AIBU to think correcting a slightly unusual name pronunciation is unnecessary?

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Hi all,
So my niece has a parent who isn’t from the uk, she has a name that’s very common in the uk but pronounced slightly different. Think Isabella but pronounced “ee-sa-bell-ah instead of iz-ah-bell-uh or Eva said eh-va not ee-va.

My sister insists on correcting the pronunciation every single time, even if the person mis-pronouncing is most irrelevant and my niece also has started doing this (and also insisting on the longest version of her name)

AIBU thinking that if you are born and raised in the uk you should expect the name to be pronounced the way it normally is, in the uk and not correct everyone, every time?

Italians can't pronounce the short i anyway. The Italians in your DN's family won't hear the difference between the Brits pronouncing it Izz and them pronouncing it Eez.
Ignore your DS, because her Italian in-laws won't be able to hear her being pedantic anyway.

It being "very popular and standard" in Britain doesn't make it her name though. She wants to be called her name. Why is that unreasonable?

People occasionally shorten my name, and while I don't really mind when it's people I'm very comfortable with, I don't like it when it's people I've just met. I introduce myself as my full name because that's my preference and who I feel like I am, don't then call me something different. This is the same.

I'd love to see you tell my Italian MIL that she doesn't hear someone pronouncing things differently... she'd take that oh so well...

My name is pronounced differently in different countries/languages. Ditto my children’s names. I don’t insist on the British pronunciation when someone is speaking our other language. It’d be an irritating fusspot thing to do.

On the other hand, I think I can ‘insist’ on either the full or a shortened form of my name, depending on my preference. YABU about that.

My partner has a non-British surname which is routinely mispronounced and if I pick up a phone call for her, I correct the mispronunciation. If it annoys me (which it does), I imagine the almost 70 years she's been experiencing it must be rankling a tad by now.

Ask the founder of Mumsnet how many times in her school years she corrected people who called her by the male equivalent, or a completely different name with the same ending.

I ask every student I meet their prefered pronuniaction, because names are important, they are our identity. I do my best to replicate their preference allowing for (my) regional accent and memory!

ETA: I have a European name that has multiple possible pronunciations depending on country, I'm happy to accept those differences, perhaps because I prefer them to the English pronunciation I grew up with.

I lived in South America for years. My name was difficult for people to pronounce so I just went the Spanish version. It isn't what everyone wants to do but it made life easy and I like both versions.

In fairness in the UK both those pronunciations are possible.

Frone-cis?

I dont think its unreasonable to want your name or your child's name to be pronounced correctly, no.

YABU. She is just as entitled to the correct pronunciation of her name as anyone. Names are really important.

I think Yanbu on balance. If you live in a place where there is a 'standard' way of pronouncing a name, you are fighting a losing battle if you insist on correcting everyone who doesn't pronounce it in a way that reflects your personal cultural heritage. To me, it's not comparable to pronouncing a Welsh name incorrectly or persistently choosing the wrong version where there are two equally used variations.

If you choose a name for your child which has a common pronunciation on the country where said child is being raised, then you are a bit of a berk if you constantly insist that people say it differently. This is just a hazard of living somewhere different to where you grew up!