To ask if this sounds like a lazy person or someone with more going on

[Nantobeb777]

Hairs matted, often wears dirty clothes, has had vomit in their bathroom tha has now grown mould on it for two weeks, lots of rubbish in their room and out of date food and even mouldy clothing and other items

It’s a family member but can’t give too much more information as could be outing

An obviously unwell person.

It’s not lazy it’s beyond that, as it’s unhygienic and chaotic. I would think that they have a physical and/or mental health issue that means they are not capable of managing basic personal and house hygiene.

Sounds like someone who is depressed and/ or has mental issues.

Or someone on drugs.

Whatever the cause, it needs investigating and action taken to rectify the situation. It’s not normal not to clear up vomit, or to have dirty, matted hair. Dirty clothes could be laziness, or a broken machine.

Sounds like an inability to care for themselves or severe depression. Not normal behaviour for the majority of people. Do they have any friends? A social life outside of the house.

This person is very ill.

ill in what way?

That sounds like severe mental illness.

My mother in law went like this, from pristine to exactly like you said she had undiagnosed stage 4 cancer. Just lied in bed all day, had no energy to get up let alone clean. It was a miracle she lasted so long to be honest.

@Nantobeb777
Depression for a start.

These are all signs a person isn't coping with life.
Quite possibly depression but there could be something physically causing life to be hard and then that be causing the depression and difficulties

That persons needs help. They are unwell physically and possibly mentally. They need love and care.

Mentally unwell, possibly physically as well. That lack of self care is a massive red flag.

It's very unlikely to be just laziness.

Is this new behaviour, or have they always been like this? How old are they?

Honestly I’m a firm believer that since we have learnt more about metal health in society that a lot of people once deemed lazy/smelly etc actually have something going on. Not taking care your own basic needs means something is wrong. I sometimes get a whiff of someone absolutely stinking and looking like shit and I feel sad for them not think they’re lazy.

Much more than laziness, and it doesn't sound as if that'd be a helpful label. Could they be depressed?

If the person has capacity, you cannot wade in and take action.

Well a family member can a professional can't

Of course you can take action, take action could mean anything like checking in on them, helping them seek support, talking to them, doing their cleaning, shopping etc while they get back on their feet.
What’s the alternative, ignoring it?

You can also take action with their consent, I don't think the implication was that the person's wishes should be overridden. The problem will come if they don't want to accept any help or support and refuse any offers.

I would say they are seriously unwell! Whether that is mentally or physically needs to be investigated!

Seriously ill person mentally and/or physically.

Both. Ill and Lazy.

Is this a new thing?

Severe depression can often lead to people stopping taking care of themselves.

How close a relative is this person? Can you ask them if they are feeling unwell and do they need any help?

Possibly someone who has such a chaotic childhood that this is normal for them and they have no idea how to look after themselves.