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Having ‘a cuppa’

524 replies

ConstantlyFuriosa · 19/04/2026 10:49

Why does this sentence infuriate me so? I already know I’m probably being unreasonable but it’s so grating. I can’t be the only one?

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Nodirectionhome · 19/04/2026 16:01

CurlewKate · 19/04/2026 11:01

Hate it. Also “a tea”.

Yes I hate "a tea". No idea why. "A coffee" is fine; but it has to be "a cuppa/cup of tea" or even "mug of tea".

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 19/04/2026 16:08

PinoirNot · 19/04/2026 15:15

Yes!

I had to stop reading anything Martin Lewis wrote because of his infuriating way of shortening everything and chocs just makes me think of him. Choccy is even worse and it just makes people look so thick.

My colleague calls a spreadsheet a “spready” and it makes me murderous.

Auroraloves · 19/04/2026 16:12

I don’t mind it. There’s plenty that get on my nerves though

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 16:19

Surely 'a tea' is to differentiate from appearing to offer someone food?

Pieceofpurplesky · 19/04/2026 16:24

I don't drink tea or coffee so it doubly pisses me off. See also 'fancy a brew'

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 16:28

cardibach · 19/04/2026 15:44

I do thanks. It’s about shortened, slang or dialect words which are annoying. Initially one specific one. The OP wondered whether she was unreasonable finding it infuriating. People said either yes or no and suggested other similar words. You suggested a perfectly useful standard English word and I said you were unreasonable to be infuriated by it because it was so obviously useful. Why so rude?

Rude 😂

henlake7 · 19/04/2026 16:37

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:53

Cuppa is not cutesified. It's existed for years. The cutesified stuff (like holibobs) comes largely from online trends.

All that means is that we having been doing it for years!😄
I come from the SE and every night as a 'saucepan lid' was sent 'up the apples and pears to Bedfordshire!' so I feel like cutesifying is a pretty ingrained habit in this country.

mamaduckbone · 19/04/2026 16:38

My Dh loathes it…I try to remember this and not say it but sometimes it just slips out!🙊

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:49

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:33

I remember being really genuinely startled when I came to England that people had things other than fish and chips ( and deep fried Mars Bars) from a chip shop.

where did you come to England from?

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 16:50

SALaw · 19/04/2026 15:18

But “fish and chips”, “sausage and chips” etc is a specific order? So “takeaway fish, sausage, scampi, haggis, pizza, black pudding, white pudding or pie and chips”?

I don't understand why that's complicated.

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:51

Yellowpapersun · 19/04/2026 15:39

You have missed the point of the thread.

Em I don’t think I have? It’s about annoying abbreviations of words, that people find twee or childish. “Individual pie” is just a description.

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:52

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:39

Couldn't edit this - I meant Fish Supper.

DH insists this should come with a cuppa and sliced white bread.

I was wondering what you were on about with “chip supper” right enough. But “fish supper” isn’t the only thing available from the chippy so isn’t the equivalent of saying “chippy tea”?

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:55

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 15:51

Yes, I am! To be fair, I grew up in a dry district - so no pubs and no chip shops for miles. But if someone said they were going to a chip shop they were 'away for a Fish Supper.'

I think the burgers and stuff are quite new to chip shops, no?

There were also had a lot of Chinese Chippies on the south side of Glasgow (I wasn't south but my best friend was). That was just for chips.

I have indeed had a deep fried Mars Bar. Think they were invented on the Byres Road. Do Not Recommend.

Well I’m 47 and every chippy in sticks of Scotland I grew up in had a menu with a choice of items.

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 16:56

I guess so but chippy tea is really quite region specific, I think.

I would never have got anything except fish and chips so it was always for everyone a fish supper, specifically on a Friday.

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 16:57

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:55

Well I’m 47 and every chippy in sticks of Scotland I grew up in had a menu with a choice of items.

Did you not have a fish supper then?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 19/04/2026 16:58

Not as bad as a post recently which used the word ‘smallies’ to describe children 🤮🤮🤮🤮

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:59

PuzzlesintheMorning · 19/04/2026 16:50

I don't understand why that's complicated.

Because if I say to my family “don’t fancy takeaway fish and chips?” the answers will be “no I want takeaway sausage and chips”, “no I want takeaway haggis and chips” and “no I want takeaway burger and chips”. Whereas if I say “do you want a chippy tea?” they will all say yes and give me their order? What don’t you understand?

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:59

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 16:57

Did you not have a fish supper then?

Yes but other people had eg haggis supper.

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 17:00

SALaw · 19/04/2026 16:49

where did you come to England from?

Many many places! But mainly West Glasgow. Then I was in York where again the norm was always fish ( haddock mainly). Then I moved more south ( Notts) and people were having saveloy and pies and gravy and mushy peas.
And kebabs.

SALaw · 19/04/2026 17:00

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 16:56

I guess so but chippy tea is really quite region specific, I think.

I would never have got anything except fish and chips so it was always for everyone a fish supper, specifically on a Friday.

Chippies in your region only sell fish?! They don’t have a big menu?!

SALaw · 19/04/2026 17:01

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 17:00

Many many places! But mainly West Glasgow. Then I was in York where again the norm was always fish ( haddock mainly). Then I moved more south ( Notts) and people were having saveloy and pies and gravy and mushy peas.
And kebabs.

Edited

Well as I say chippies in the 80s in sticks Scotland where I grew up had a varied menu. Well varied to the extent that it was all deep fried and served with chips, obviously.

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 17:02

No, I just meant that the phrase chippy tea isn't used everywhere.

Piggywaspushed · 19/04/2026 17:03

Us Scots will start discussing pokes next!

Hernameisdeborah · 19/04/2026 17:06

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 19/04/2026 16:58

Not as bad as a post recently which used the word ‘smallies’ to describe children 🤮🤮🤮🤮

🤮🤮🤮🤮

ACIGC · 19/04/2026 17:07

SadBoys · 19/04/2026 11:42

If I had to choose, I’d take ‘cuppa’ over ‘brew’, but I irrationally dislike both, I think because of unpleasant associations with UK soap operas.

I think I became infected by "brew" when I went to Uni in the northwest.