a lot of telly and don't read magazines or follow any popular crap. So why would I know who's who?

Mention Hideo Kojima to me then not only do I know who that is, id probably be able to have half a decent conversation

Edited

I don't watch telly either, or read magazines, or follow "crap," but people like Kim K are in mainstream news all the time.

mycheeseplantiscalledcharles · 05/05/2026 09:48

I've heard of the Kardashians but wouldn't be able to recognize her. Would possibly recognize KP. Nothing to do with intelligence, I've just never had interest in popular/celeb culture, even as a teen.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 05/05/2026 09:49

and now I’ve googled Kim Kardashian’s met gala look. She (surprise surprise😅) seems to have changed her look quite considerably. somebody genuinely not recognising her would seem plausible to me…

her “dress” offers more coverage than quite a lot of female armour in games and movies. That’s quite ironic 😅

Flamingojune · 05/05/2026 09:50

Its sports names i have no idea about

OneTimeThingToday · 05/05/2026 09:51

I wouldnt be abld go tell Kim apart from her sisters or identify a footballer, o mix up many actors or get their names slightly wrong.

I can point out which actors were on other things but not know their names just theoir character!

People retain diffferent information.

ItsJustMeMyself · 05/05/2026 09:51

I think it's more to show the irrelevance to them, personally, when a certain celebrity is mentioned rather than a demonstration of intellect.

gamerchick · 05/05/2026 09:51

takealettermsjones · 05/05/2026 09:48

I don't watch telly either, or read magazines, or follow "crap," but people like Kim K are in mainstream news all the time.

I don't watch mainstream news and even if I did I wouldn't recognise who I was looking at. It's just a name.

vincettenoir · 05/05/2026 09:51

I voted YNBU because anyone who comments “who?” While browsing pics of the met gala on DM online definitely knows who KK is.

EasternStandard · 05/05/2026 09:51

I know of a fair amount of celebs but I wouldn’t be able to name which Kardashian was which. I didn’t watch any of their stuff though.

KP I know of but she looked pretty different on last pic on here.

VickyEadieofThigh · 05/05/2026 09:51

I think it's one thing if - in a conversation - a person queries the name of a 'celeb'. But the ones who take the time to go on a thread on social media to say it are just being snobby arseholes (or misogynist twats - see next paragragh).

I don't know who increasing numbers of celebs are as I age, but it never occurs to me to go on a discussion thread and post "Who?" The worst ones these days are the many men who go on threads about female footballers - e.g. discussions about the retirement of Millie Bright last week, where loads of blokes felt the need to post comments like this.

PauliesWalnuts · 05/05/2026 09:53

I know why they are but I’m at a loss as to who a lot of the newer ones are. I put it down to two things:

  1. I made a point of stopping reading the Daily Mail after reading a story that had such an underlying racist undertone.
  2. My TV broke 2 years ago and I get bothered replacing it.

So unless it’s in the Guardian I’m kind of unaware of a lot of modern culture these days. I’m 53, so these people mean less to me than when I was younger. Don’t have TikTok or Facebook and my Insta is all about garden layouts or plants. Not intellectual - got 5 GCSEs, 2 a-levels, one HND (which stands for Has No Degree).

It’s nothing to do with intellect, it’s just to what extent you choose to engage with the zeitgeist.

AccordingToWhom · 05/05/2026 09:54

TappyGilmore · 05/05/2026 09:46

I think those saying things like “my parents wouldn’t know” or whatever are missing the point. They might not know, and if they didn’t they’d probably a) ignore an article about them or b) google them. I believe OP is referring to the trend of posting “who?” under articles about celebrities instead of just moving along if you don’t know/care.

It's very performative. It's basically the poster signalling that they're far too high brow for this sort of thing.

Personally I think it makes them look like a dick. And insecure. What's the point of showing off like this to a bunch of anonymous strangers online?

takealettermsjones · 05/05/2026 09:54

gamerchick · 05/05/2026 09:51

I don't watch mainstream news and even if I did I wouldn't recognise who I was looking at. It's just a name.

No of course, and there are loads of people who I wouldn't be able to tell apart in the street etc. But surely most people have a sort of "Kim Kardashian? Oh that's a famous person/it girl/influencer (etc?) isn't it?" level of recognition of the name. Not necessarily that you'd spot her in a disguise 😆

coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 09:54

PauliesWalnuts · 05/05/2026 09:53

I know why they are but I’m at a loss as to who a lot of the newer ones are. I put it down to two things:

  1. I made a point of stopping reading the Daily Mail after reading a story that had such an underlying racist undertone.
  2. My TV broke 2 years ago and I get bothered replacing it.

So unless it’s in the Guardian I’m kind of unaware of a lot of modern culture these days. I’m 53, so these people mean less to me than when I was younger. Don’t have TikTok or Facebook and my Insta is all about garden layouts or plants. Not intellectual - got 5 GCSEs, 2 a-levels, one HND (which stands for Has No Degree).

It’s nothing to do with intellect, it’s just to what extent you choose to engage with the zeitgeist.

😂

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coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 09:54

AccordingToWhom · 05/05/2026 09:54

It's very performative. It's basically the poster signalling that they're far too high brow for this sort of thing.

Personally I think it makes them look like a dick. And insecure. What's the point of showing off like this to a bunch of anonymous strangers online?

Concur

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cadburyegg · 05/05/2026 09:55

I know Katie Price but I have no clue who Kim K is. I don’t follow celeb news at all and have no interest in famous people.

Megifer · 05/05/2026 09:55

Its like this on here with stuff like Im A Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here, people post a thread, those who watch it will know what the threads about, then you get posters saying "I dont know what youre talking about, can you explain"

Thats a strange way of wanting to indicate their intelligence though given Google is very simple to use. So it is a facetious way to highlight they dont watch stuff the plebs like us watch imo.

coulditbeme2323 · 05/05/2026 09:57

cadburyegg · 05/05/2026 09:55

I know Katie Price but I have no clue who Kim K is. I don’t follow celeb news at all and have no interest in famous people.

I don't think it's about interest, more not walking around with your eyes closed.

I don't watch football, but I could tell you who David Beckham is.

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Needmorelego · 05/05/2026 09:57

I understand what you mean. They say it to sound superior and smug.
If I didn't know who a celebrity was I might ask "Who is that?" or "What are they famous for....are they a singer?" but just putting a childish "Who?" is...well... childish.

Octavia64 · 05/05/2026 09:57

I mean you get men saying how can you not know who “insert famous footballer” is and honestly I feel this is the female equivalent.

btw lots of the younger generation have no idea who David beckham is. To those who do he’s Brooklyn’s dad.

RaininSummer · 05/05/2026 09:58

I think sometimes people say it as although they may have a vague idea who these people are, it's maybe a passive aggressive way of saying ,'why the hell are there endless posts abour these two bob talentless so called s'lebs'. Or they honestly have never heard of them. I know the ones who have been around for decades but the latest crops from reality shows are thankfully unknown to me.

SpringIsSpringing2026 · 05/05/2026 09:58

Lomonald · 05/05/2026 09:40

If anybody is saying "who" to Kim K they are definitely acting ignorant and probably are being obtuse, i think it just makes look silly when they act superior like that.

Im not acting superior or 'trying to sound intelligent' I simply have NO interest, I don't 'do' social media or reality TV. It just doesn't interest me.

i couldn't pick Kim K out in a line up.

I popped into the thread because I like the OP, I made a few comments & left them to it.

this morning I googled a few people they were talking about to see what they were talking about (for about 10 minutes)

So no, I'm not 'acting ignorant' but you are being rude.

Deadleaves77 · 05/05/2026 09:59

They just want to seem "high brow". Anyone who says "who?" knows full well who they are. They wouldn't want to show themselves up by not knowing some highbrow actor

If you genuinely don't know celebrities it wouldn't be a suprise you didn't know Kim K was. My grandma probably wouldnt but she would also just assume she was an actress or a singer, like the million other celebs she doesnt know and wouldn't question it