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I've upset DH

35 replies

Charboo · 21/04/2026 22:27

I've upset my DH tonight and he said what I said was hurtful. It's silly really but I find it babyish how he is acting. I watched the film Dracula love tale and I loved it I told him how romantic it was waiting 400 years to see him wife again just messing about which he replied with I would of given up after a year which I just shrugged off as a joke, but then while I was watching the movie I said I love to be loved like that he has given me the silent treatment and said he wants to be left alone, and I've hurt him by my comment I said I didn't mean anything by it.

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Happytaytos · 21/04/2026 22:28

What?

ParisIsMyGirlCrush · 21/04/2026 22:29

Man child

AlmostAJillSandwich · 21/04/2026 22:29

He's being very dramatic over nothing.
You've neither said nor done anything wrong.

CoastalCalm · 21/04/2026 22:30

Have you been drinking ? Pair of you sound ridiculous tbh

PoppinjayPolly · 21/04/2026 22:30

Are you watching with wine?🍷

MousseMousse · 21/04/2026 22:30

He's sulking because he doesn't love you like that?

That's a him problem.

Smartiepants79 · 21/04/2026 22:33

Eh?
Is he suggesting that you are making a dig at him and questioning how much he loves you?
All sounds petty and childish on both sides.

Original poster
Charboo · 21/04/2026 22:34

Smartiepants79 · 21/04/2026 22:33

Eh?
Is he suggesting that you are making a dig at him and questioning how much he loves you?
All sounds petty and childish on both sides.

I think he does think that but it's not the case.

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Missj25 · 21/04/2026 22:35

CoastalCalm · 21/04/2026 22:30

Have you been drinking ? Pair of you sound ridiculous tbh

🤣 🤣

InterestedDad37 · 21/04/2026 22:35

Hold up a bunch of garlic or a crucifix, and see if there's any reaction 😉 🧛

TomatoSandwiches · 21/04/2026 22:38

I can't see what you said wrong unless he knows he isn't treating you as well as he should and took it personally. I'd ignore him, he's being daft offending his own self.

bumptybum · 21/04/2026 22:42

You both sound ‘babyish’ tbh

redskyAtNigh · 21/04/2026 22:47

I don't know your relationship, so maybe he is being over sensitive, but I can absolutely see how your comment came across as a dig that he didn't love you enough.

Imagine he was watching a film about a woman who was madly in love with a male character and he said "I wish I was loved like that".

Toiletbrushanswer · 21/04/2026 22:50

To be fair you're saying how he loves you isn't what you want. It was tactless. I can see why, if he is feeling sensitive it might be hurtful. The silent treatment is childish and I don't understand why you couldn't just have a conversation about it.

Both of you ABU

Neemon · 21/04/2026 22:54

I don’t see how the op has done anything wrong here.

Shitmonger · 21/04/2026 23:10

So you said it was romantic and he said he would have given up after a year of waiting. Then you said you’d like to be loved like in the film, and now he’s sulking like a child.

Sounds like he can dish it out but not take it. He made a bit of a snarky joke and is stroppy about you making one back. Yep, man child.

Aiming4Optimistic · 21/04/2026 23:16

So he can say stupid shit about giving up after a year, but you can't say it would be nice to have a man wait for you? Did he worry about upsetting you? Thought not!
He's feeling sensitive because he knows he's not ,asking as much effort as he could and so he's deflecting and turning it into your fault, rather than owning it!

Freddiesfortune · 22/04/2026 00:05

I love that film! It’s probably my favourite.
However - and I actually mean this - you would NOT want someone loving you like that. The count doesn’t just “wait” to meet his fiancée again. He plots it and in modern parlance STALKS her reincarnated self (or he assumes it’s that) across oceans of time. Yes that line is the best but in real life.. I’d fucking run 400 years to escape that obsessive weirdo ! And now I’ve possibly ruined my own favourite film.

mamajong · 22/04/2026 00:15

bumptybum · 21/04/2026 22:42

You both sound ‘babyish’ tbh

This! You both sound ridiculous, real love isnt like Hollywood movies but hes over reacting to a throwaway comment also.

Noshadelamp · 22/04/2026 00:22

I had an ex like you. If I wrote down the words he said or try to tell anyone who didn't know him it would look innocent. But I knew he was trying to undermine me or upset me.

Sounds like you're passive aggressively having a dig at him and he knows it. You're now pleading innocence and you "didn't mean anything by it".

Manicmondayss · 22/04/2026 00:25

Grow up the pair of you. Sound just as bad as each other.

Lougle · 22/04/2026 00:28

I think your comment does sound like you were telling your DH that his love for you is inadequate, tbh. Have you had that sort of conversation before?

VividPinkTraybake · 22/04/2026 00:38

ParisIsMyGirlCrush · 21/04/2026 22:29

Man child

With this context? Rubbish and proof people go straight to criticising the dh

rwalker · 22/04/2026 01:44

All sounds very hard work
there is a difference the 400 year thing isn’t realistic
but starting any Interaction with “somebody “ is a passive aggressive dig as you obviously mean him but use the term somebody

ShakyBake · 22/04/2026 01:53

What on earth . I take it you understand the hardship of being a vampire? the constant stress and inconvenience of direct sunlight is draining. You are sucking any enjoyment out of life with this argument. Absolute batshit