AIBU to go to an and end i think I am having an asthma attack?

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I don’t think AIBU but my friend has made me feel like shit. I have been at home with DS and DH and struggled today because of hayfever and generally struggling with asthma. Not yet gone to an and e as DS not long in bed and he worries about me. Told DH I am likely to go to a and e once I think DS is asleep.

Been texting my friend generally and she said I am being ridiculous. I have diagnosed brittle/severe asthma and I have taken 15 puffs of reliever and cannot speak well. Friend said I am being “pathetic” and should just see if I can get a GP appointment tomorrow.

Feel even more like shit now. Am I wasting time?

I'm glad you've got there quickly.
I hope it settles for you soon.

Oh poor you - that’s bad. Hope you have improved

Well done for going to a&e - you don't mess around with asthma, it can kill and quickly. Hope you are feeling better on the nebuliser and recover soon. Please don't continue the 'friendship' with friends like that, who needs enemies!

Aww my DH is great but has to take care of DS, who panics. I admit to being blasé about my asthma, which very much frustrates my DH

Only selected YABU because I genuinely dont get how something can be serious enough for a and e yet youre sat chatting away on mumsnet.

If it is bad, go. But I question how you're typing away on mumsnet instead. I've never had an attack and been able to do that. Maybe just me though.

She seems to think her COPD makes her the expert on chest complaints! I must admit to being blasé about my asthma, as I was diagnosed at 14, and am 45 now, which frustrates my DH. This might colour her shitty attitude.

Agreed! I get very blasé about it, to my DH’s consternation.

Glad you got yourself to a&e. Hope you feel better soon.

Thanks all - glad I came. Been on nebs, had steroids and just waiting for steroids to take home. A and e has been a revelation on a Sunday night - I thought it would be quieter 😂🤷🏼‍♀️. Staff have been amazing and so kind and compassionate.

Really glad you're ok but next time please don't waste time posting on here. Your life is important x

Stop talking to unhealthy people.

A&E advice is go straight away.

wow, who needs friends like her? Never listen to someone like her when it comes to asthma. It can kill you. You did the right thing. I’d be reducing my contact with said friend and never message her again re your health, as her advice could see you in trouble.

You say you are blasé about your asthma. Please take it more seriously. A good daily preventer should help you avoid having to go to A&E. Uncontrolled asthma kills people. That should not be taken lightly.

Also, you need better friends who care about you and don't see a chronic health issue as a competition.

Also, you need better friends who care about you and don't see a chronic health issue as a competition

I agree with this and am glad you have been seen and well looked after.

My mum had COPD and asthma. It was frightening to see her struggle to breathe. Her COPD was caused by being a heavy smoker.

Does/did your "friend" smoke?

Brittle asthma is a sod because it can escalate even when you are compliant with the full compliment of preventer inhalers.

I know - it drives my DH mad! I think it is just because I have had it for 35 years. I do try and be more vigilant

She does smoke - been told off about smoking near oxygen tanks 🤦🏼‍♀️

What sort of friend calls another friend "pathetic" when they're struggling to breathe?

I'd be re-thinking that friendship seriously.

So glad you're feeling better now.

I've had asthma for over forty years. I take it seriously. I think when Charlotte Coleman died, it really shocked me. She was so vivacious and for her to die at only 33 was a real wake up call as to how it can take anyone out, at any age.

You can question yourself. I've had breathing problems before that have needed A and E ( not asthma though) and you think "do I really need A and E, am I overreacting, nah, think I'm alright, it'll be "just my cough", just been running around a bit too much and I'm out of puff" then think "better go get checked out I suppose" and end up on on an oxygen mask!
When it comes to breathing now, I take no chances.
Anyways just saying I can see how it's easy to second guess yourself.
Glad OP went in the end, I know someone who's died from asthma, it's no joke and OPs "friend" needs ditching.

I had a parent who was blase about their asthma.

They ended up needing mouth to mouth resusitation from my other parent while waiting for an ambulance. Then they were in a coma/intensive care for about a week and took months to recover fully.
For the sake of your DH and DS - start taking it seriously. Monitor your breathing, make contact with an asthma nurse if you have on at your GP or local hospital and just be more aware of it. I nearly lost a parent in their early 40s because they didn't look after themselves.