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Do people genuinely believe 'you should get her/him sectioned' as some sort of option?

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likelysuspect · 26/04/2026 19:31

I see this sort of comment quite a lot on here and its cropped up in another thread.

'you should consider getting her sectioned'

And the OP is thanking the poster for the useful advice!!

The issue around sectioning has also come up a lot in the threads about the Southport killer and on threads about children with that sort of presentation

It astounds me that in this day and age people still think that you can 'get someone sectioned' as if you just phone someone and the black Maria comes and gets them.

OP posts:
Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 27/04/2026 22:32

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 22:30

Except when they are Vito Caldocane and murder three innocents on a Saturday night, or Axel Radakanu, and go on a spree kill at a kid's dance class. Both known and identified as dangerous... but not detained.

Yes, you are right.

Anecdata rather than an evidence base though.

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 22:35

Thank you for the explanation of SMI. It's helpful to have acronyms explained. But I stand by everything else I have written, as being fairly typical of what non MH professionals think is idiocy, and completely at odds with public safety.

Serencwtch · 27/04/2026 22:36

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 22:30

Except when they are Vito Caldocane and murder three innocents on a Saturday night, or Axel Radakanu, and go on a spree kill at a kid's dance class. Both known and identified as dangerous... but not detained.

Both were extremely violent & dangerous. Both should have been arrested & in prison. There was an outstanding warrant for VC at the time of his attacks.
In both cases their mental illnesses had affected them and had been a factor, but ultimately they committed heinous crimes and were extremely violent & dangerous men.

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 27/04/2026 22:42

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 22:35

Thank you for the explanation of SMI. It's helpful to have acronyms explained. But I stand by everything else I have written, as being fairly typical of what non MH professionals think is idiocy, and completely at odds with public safety.

Are you referring to VC and AR when you "stand by what you said"?

Because, for what it is worth, I agree with you. They should have been arrested/detained.

I do object to the implication that all people with SMI are dangerous and should be sectioned.

I would strongly encourage you to please start your own thread. This one was really interesting and, I think, educational.

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 22:42

Glad we agree on that point at least! I am not being deliberately argumentative (I hope). I agree MH care needs to be much improved, but where are the funds needed to do this going to come from? We are already paying the highest rates of income tax across the population since 1948. You can't stop wealthy people leaving the country.

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 27/04/2026 22:45

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 22:42

Glad we agree on that point at least! I am not being deliberately argumentative (I hope). I agree MH care needs to be much improved, but where are the funds needed to do this going to come from? We are already paying the highest rates of income tax across the population since 1948. You can't stop wealthy people leaving the country.

Now there's a question we can't hope to answer - and again, not relevant to the original point of the thread.

MH problems tend to be profoundly multifactorial in nature so there's no silver bullet.

What would you like to see in place?

Firefly1987 · 27/04/2026 22:52

Serencwtch · 27/04/2026 22:36

Both were extremely violent & dangerous. Both should have been arrested & in prison. There was an outstanding warrant for VC at the time of his attacks.
In both cases their mental illnesses had affected them and had been a factor, but ultimately they committed heinous crimes and were extremely violent & dangerous men.

Surely with VC his schizophrenia was 100% to blame. He was not like that before he developed psychosis I don't think? Hence him being in a secure hospital whilst AR isn't.

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 22:55

I think (and you can tell me I am deluded) that there should be in every county a secure facility in which to hold/incarcerate the fairly small number of really dangerous people. Not the purely criminal, nor the intoxicated (police cells for those); the difficulty would be in determining which are really deranged and dangerous to normal society and everyday life. I don't know enough to offer a useful opinion here.

XenoBitch · 27/04/2026 23:00

This reminds of a thread a few years ago where OP's DM was still living with a very abusive partner and had no way to leave. She was suicidal as a result, and several people told OP to "get her sectioned" as a way to get her away from the abuse. Wrong on several levels.

I had a friend who took in her DS's ex off the street, and the lady ended up psychotic (drug induced) and making my friend's life hell. The local MH team were not interested. Just said that the lady needs to contact her GP (which is never going to happen as she thinks she is fine and everyone else is out to get her).

There is a such a high bar for being sectioned. I think people tend to watch the soaps and think that you just call someone, and your loved one is carted off to hospital (and gets a local bed straight away). It does not work like that at all.

Franjipanl8r · 27/04/2026 23:03

Firefly1987 · 27/04/2026 22:52

Surely with VC his schizophrenia was 100% to blame. He was not like that before he developed psychosis I don't think? Hence him being in a secure hospital whilst AR isn't.

Can people please stop equating serious mental illness with murdering please?! It’s incredibly offensive and bigoted.

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 27/04/2026 23:03

The thing is, there are hospitals like that - Rampton, Broadmoor, Ashworth etc. Not in every county, but realistically that's not required (and many detained people would be delighted to stay in the same county when it is often not possible).

I also believe (if I'm wrong someone please correct me), that hospital orders can be indefinite, unlike most prison sentences with the exception of very rare whole life terms.

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 27/04/2026 23:05

Franjipanl8r · 27/04/2026 23:03

Can people please stop equating serious mental illness with murdering please?! It’s incredibly offensive and bigoted.

And again for those in the back!

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 23:14

@Franjipanl8r fortunately, most of us will not encounter murderers or the level of serious mental illness being discussed at first hand. But that doesn't mean we don't fear it. Nor does the fear of it make a person a bigot.

XenoBitch · 27/04/2026 23:19

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 23:14

@Franjipanl8r fortunately, most of us will not encounter murderers or the level of serious mental illness being discussed at first hand. But that doesn't mean we don't fear it. Nor does the fear of it make a person a bigot.

Not a bigot, but perhaps not realising that people with SMI are more likely to be a victim of violence than be the perpetrator.

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 27/04/2026 23:26

See, this is what makes me frustrated.

People bang on about how they're is much less stigma in MH and how good it is to bring your whole self to work.

And I'm sure that's true for lower level anxiety and depression.

Meanwhile, those of us with SMI are feared because it is perceived that we are a possible risk to others. As evidenced by this thread.

My manager knows that I experience psychosis and he knows what to watch out for (he's ace). But there is no other situation where I would use the "P" word at work.

It IS stigmatising and I would be viewed differently.

Firefly1987 · 27/04/2026 23:27

Franjipanl8r · 27/04/2026 23:03

Can people please stop equating serious mental illness with murdering please?! It’s incredibly offensive and bigoted.

I'm not I'm talking about one specific person?

Forty85 · 27/04/2026 23:36

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 23:14

@Franjipanl8r fortunately, most of us will not encounter murderers or the level of serious mental illness being discussed at first hand. But that doesn't mean we don't fear it. Nor does the fear of it make a person a bigot.

You are completly derailing the thread from the original point the op was making. The thread is about the terminology used in regards to someone being detained under the mha. None of what you are posting is relevant. At all. Some of its pretty offensive actually to those with smi who are posting on here.

Blahblahblahabla · 28/04/2026 00:32

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 27/04/2026 16:08

I categorically agree with people saying "I sectioned my family member" being uneducated.

However, by saying this, people listen (or read) the terminology. They are more likely to think you CAN section a family member of they have heard that than sit back and explore the implications and nuances

Language is SO important and I hate lazy and ignorant wording. Being slapdash doesn't cut it in this context.

Honestly it’s nonsense. And this thread is more of a danger to mentally unwell people than a phrase. What else are you going to call it?

Perhaps ARs parents didn’t know he could be sectioned. They didn’t know that was an option they could fight for. If you read this thread certainly people believe that. Perhaps they thought if he was sectioned he may never come back. Perhaps they thought their relationship would be ruined forever and he would grow out of it.

I don’t know but I firmly to this day believe they could have got him sectioned. The only people which see mentally unwell people in their entirety are the people they live with -their partners, parents, flat mates. Why they didn’t is the most important question.

Blahblahblahabla · 28/04/2026 00:36

NoctuaAthene · 27/04/2026 15:06

Exactly this. In my own personal (and sadly extensive) experience of trying to get a close relative who is clearly extremely mentally unwell / very psychotic some help (reasons as per thread of why ' getting them sectioned' not necessarily the right terminology), I've only had success with either them being in a public place and very obviously being a serious risk to themselves or the public, or (and this obviously only works with a degree of cooperation from the person) taking them to A&E.

The police (rightly) will not come out to someone's home unless there's a crime in progress or very likely to be committed, and being mentally unwell is not a crime. 111 and Crisis team pretty much won't do anything for a patient who's 'safe' at home (even if person well known to them and has extensive history including previous in patient stays under section) unless the person themselves consents and asks for their help, and since with psychotic and manic illnesses very often the person has no insight that they are unwell and/or they're deeply suspicious of medical staff or authority, (perhaps with cause based on previous experience) that's unlikely to happen. So hence the horrible dilemma of they're not sick enough in any state short of immediate serious self-harm or smashing up the house or something, but too sick for the GP or other services short of tertiary mental health to help - there are no magic words you can say as a relative that fix this, just saying you think they need an assessment or think they need help or think they are psychotic or indeed, think they need sectioning, don't usually work at all. The only way usually as I said to force services to act (and force the person to accept the help) is for police or an ambulance to pick them up outside the home or if you can get them physically to a hospital...

And someone who knows. Thank the lord. We need a national campaign on serious mental illness. First episode psychosis symptoms. Help available and how to access it. And we need it now!

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 28/04/2026 00:52

Blahblahblahabla · 28/04/2026 00:32

Honestly it’s nonsense. And this thread is more of a danger to mentally unwell people than a phrase. What else are you going to call it?

Perhaps ARs parents didn’t know he could be sectioned. They didn’t know that was an option they could fight for. If you read this thread certainly people believe that. Perhaps they thought if he was sectioned he may never come back. Perhaps they thought their relationship would be ruined forever and he would grow out of it.

I don’t know but I firmly to this day believe they could have got him sectioned. The only people which see mentally unwell people in their entirety are the people they live with -their partners, parents, flat mates. Why they didn’t is the most important question.

@Blahblahblahabla , can you unpick that please, I didn't understand what you wrote?

What is a nonsense?

Firefly1987 · 28/04/2026 00:53

Papyrophile · 27/04/2026 23:14

@Franjipanl8r fortunately, most of us will not encounter murderers or the level of serious mental illness being discussed at first hand. But that doesn't mean we don't fear it. Nor does the fear of it make a person a bigot.

Thank you. Apparently I'm a bigot for not putting a disclaimer of "most people with schizophrenia aren't murderers" 🙄as if I said they were...some people will look for offence anywhere.

I'm sure the "that's stigmatising" crowd will successfully manage to shut anyone up who actually wants to have a genuine discussion about this subject. I hope someone does start another thread I think it'd be really interesting and enlightening.

Blahblahblahabla · 28/04/2026 01:03

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 28/04/2026 00:52

@Blahblahblahabla , can you unpick that please, I didn't understand what you wrote?

What is a nonsense?

Of course you can get a family member sectioned. Who else is going to do it?

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 28/04/2026 01:09

Firefly1987 · 28/04/2026 00:53

Thank you. Apparently I'm a bigot for not putting a disclaimer of "most people with schizophrenia aren't murderers" 🙄as if I said they were...some people will look for offence anywhere.

I'm sure the "that's stigmatising" crowd will successfully manage to shut anyone up who actually wants to have a genuine discussion about this subject. I hope someone does start another thread I think it'd be really interesting and enlightening.

@Firefly1987 , this (originally very good) thread has been massively derailed.

I'm one of the "that's stigmatising" crowd that you mention. Because, like it or not, they're is a stigma surrounding SMI. I've lost friends because of it. It sucks. I do everything I can to hide my illness.

And I'm not clear what the topic of this "genuine discussion" would be - some posts, and I don't mean yours necessarily- have been badly written.

What is it specifically that you want to discuss? I agree, a separate thread is a good idea.

Speaking more broadly, could we please be considerate and respectful towards each other? And ideally be clear about your comment or question when posting.

And please don't forget that when you post there are real people living with debilitating SMI reading your comments behind the screens.

Youthinkyouareaniconoclast · 28/04/2026 01:13

Blahblahblahabla · 28/04/2026 01:03

Of course you can get a family member sectioned. Who else is going to do it?

No, @Blahblahblahabla . You are wrong.

Family members cannot section. Full stop.

https://nearestrelativeresources.bristol.ac.uk/about-the-mental-health-system/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

About the mental health system – Resources for Nearest Relatives

https://nearestrelativeresources.bristol.ac.uk/about-the-mental-health-system/