AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

[xAwaywiththefairiesx]

Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

It's what we've always said 🤷 ever since I was in school myself.

Why can't you just say mufti day? It's less words than "home clothes day" 🤪

I blame it on Presbyterian angst.

I'm C of Scotland myself, but I always advise any musicians that if you have a choice between playing a C of S social or a Catholic one, opt for the Catholic one.

Many years ago, I played in a ceilidh band. (Nothing professional.) When we played in a C of S hall, we'd be promised a cup of tea and possibly a sandwich or sausage roll at interval. Raffles were supposed to be forbidden - gambling you see. (I recall tickets for "Guess the doll's name" literally being sold under a table so that the minister wouldn't see.)

One glorious day, we played at a Catholic church social.

As we were setting up: "Would you like a drink?"

"Oh, that would be lovely..."

"Vodka? Whisky? Maybe you prefer gin?"

During the break, there was a game of pitch and toss where parishioners competed by aiming one pound coins at a bottle of whisky.

The priest won.

Fewer words. We don’t want to say it because of its English Emperialist/Colonial connotations: a regime that led to the suffering and death of many.

HTH.

Not always true. I’m on the PTA and we have some very dedicated dads. Seems a bit daft not to participate unless it’s a 50-50 split. It’s more the fact that it’s the same parents helping out year after year to raise funds and give the kids nice experiences, as most people can’t be arsed.

The BOG is evenly split.

There are parents on our class WhatsApp who are surprised every. single. week that it is PE again. It has been every Wednesday since reception, and the kids are now in Y5. So this has happened at least 200 times before, and yet they are still stunned by the news that they need to bring PE kit in.

(forgetting is fine, it is the level of complete shock and disbelief that is odd)

Your school’s probably statistically an exception.

It's so funny you should say that. Our school is C of E but it's attached to a high church, so Anglo-Catholic.

Father Matthew runs the mulled wine stall every year, in exchange for a free glass with a mince pie 😂

We seem to be going a little of topic? Have we forgotten the lady who missed the fact that it was mufti day?

Just realised that BOG is board of governors.

IME, and from what I've been told, being a parent governor is much easier than being on the PTA. Especially if you are on the PTA committee.

I will probably leave the PTA at the end of this school year. Considering joining the BOG, for the break 😂

She didn't. That's the point. She knew it was a mufti day but despite that information going out in direct relation to the fair managed to miss that the fair was on.

She remembered mufti. She didn’t raise it was the school fair.

She didn't forget mufti day, she just had no idea why it was mufti day
Even though everything telling her it was mufti day mentioned what it was in aid of

Funny how people need someone else to look that up for them...
It's like with Google came the ability to find things out for oneself right from our phones yet people are even too lazy for THAT?!

3 kids now in their twenties, I have never heard this word

that's reassuring. Thank you. 😇

Fanny's what?

I’m in the north, had 3 kids through school, I have never heard this word, it was non uniform day

Governors is a massive pain in the arse, I can assure you of that

I’m 50 and it was called mufti day when I was at school and still is now… really surprised at the number of people who don’t know what it is.

Sorry, I haven't read the whole thread but honestly - are schools officially referring to non-uniform days as "mufti" days?

I first heard the term watching Corporal Jones on Dad's army in the late 1960s.

I never encountered it again until the late 1980s when I joined the NHS and learned about some weird allowance for some healthcare staff called "mufti allowance".

I've never come across it in any other context.

I wonder if the school(s) is(are) aware that it's an excellent example of cultural appropriation? In this case from the original Arabic?

Can't they just speak in English and say "non-uniform"?

I think she knew perfectly well what was going on, but hadn’t been assed to donate anything so was just bullshitting and playing dumb.

I've never heard of it, I'm in Cornwall

We called it mufti day when I was at school 80's-90's. My children went to a SEN school though they called it non uniform day.

YABU for using the word ‘fayre’

Why come on here being judgey asking others how she forgot?? The woman could have any bloody thing going on in her life. What a move this whole thread is and ill add another why on earth are you calling it that.