Things that are supposed to be enjoyable but aren't in reality

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Here's my list:

Holidays with the family (kids under the age of 6.) Too expensive, the kids are always tired/vomiting/over-stimulated. Travelling is a fucking nightmare. There's at least two arguments with your partner. And you (being the woman) end up doing all the prep for about three weeks beforehand. When you come back it takes at least a week for you to get through all the washing. And you're exhausted.

Being on the beach. It's actually a bit shit all round. Sand everywhere. People get too hot and uncomfortable. Sand in the food. Warm drinks that have been left out in the sun. The kids end up with sand in their eyes and so do you. It's always really windy and the sea is miles out which means you have to walk for ages to get there. Someone gets bitten/cut by a rock/sunburnt/swallows loads of sea water and you give up and leave after about 2 hours of drama.

Eating out. Too expensive, better quality of cooking at home with fresh ingredients.

Paris. Dirty, smelly, you're followed everywhere by sleazy men trying to sell you stuff or pickpocket you. Everyone's really fucking rude as well

Having sex. It's a bit touch and go, most of the time it's slightly boring, the bloke normally orgasms before you and the people you really fancy - when you end up shagging it turns out to be rubbish after all that build up. Or they ooze sex appeal and charisma but they do something to give you the serious ick and your vagina slams shut.

Hen do's - end of.

A spa day would be a nightmare for me. Ditto haircut. Expensive. Boring. Strangers invading your personal space. The terrible cliche that as we are women we are supposed to enjoy it otherwise we’re not real women.

Ballet. Boring. Expensive. You don’t know what’s going on without spending a small fortune on the program. Full of pretentious prats. Ditto opera. Love good quality theatre though.

Generally just getting out of bed, is overrated. Being In bed is amazing, and cosy. Warm and stress-free. So anything after getting out of bed can be overrated.

This thread has made me feel a lot less alone about my current lack of interest in sex. I know it’s my age, but also my stage in life in general. I’ve had a fair amount of it, I’m no longer motivated by it at all.

Men.

I don’t like it either - it does absolutely nothing for me. And it makes me a bit uncomfortable having my genitals that close to someone’s face or in their mouth. Giving it is horrible for me too and I have to be either drunk or very in the mood to do so, which is rare but I do it anyway as DH enjoys it.

Fish and chips.

" Funerals."

They're not supposed to be fun, are they.

OP, pretty much all of yours (apart from the holidaying with children - we have a highly challenging autistic son to add into the mix but that does mean our bar for having grown up time, enjoying cultural stuff, etc is always very low, so when we actually manage something it feels great! I do wish I'd travelled more before having kids though, because there's so much we can't do now.

I'd add having any sort of 'pampering', including facials and haircuts. Loathe it all. And being a woman I'm expected to break out the tinkly laugh and the prosecco, but the very idea of a spa day fills me with utter dread,

Christmas, most of it, isn't remotely enjoyable and I still fall for the myth that it should be, it's just I'm doing it wrong.

Sex, sadly. Blame my shitty libido.

Parties. Really not my happy place.

Hot beaches, nah. The only point of being on a hot beach is that you get to swim in the lovely, lovely sea. Sunbathing can fuck off. Sand on my wet skin can fuck off. Trying to read a book in the glare of the sun, even under a parasol and with sunglasses on, can fuck off. Chasing DS down the beach when he decides to bolt can REALLY fuck off! But I do love a colder beach. An interesting one in the UK, preferably with not too many people. Pebbles to sift through, fossils and beach pottery to look for, the promise of a hot coffee in a beachfront cafe, INDOORS, to look forward to.

School quiz nights/school plays/concerts ... hang on, none of that stuff is MEANT to be fun, is it?

Parties. Socialising. Seeing your friends more than one at a time. Weddings.

Children? (Ducks for cover...)

• Parties
• Having friends generally - it’s just hassle and more people to consider
• Holidays

Wedding receptions, even where there’s a book running on speech length. The ceremony is nice, especially if they picked nice songs/poems, but the reception is tedious and I’m too tired to want to stick around the evening do for more than an hour.

Going to the pub of an evening. It’s too noisy, crowded, etc.

Most alcoholic drinks - taste isn’t great and the next day you feel rough.

Supermarkets - weird retail prisons where you can’t find anything and the try and trap you there unless you can scan a receipt.

Skiing - too cold, equipment is restrictive and bulky, chair lifts are scary, and I’d rather be in a cafe with hot chocolate and reading a book.

Any work team building exercise or business development event - even if planned to be fun/do an interesting activity. No enforced socialisation is fun, and I don’t want to spend my free time with colleagues.

Yes! And the bonus of not having to pay the licence fee. T v is 99% insulting crap

I kind of agree, but I also think that's a sign of depression.

They can be!

"Going to the pub of an evening. It’s too noisy, crowded, etc."

Try a week night.

Well I have found some of them interesting and not too sad, but 'fun' is overegging it a bit.
It's also nice to see family, etc.

Why are you lying to yourself 😆

I think funerals should be an opportunity to celebrate the life of a person rather than mourn their loss. At my funeral I want people to remember what kind of person I was and my humour, and use that to put a positive spin on the fact that I lived. It would give much more closure than people staring at a coffin and crying!

I agree with hot tubs....people soup🤢🤢
also the hairdressers. I wear glasses, so obviously take them off when getting my hair done. The thing is, weirdly, I can't hear properly if I dont have my glasses on!!

Possibly! OR just being a misanthrope. And when I decide people might be ok after all, I get disappointed again. Animals though - are rarely disappointing.

My city has a Winter Wonderland that takes up the whole square plus a couple of adajcent streets from early November to the end of December so around 8 weeks of overpriced food, overprices rides and overpriced tat. The local news website runs about 20 stories about it from construction through to dismantling They do features on the food, the crowds, the rides and anything else they can think of. A month would be plenty long enough to have this thing in town

Marriage
Fireworks
Comedy
Opera
TV
Phone conversations
Pubs
Ice skating

Sport, having to watch any kind of sport. Utterly pointless, especially football.
Most T V these days, don't have one any more.
Musicals. Watching them burst into song makes me cringe.
Pop music, pop concerts and festivals.I just don't like pop music
BBQs - smell of burnt meat makes me want to chuck.
Christmas - am an atheist, don't eat meat, hate dried fruit, shops full of crap and lousy weather.
Pubs-mostly full of noisy men, loud sport on t vs or horrible music, nasty beer smells and nowhere comfortable to sit.
Picnics. Wasps, dog poo and dog pee all over the grass, sweaty bad food.

See my PP. I have made excuses in not attending. It's the dressy dresses and the shoes. I can't wear high heels, backless shoes, open toed. I wore ballet pumps and got looks from guests I don't know who they were and how do they know the bride and groom

Fair enough, but you can check if you decide to go for it.