I walked faster so I wouldn’t have to talk to them

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Am I weird?

Was having a lovely relaxing dog walk in the woods after dinner with Dh & Dc. Had been gardening all day and in pjs, so just pulled a pair of leggings and top on, hair not really brushed properly and in a ponytail.
Where we go by our house, we never really see anyone, except neighbours we know well. We were halfway around and I was in front by quite a bit with Ddog on the lead, when I heard Dc chatting away and another family behind us. Dc ran up and fold me it was someone from her school. They then ran back to chat with them with Dh. Ddog was pulling on the lead and does need to walk at a quicker pace, but as I got down the hill, they wouldn’t have been able to see me, I thought do I go back/wait and walk with them on the walk and be sociable (never met them before) and ignore the fact I look a mess or just get home, so I walked home quicker as I just didn’t want to be sociable.
Dh asked where I went and I said I was desperate for the loo
Is this weird?

Fuck me, the woman nipped out the garden to do a spot of gardening without changing out of her PJs, and people are carrying on like she wore a snorkel and flippers.

It's really not that strange 😂😂

We have reached peak MN now, and we can all give up and go home.

Just don't accost anyone along the way.

What’s wrong with that? Do people really expect others to treat every interruption as a delightful surprise?

I never do this, I’m actually v friendly and my dog is too, but in this instance they hadn’t properly spotted me or come close

Me too, sigh. 😎

It’s just basic politeness in society.

But they knew you were there as your DC had run up to you and told you, but you just marched off regardless

This is why your behaviour comes across as odd and rude. They knew you were out with your dh and dc but you walked away at an even faster pace to avoid speaking to them.

I can guarantee this! A few weeks ago I popped down to the local shop, forgetting to put my dental plate in (lower front tooth so quite noticeable if I don't put my plate in). I never usually see anyone I know to talk to but of course on this occasion I bumped into my ex-neighbour who can talk for England. I managed to escape by saying that I was desperate for the loo!

Not rude at all, i suffer with social anxiety and can really only tolerate people on my own terms. Theres been times when ive been out with dh, hes a social butterfly and will chat till the cows come home, and ive found myself making any excuse to wander off. 🤣

Is that what you do then?

Having social anxiety isn't an excuse to just march off and be rude to other people. I say that as someone who also has a diagnosed anxiety disorder, btw.

No its not an excuse youre right but op did state that she didnt think the family had seen her in the 1st place and did consider wether or not to go back/wait. Im not a rude person however if i dont feel confy in a social situation, i will leave, not in a rude way like storming off, i will excuse myself but i refuse to stay in a situation that makes me uncomfortable.

OP also says her DD ran up to her to tell her she was chatting to her friend - so they knew she was there and she marched off on her own anyway. That's rude no matter what way you try and spin it.

Nobody said you have to stay and be uncomfortable but there's a difference between making an excuse and just pissing off in silence, lol.

Don't you know this is the gross infringement of people's right to be misanthropes and to be unmolested by the ghastliness of (gasp) other people?

There was a thread yesterday asking people what they try to avoid and about 85% of the answers were "people".

No wonder mental health is at such a low ebb....

I do this a lot. I also pretend I haven’t seen people to avoid interaction.

Yes we're probably all guilty of this if in a rush or aren't keen on the person but the op was with her family, her dc ran up to her and told her and the op just weirdly dashed off.

OP stalked off on her own knowing her DC was chatting to a friend and their parents - if you really do do that "a lot" then you're incredibly rude.

It really is always the way. The days I look really good I see no one. The very rare days where I've rolled out of bed thrown my hair in a bun, brushed my teeth and put on a questionable outfit is the day where I see every old colleague, friend of a friend, someone I went to school with a town 40 miles away etc.

Where is this ‘Marching off’ come from? I didn’t march off, I was way in front, I don’t even know if they did see me, I was already way in front so it didn’t look like I did anything that different

Totally understand and empathise with that, I think I have it to or maybe nd

Same….