I've upset DH

[Charboo]

I've upset my DH tonight and he said what I said was hurtful. It's silly really but I find it babyish how he is acting. I watched the film Dracula love tale and I loved it I told him how romantic it was waiting 400 years to see him wife again just messing about which he replied with I would of given up after a year which I just shrugged off as a joke, but then while I was watching the movie I said I love to be loved like that he has given me the silent treatment and said he wants to be left alone, and I've hurt him by my comment I said I didn't mean anything by it.

Isn’t it the other way round- the DH is “upset” that OP wouldn’t wait 400 years for him?

As a one off? Don’t be ridiculous.

How very odd.

The OP has basically said her DH doesn’t love her enough

Silent treatment - Abusive.

Pass him the Maltesers and tell him, "Cheer up, it might never happen!"

He sounds a bit miserable and childish. He could have taken your initial comment as a way to riff on the romance between you instead of getting in a huff about the idea.

But I can sort of see your DP's point of view when you commented later. I think I would find it a bit tactless if my DH suggested a relationship on TV was preferable to his relationship with me, which does seem to be what you're saying. I understand that it's a fictional story and a scenario that isn't possible, but it's still not a particularly great thing to say to him, especially given he didn't get into the spirit of it with your first comments about it.

Are you 15 because you sound childish and babyish. I’m not surprised he’s gone in a huff you basically implied he doesn’t love you enough.

Tbf you are picking a fight over nothing. You made a comment, he made a throwaway joke and now you are taking it as a personal affront and blaming him for not loving you like a fictional character.

I am assuming you have been drinking or are very young.

Except for sounding like a particularly passive-aggressive five-year-old, nothing at all.

They both sound as immature as each other, with a particularly poor communication style on both sides.

What on earth . I take it you understand the hardship of being a vampire? the constant stress and inconvenience of direct sunlight is draining. You are sucking any enjoyment out of life with this argument. Absolute batshit

All sounds very hard work
there is a difference the 400 year thing isn’t realistic
but starting any Interaction with “somebody “ is a passive aggressive dig as you obviously mean him but use the term somebody

With this context? Rubbish and proof people go straight to criticising the dh

I think your comment does sound like you were telling your DH that his love for you is inadequate, tbh. Have you had that sort of conversation before?

Grow up the pair of you. Sound just as bad as each other.

I had an ex like you. If I wrote down the words he said or try to tell anyone who didn't know him it would look innocent. But I knew he was trying to undermine me or upset me.

Sounds like you're passive aggressively having a dig at him and he knows it. You're now pleading innocence and you "didn't mean anything by it".

This! You both sound ridiculous, real love isnt like Hollywood movies but hes over reacting to a throwaway comment also.

I love that film! It’s probably my favourite.
However - and I actually mean this - you would NOT want someone loving you like that. The count doesn’t just “wait” to meet his fiancée again. He plots it and in modern parlance STALKS her reincarnated self (or he assumes it’s that) across oceans of time. Yes that line is the best but in real life.. I’d fucking run 400 years to escape that obsessive weirdo ! And now I’ve possibly ruined my own favourite film.

So he can say stupid shit about giving up after a year, but you can't say it would be nice to have a man wait for you? Did he worry about upsetting you? Thought not!
He's feeling sensitive because he knows he's not ,asking as much effort as he could and so he's deflecting and turning it into your fault, rather than owning it!

So you said it was romantic and he said he would have given up after a year of waiting. Then you said you’d like to be loved like in the film, and now he’s sulking like a child.

Sounds like he can dish it out but not take it. He made a bit of a snarky joke and is stroppy about you making one back. Yep, man child.

I don’t see how the op has done anything wrong here.

To be fair you're saying how he loves you isn't what you want. It was tactless. I can see why, if he is feeling sensitive it might be hurtful. The silent treatment is childish and I don't understand why you couldn't just have a conversation about it.

Both of you ABU

I don't know your relationship, so maybe he is being over sensitive, but I can absolutely see how your comment came across as a dig that he didn't love you enough.

Imagine he was watching a film about a woman who was madly in love with a male character and he said "I wish I was loved like that".

You both sound ‘babyish’ tbh

I can't see what you said wrong unless he knows he isn't treating you as well as he should and took it personally. I'd ignore him, he's being daft offending his own self.