To cancel the sleepover?

[MyWildOliveGoose]

To start, my DD15 attendance at school is extremely low, and they’re on my back about it. This week she’d asked for a friend to stay over on Friday night, and I clearly said “if you go to school every day this week, yes.. but if you have any days where you refuse to go in for any reason, no.”

Today she’s come on her period, if this had happened tomorrow she would have popped some paracetamol and got on with it, but instead she’s point blank refusing to go in and said that if I cancel the sleepover because of her period, I’m a bitch.

I am more swayed to cancel, because of the agreement and because of her attitude, but I do understand her periods are heavy and painful. AIBU?

and said that if I cancel the sleepover because of her period, I’m a bitch.

And what was her punishment for this?

If you've never suffered from painful periods its really unfair to just tell people to get on with it etc. The ones I used to have were like labour contractions. And it sounds like she has some other crappy health things to deal with.

Anyway, I would have been totally sympathetic to that, until she called you a bitch. I'd cancel it for that entire reason. I wouldn't have dared said that to mum and Id be horrified if my kids thought that was in any way acceptable.

Yeah you cancel. Unfortunately it's not acceptable to just not attend school/college/work every time you have your period. Unless you're trying to get it investigated by a specialist and there's something that needs looking at. But it shouldn't be an excuse not to do your responsibilities. Unless there's an actual medical reason.

Also my only wobble here, was due to family suggesting cancelling the sleepover would be unfair as she can’t control having come on her period and the pain she’s in

I'm sorry, but when did starting your period and needing painkillers allow you to call your mother a bitch?

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She is being investigated by a specialist

I’d cancel just to show this little madam that she cannot manipulate you like this

Talk about overkill. No sleepover no phone grounding no pocket money. Is this for real!!!

I’d cancel because of the bitch language alone.

Stick to your guns on the missed school day, there are hundreds of thousand of women having heavy, painful periods everyday and she must learn to have some resilience, whilst the cause of hers is investigated.

i wouldn’t reward this behavior for missing school, or/and the language, with an sleepover.

My god, no wonder teenage girls struggle if the comments on this thread are representative of how their are parented!

She’s not well, for several reasons, including likely endometriosis. Yet you tried to bribe her to go to school?? If that was the workplace you’d be in front of an employment tribunal for discrimination.

Her hormones are likely all over the place, she is probably incredibly worried about her health and all she gets is you cancelling the little treat she was looking forward to?

I imagine missing so much school is potentially making friendships a bit harder to maintain, so I would not be messing with that for no reason.

Give her a hug and apologise for minimising her health issues, let her have her sleep over and support her in sorting everything out without putting so much pressure on her to perform when she’s unwell

It does make it clearer why so many parents and children are NC on Mumsnet.

Ok that's good. Hopefully it'll improve. But it sounds like she's using excuses to not attend school.