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AIBU noisy children

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FlamingoFloss · 29/04/2026 15:15

I expect I shall be flamed by this. May I start by saying I’m both a mum and a Grandma.

on a long train journey (UK). I chose to upgrade to first class because I need to do work and so need the space and the quiet.

there’s a (I presume) mum and her young child (around 4 years) in front of me. The child has been singing nursery rhymes (loudly) - (I do ordinarily love a nursery rhyme and sing them with my DGD just not on a train). The child now has a tablet and is playing games which is beeping away with loud music.

i know kids need entertaining on a long journey (I’ve done it with my own) but AIU to think in a first class carriage you should be relatively quiet with children and if you feel you can’t be then sit in a ‘normal’ seat? However, I get that even in a normal seat that it could be annoying and you should still be respectful of others but hopefully you get what I mean.

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Ohnobackagain · 29/04/2026 21:46

I have recently travelled in two separate ‘quiet’ carriages (one first class, the other not) and had Mr Noisy near me in both. Arrgh.

@FlamingoFloss it’s so annoying!

Firefly1987 · 29/04/2026 21:50

I can't believe some people actually think the whole rest of the world should just BUY noise-cancelling headphones because their kids should be able to make a racket anywhere and everywhere.

Noodles1234 · 29/04/2026 22:21

First class I would presume a level of decorum and decency, so singing / speakers and music would be a no. Small quiet talking yes.

sadly people are a lot more selfish now

FlamingoFloss · 29/04/2026 22:46

MyBraveFace · 29/04/2026 18:12

I'm with you about people being noisy on trains, but your attitude of 'banish them to standard class' is appalling.

Are people less deserving of a reasonably quiet journey because they can't afford to travel first class?

Maybe reread my post

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chipsaway · 29/04/2026 23:03

Threesloths · 29/04/2026 15:24

No one knows how to behave anymore. That kid will grow up thinking he can do what he likes.

Absolutely 💯.

they don’t care either

PistachioTiramisu · Yesterday 08:53

I think this thread highlights a real problem which exists in society today. So many people are inconsiderate towards others and just do as they please. Yes, when I was a child (and I did travel with my mother by train quite often) I was expected to behave and play quietly without disturbing others. Any noise would be met with a 'Shhhh' from my mother. I respected that - I wasn't 'frightened' when my mother said this. Children nowadays need a much firmer hand rather than all the molly-coddling they seem to get.

jetlag92 · Yesterday 09:20

Go and get the steward again and get it turned off.

Honestly, some people are really rude...

Bridgertonisbest · Yesterday 09:54

FlamingoFloss · 29/04/2026 15:50

The mum is now on a video call - loudly. I think they are loud people

Ok, that would push me well over the edge.

Greenwitchart · Yesterday 10:37

I am with you OP. I get that on trains all the time: parents doing nothing to try to get their screaming kids to quiet down and/or them having tablets playing loud songs/games/sounds and no headphones

I was in a small coffee shop last week where two mothers were chatting away while their two kids were banging on a drum like toy that made different loud sounds every time they hit it.

We have bred entitled, selfish parents who think every public space is a playground for their kids with no regards for others.

I think it is a very British thing as well as somehow people in other countries manage to display better manners and teach their kids early how to behave in public.

minipie · Yesterday 12:42

Adults do it too though. I was on the tube yesterday and the 20 something woman next to me was looking at something on her phone with the sound on. She just clearly didn’t see the issue with everyone else having to listen to her phone.

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