to be disproportionately annoyed at my friend swiping my favourite baby name?

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I think there is a code amongst friends that if they confide their favourite name you just don't use it.

However the issue of family names is seperate. Flashman is entitled to use his mother's name.

Giv us the name and then we can think of some horrible people with the name to help put her off.

A friend of ours did this albeit unwittingly. In the 5 years we've been trying for number 4 though, her son has started nursery and the name itself has become common as muck (well not, quite, but getting there), so maybe the fates are trying to tell us something...

I've had the same problem, told my SIL that I loved the name Scarlet, and she gave it to her DD born in May, I am now expecting in December, and am a bit peeved that I won't be able to use this name if I have a DD, oh well, there are plenty more nice names out there, just another one to strike off the list.

I would be hopping mad if someone stole a name I cherished and planned to use. So I never, ever reveal my very favourite names. Happy to suggest names until the cows come home but won't give away ones that I want to use.

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YABY- unless it's a nasty "unique" name, in which case you should be heaving a sigh of relief that her child and not yours is going to be a laughing stock.

oops. YABU.

YABU, you're not even ttc and she hasn't even had the baby yet!

I have a friend whose sister named her daughter Tammy, just months after my friend had named her daughter tamsin

Molly - am confused (not hard thing to do)"My sister had children long before me (big age gap) and gave her dd our mums middle name" then you say you called your dd the same name - do you mean your dd and neice have the same first names?

Well, I've got two dc, and not intending to have any more, so anyone who wants it can have 'Lilja' now.
And 'Clovis'.

Anyone?

I worded it wronly.
My sister gave her dd our mum's middle name.

So my mum's middle name is X, My sister's dd middle name is also X, and now my dd's first name is X.

I was mighty upset when my best friend called her daughter my favourite girl's name. We had been talking about names when she was pregnant and (maybe rather stupidly) I told her my favourite girl's name - x. I asked her (when she was still pregnant) a couple of times what names she liked and both times she refused to tell me. I thought that was a bit funny at the time.

Then 3 months later she had her daughter and when I went to see her in hospital (I am now her godmother) she said 'her name is x'. I was really hurt but didn't let on of course as she had just had this darling little girl.

However I did write her a letter a few weeks later to let her know that I felt hurt - not at the fact that she had no right to use that name (of course nobody owns a name) but that she was well aware it was my favourite name and went ahead and used it anyway. It would have been kinder if she had simply said to me, when I asked her what her favourite names were - do you mind if we use x name - I know you like it. Of course I would have said no problem.

Anyway, it all came out in the open, I told her it had hurt me, she said sorry, I am godmother to x and all is well. I have now had a daughter and had to use another name.....

You're probably feeling broody. You know, it's entirely possible that she hasn't even remembered what names you said you liked. Those baby name conversations tend to be a bit self centred.

And also, saying you like a name isn't the same as naming a child that name.

My sister told me I wasn't allowed to call ds Tom, which was fine by me. Thought it was odd.

Then saw on MN that bohemianbint is thinking of calling her baby by dds name and felt very possesive of it. It's an unusual name and have 'had it' since I was 10!!

I have a smoked mackerel fillet

Even though we are not having anymore children, I would probably feel irrationally jealous if this happened to me...
Having decided (and taken action to) not to have any more kids doesn't actually stop one feeling broody, I have found!

No, YANBU to feel this way as tied up in that name is your desire to ttc in the future, so it all becomes very emotional. However, Y would BU to say anything to your friend as she probably feels the same about that name as you do & she's got more hormones!

Imo you could use the name in the future if you still loved it.

When I was pregnant first time round, dh told a good friend our baby name choices.

And now their son is called 'our' baby name.

Take it as a compliment to your excellent taste!

i would be annoyed by this, i knew since i was tiny what i would call my first dd. she has a gorgeous unusual scottish name, i have yet to meet another with the same name so if a friend had stole it i would have been mighty pissed.

then again i managed to keep quiet but as soon as i named dd1 both my cousins said that it was the same name they wanted to use on there first dd's (when they came along) as the name had family connections.

thank god i fell pregnant first!!!

It depends on the name. If it is Ethan or Jack or Harry or George or William then YABU.

If it's Victor or Dennis for example, that you KNOW she was inspired by you, then She is BU.

No one's allowed Celery

That's all I'm saying on the matter