My husband and I get a limited amount of time together without children as he works away and we don’t have anyone to look after our children. Once I’ve got them to bed we usually have an hour or two together before I got to bed. One night a week/every other week is also his ‘pub night’ where he goes to our local to see a couple of his mates which is fine, I know it matters to him that he gets to see them. On that night we only get an hour together as he doesn’t want to go out too late or he won’t get the time with his friends before closing time but he also wants me and him to have sex before he goes. I’ve told him that I don’t like it when that happens, something about it feels rubbish to me. If we’re having sex then I want us to be together for a bit afterwards, cuddling, chatting that kind of thing. He sees no issue with being out the door a few minutes after we’ve finished and is annoyed at me that I no longer want to have sex if he’s going to the pub that night. I’d hoped by bringing it up that he might stay for longer after we were done but last week, even if was for 20 minutes say. But all he did was stand by the door for a few minutes pretending to listen to what I was saying which annoyed me. He thinks we’re husband and wife and that we can just have sex before he goes out and it shouldn’t be an issue. I can’t think of the exact wording but to me it seems a bit seedy to have sex with someone then they bugger off, even if it is my own husband. Should I be loosening up a bit and not seeing sex as such a big deal? Or is my husband the one who should be more mindful of how I feel? I’d rather just leave sex to a night where he isn’t going to the pub but he thinks we should be having it every night as we get so little time together.