Dh getting up and walking off mid conversation

[Pizzaandpasta101]

I want to know if this is really rude or if I’m just being precious.

Dh has a habit of getting up and just walking off in the middle of a conversation.

So for example earlier today (but this happens on a regular basis), we were speaking about something that had happened with one of our dc at the weekend. It was only a short conversation for like 5 minutes, not like we’d been going on for hours. The conversation hadn’t reached a natural end and I was in the middle of saying something and dh just got up and walked off to do something else.

He does this all the time. It’s not even like he says “hold that thought I’m just going to do xxx”. He literally just walks off.

To be honest I didn’t marry him for his riveting conversation. He’s definitely a man of few words and he’s like that with everyone. He’s just not a talker. He takes several minutes to even respond half the time and he says he’s ‘thinking’.

But aibu to think it’s just plain rude?

Walking off mid-conversation would make me not want to chat with my husband, I think it is pretty rude. Although your husband does sound like a good person in other ways.

My ex husband used to fall asleep all the time while we were having a conversation. I'm an introvert and not the most chatty person. I got too hurt by it and it was one of the (many) reasons I decided to end the relationship. He stopped working as soon as he moved into my house and was also writing to other women complaining about me and organising to meet up with them, when I'd just had my second child.

No.
Other reasons. He has poor social skills.socially inept.
He works alone which suits him. No chatting.
I doubt he is deliberately being rude.
There is no comparing him to their DH. He has no skills.

I read your title as “wanking off” and now I’m disappointed 😂😂😂

I’m afraid I do this to my dh he goes on and on talking rubbish sometimes I just have to remove myself - sometimes when I come back into the room he starts up again from where I left him!

Thank you for actually asking questions unlike all the people here calling another human rude and stupid.on the basis of half a report.

OK, it seems like he doesn't know how to deal with confrontation, and it's likely ingrained and possibly due to nd, and learned behavior, let it go in the moment and pick it up later acknowledging that he finds it difficult to have confrontation possibly due to rsd, good luck.

I’d do two things. Firstly I’d walk off when he’s telling you something and see how he responds. If he responds angrily/ frustrated then he knows it’s unreasonable and he doesn’t care unless it’s happening to him.
Secondly I’d say (at an unrelated time) it upsets me of you walk off mid conversation please can you either wait until I’ve finished or say if your ready to stop talking.

this sounds very autistic. My husband was the same. Very quiet, seemingly non emotional, struggled with empathy even with his children. He can manage social interactions for work but that’s about it. He struggles to listen to conversations and will walk away mid sentence. I used to get really upset but weirdly now I understand him better it doesn’t bother me.

He really struggled with the noise and chaos of children. We lived separately while they grew up! He has a good relationship though with his now adult children but it’s not a neurotypical relationship. He’s very dependable, never lies, is funny, great with money to an extreme degree (doesn’t buy annythibg he doesn’t see as necessary and there’s a lot he doesn’t think is necessary) I saw the Chris Packham documentary which really helped me understand him better and how they cope with it as a family. It’s a difficult one though.

Why don't you just give him a taste of his own medicine and do exactly what he does to you, when he's in the middle of a conversation